First, I'm really not sure how or where to begin with this. Let me just say I want to get some thoughts down and see if anyone might want to read these ramblings.
I want to thank everyone onsite for their support. It's been a big motivator and has helped me keep up with my training.
For those who don't yet know me, I'm Kent. I'm in my "middle adulthood" so yep, I'm getting up there in years. I feel this might be the mid-life crisis that I've heard lots of people talk about. I retired a short time ago after having spent many years in the business world. I have to say I thought retiring would bug me and it did a bit at first, but now I'm coming to terms with it.
I've been divorced for about three years now and am starting to get over that loss. I think I blame myself because I was always working and driven to be the best in my field. I still love my ex and always will. It's just that over time after our kids grew older and went off to college, we started drifting apart and became strangers to one another.
It wasn't always like that. We first met back in college and immediately fell head over heels for one another. We always spent lots of time together and you guessed it, everyone said we should tie the knot. I opted to wait until we both graduated and got our feet on the ground and Val - my ex - agreed.
Val was always a good balance for me. I've always been very rigid and goal driven in my thinking. She was a free spirit and could always roll with the punches. She could always see different sides of any issue and give me the pros and cons of each. She could also always do things on the spot. I loved her spontaneity as I am the exact opposite. I'm a planner to the nth degree. It takes me months to make decisions because I always have to try to see all possible pitfalls and do my best to mitigate them. One of my favorite things about Val was her ability to tell me to 'just make a decision - we can deal with the results later'.
In any event, we eventually grew apart and decided it was best to separate. It wasn't an easy time for either of us. Our careers were both going well, the kids were good, we just couldn't see eye to eye anymore. We went through marriage counselling and after working with us to help settle our differences, the counsellor finally told us we needed to make a decision about the relationship. I went back and forth as usual and Val pragmatically as always said, "While we have some good things in the relationship, we're getting to a point where we just aren't the same people we used to be. I can't live by plans that can't adjust for the unexpected things that always come in life. I love you deeply, but for our mutual benefit, I really think it's time we separate."
While I was devastated, I had to agree with her and we did split up. Thankfully, we are still very close and have a good relationship, we just can't be together anymore.
That took some time getting used to. I began filling my time with various activities, volunteering and sports. I also became more seriously involved in my comic book collection. Yes, I'm a true NERD and have been into collecting since I was 12 years old. I currently have about 4,500 comics in my collection. Mostly DC and silver bronze age books. More on that later.
Additionally, I got more seriously involved in my weight training/bodybuilding. I've been working out since high school and really got into the sport during college. I'm not a pro, but have always had good genetics for building muscle. During the break up, I really got more serious about training. I spend a good deal of time in the gym trying to keep fit and keeping myself busy. I enjoy the work outs and the friendships I've developed. I also enjoy trying to help show other people the benefits of this lifestyle.
Well, that's a good start for now. Feel free to let me know if you think this is anything people might want to read or keep up with. Thanks much!!
I want to thank everyone onsite for their support. It's been a big motivator and has helped me keep up with my training.
For those who don't yet know me, I'm Kent. I'm in my "middle adulthood" so yep, I'm getting up there in years. I feel this might be the mid-life crisis that I've heard lots of people talk about. I retired a short time ago after having spent many years in the business world. I have to say I thought retiring would bug me and it did a bit at first, but now I'm coming to terms with it.
I've been divorced for about three years now and am starting to get over that loss. I think I blame myself because I was always working and driven to be the best in my field. I still love my ex and always will. It's just that over time after our kids grew older and went off to college, we started drifting apart and became strangers to one another.
It wasn't always like that. We first met back in college and immediately fell head over heels for one another. We always spent lots of time together and you guessed it, everyone said we should tie the knot. I opted to wait until we both graduated and got our feet on the ground and Val - my ex - agreed.
Val was always a good balance for me. I've always been very rigid and goal driven in my thinking. She was a free spirit and could always roll with the punches. She could always see different sides of any issue and give me the pros and cons of each. She could also always do things on the spot. I loved her spontaneity as I am the exact opposite. I'm a planner to the nth degree. It takes me months to make decisions because I always have to try to see all possible pitfalls and do my best to mitigate them. One of my favorite things about Val was her ability to tell me to 'just make a decision - we can deal with the results later'.
In any event, we eventually grew apart and decided it was best to separate. It wasn't an easy time for either of us. Our careers were both going well, the kids were good, we just couldn't see eye to eye anymore. We went through marriage counselling and after working with us to help settle our differences, the counsellor finally told us we needed to make a decision about the relationship. I went back and forth as usual and Val pragmatically as always said, "While we have some good things in the relationship, we're getting to a point where we just aren't the same people we used to be. I can't live by plans that can't adjust for the unexpected things that always come in life. I love you deeply, but for our mutual benefit, I really think it's time we separate."
While I was devastated, I had to agree with her and we did split up. Thankfully, we are still very close and have a good relationship, we just can't be together anymore.
That took some time getting used to. I began filling my time with various activities, volunteering and sports. I also became more seriously involved in my comic book collection. Yes, I'm a true NERD and have been into collecting since I was 12 years old. I currently have about 4,500 comics in my collection. Mostly DC and silver bronze age books. More on that later.
Additionally, I got more seriously involved in my weight training/bodybuilding. I've been working out since high school and really got into the sport during college. I'm not a pro, but have always had good genetics for building muscle. During the break up, I really got more serious about training. I spend a good deal of time in the gym trying to keep fit and keeping myself busy. I enjoy the work outs and the friendships I've developed. I also enjoy trying to help show other people the benefits of this lifestyle.
Well, that's a good start for now. Feel free to let me know if you think this is anything people might want to read or keep up with. Thanks much!!
