Today is my two-year wedding anniversary with ArtfulDominant, who I met on this site in December 2006, when I had the username Chrysalis.
We visited each other a couple of times in the spring of 2007, and I moved to Canada to be with him in May of 2007. I have now been in Canada, living with AD, for over three years.
I cannot say enough good things about our relationship! We have had total openness and honesty from the very beginning, and we are both strong enough to take it. We are both good communicators and forgiving, understanding people.
And when our initial idea of having a full-time Master/slave relationship didn't work out, we transitioned to a more "vanilla" relationship without losing our essential spark.
However, I think this relationship is the only thing in our lives that is going well right now.
Due to a number of factors (long, uninteresting story), I still don't have permanent residency status in Canada and still can't work here. AD is self-employed, and financially it is truly feast or famine. It has been a real struggle without me able to work, and it will be a long time before I am allowed to. I won't bore you with the details as to why.
To top it all off, yesterday we got a notice that his ex-wife is suing for a lump-sum payment that AD truly does owe her, but truly doesn't have. Happy anniversary. They want all the money by the end of the day Friday (two days from now) and we only got the letter yesterday. Obviously, they aren't going to get it. AD is in touch with a lawyer to see if they will accept some now and more later...what a mess.
AD was up in the middle of the night last night due to stress; I take Seroquel so I always sleep no matter what, but we were stressed yesterday evening and are stressed today.
We gave each other cards this morning, and had breakfast together; now he is working and waiting for the lawyer to call back. Damn this situation for fucking with my anniversary! I wanted to have a nice, leisurely play and sex session with AD tonight, and I honestly don't know if either of us will be able to pull it off.
We have had a lot of stress in our lives, and at times it has affected our sex life. I told him yesterday I want our sex life to be an island of sharing and love...something completely separate from all of the bullshit life throws at us. It remains to be seen whether we both have the psychological strength to set our stresses aside and truly enjoy each other.
I'm trying not to sound like a complainer, or a victim. We truly are doing everything we can to improve our situation in life, on all fronts.
But if our finances do not get better fairly soon, I am going to have to consider going back to the U.S. to work, and I am terrified at the idea of being separated from AD!!!
Sad. Terrified. But still madly in love.
This is how we find ourselves on our second anniversary.
We visited each other a couple of times in the spring of 2007, and I moved to Canada to be with him in May of 2007. I have now been in Canada, living with AD, for over three years.
I cannot say enough good things about our relationship! We have had total openness and honesty from the very beginning, and we are both strong enough to take it. We are both good communicators and forgiving, understanding people.
And when our initial idea of having a full-time Master/slave relationship didn't work out, we transitioned to a more "vanilla" relationship without losing our essential spark.
However, I think this relationship is the only thing in our lives that is going well right now.
Due to a number of factors (long, uninteresting story), I still don't have permanent residency status in Canada and still can't work here. AD is self-employed, and financially it is truly feast or famine. It has been a real struggle without me able to work, and it will be a long time before I am allowed to. I won't bore you with the details as to why.
To top it all off, yesterday we got a notice that his ex-wife is suing for a lump-sum payment that AD truly does owe her, but truly doesn't have. Happy anniversary. They want all the money by the end of the day Friday (two days from now) and we only got the letter yesterday. Obviously, they aren't going to get it. AD is in touch with a lawyer to see if they will accept some now and more later...what a mess.
AD was up in the middle of the night last night due to stress; I take Seroquel so I always sleep no matter what, but we were stressed yesterday evening and are stressed today.
We gave each other cards this morning, and had breakfast together; now he is working and waiting for the lawyer to call back. Damn this situation for fucking with my anniversary! I wanted to have a nice, leisurely play and sex session with AD tonight, and I honestly don't know if either of us will be able to pull it off.
We have had a lot of stress in our lives, and at times it has affected our sex life. I told him yesterday I want our sex life to be an island of sharing and love...something completely separate from all of the bullshit life throws at us. It remains to be seen whether we both have the psychological strength to set our stresses aside and truly enjoy each other.
I'm trying not to sound like a complainer, or a victim. We truly are doing everything we can to improve our situation in life, on all fronts.
But if our finances do not get better fairly soon, I am going to have to consider going back to the U.S. to work, and I am terrified at the idea of being separated from AD!!!
Sad. Terrified. But still madly in love.
This is how we find ourselves on our second anniversary.
