Hey fellas. So yeah -- I get asked all the time for tips, so below are mine.
They are by no means *everything* but it's good start.
And feel free to add anything in the comments, too. SLURP!
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10 COCKSUCKING AND DEEPTHROATING TIPS — FROM HOTTHROATLA
1) YOUR TOP'S NEEDS: Before you do anything, ask your top what he likes the most: deepthroat, more attention to the head, using a hand too. Not every guy expects or wants a deepthroating, so find out for sure how he likes it or wants it. ALSO, tell him to instruct you to change something, or improve something, if it’s not feeling right for him. Also, uncut guys have a different sensation in their cocks, so ask ahead what he enjoys or feels best.
2) COCK CURVATURE: Before you start sucking, assess the curve of his cock: downward, upward, or straight. Because this should determine how you face him to suck. What you want his cock to achieve is a downward curve into your throat. So if he curves down, face him directly and best kneeling or below him so you’re not too high up. If he curves up, get into more of a 69 position. And if he’s straight, you can do either of these. Same thing if he has a left or right curve, you’ll want your mouth facing whichever way creates a downward curve. NOTE: a cock can be sucked any which way, but achieving that downward curve makes it easier on you.
3) GAG REFLEX & BREATHING: As you start sucking, slowly go down on his dick and assess how far you can go before you hit your gag reflex. And when you DO hit your gag, pull back immediately, relax your throat, and try to control your gag. It really just takes practice to be able to relax your throat and not panic about gagging — because the panic can actually make you gag more. Seriously, practice on a dildo or even a banana so you know what your best technique can be so you’re not gagging. You also have to practice breathing through your nose while sucking.
4) PUKING & CRYING: It’s very important that if you do gag, and if it actually makes you puke up: pull back immediately, again, and do not allow the puke to spew out or on his cock. Sure, it happens. But you gotta contain it in your mouth. Also, always have Kleenex nearby, for just this occurrence and because you will inevitably have to stop and blow your nose (anything touching the back of your throat reflexively makes your eyes water and your nose run. It’s all normal).
5) GIRTH & THICKNESS: Assess his girth too. Girth can actually hinder being able to suck deep, because your mouth can only fit something so wide in it. And there will inevitably be teeth scraping. If he is super thick, ask him if it’s feeling OK and that you’re not scraping, or have him tell you right away if you are. If that’s the case, just do your best to suck as comfortably as possible, and pay more attention to his head and top of his dick with your hand and tongue.
6) TONGUE ACTION: Regardless of how deep you suck, use your tongue! It should be moving side to side or swirling as you go up and down, and especially when you’re sucking closer to the head. If you can suck him deep to his balls comfortably, stick your tongue out at the base to lick the top of his balls as you go down. Your tongue action will provide another layer of stimulation that feels great. Another technique that feels great, I call "the envelope" -- with a closed mouth, just slightly open mouth, or your entire tongue, you glide up and down against his shaft, using your lips and tongue as the stimulation. Thus, the action is like licking across envelope glue before you close it.
7) BALLS: Most guys like attention to their balls. Licking them, or sucking on them, licking under them near his taint. Again, ask what he likes best. Do note that lightly tapping on his shaft where it meets his balls is great stimulation, as is lightly cupping his balls and rubbing them. Some guys might want you to really grab them tight though, so again: ask how he likes action on his balls. Also, see if he enjoys a finger stimulating him near his butthole, and/or wants a finger up there at the same time.
8) NIPPLES: Most guys’ nipples are sensitive and add pleasure to being sucked. Some nipples are hard-wired and make him feel amazing when tweaked. Ask him how sensitive his are, and if he wants stimulation like that. Then also find out how light or hard he enjoys his nipples being pinched or tweaked. Again, have him communicate if he needs you to change something.
9) HAND ACTION: This comes in “handy" if he’s getting close to cumming, or wants to come. Use a combination of your mouth and hand, but just make sure you get some spit on it (or lube) so it’s nice and slick. Always grip tightest on the glans at his head. Or exact same thing if you’re solely using your hand to jack out his load — make sure it is always slick and wet (unless he requests it drier).
10) AND FINALLY, CUMMING: Find out how he likes to cum, and/or what MAKES him cum. With his cock still in your mouth, by using your hand (or a combo), wants to give you a facial, or wants to just blast it on the floor or his chest etc. If a guy DEMANDS you have to swallow his cum, tell him to chill out. I always tell guys, that my comfort level in swallowing a guy depends on how the in-person chemistry feels. Some guys I immediately connect with and want every last drop down my throat, and other guys I just want don’t want any. I consider that normal, but everyone is different. However: you can also take his load in your mouth but not swallow it. It takes some practice to hold it until you can spit it out though. That's also why it's good to have Kleenex right by your side, to discreetly deposit unwanted cum without having to "time out" and walk away to the sink or the toilet.
ADDENDUM: "THE SLOPPY"
This seems to be what all the kids are into now. Or for sure the younger gays. It's when the top just wants tons and tons of spit and saliva spewing out of your mouth, and down the balls etc. with a faster and more ravenous style of slobbering and sucking (usually using your hand with it all). And it gets pretty damn messy. It ain't my personal style, but just know what it's all about.
They are by no means *everything* but it's good start.
And feel free to add anything in the comments, too. SLURP!
_________________________________________________________________
10 COCKSUCKING AND DEEPTHROATING TIPS — FROM HOTTHROATLA
1) YOUR TOP'S NEEDS: Before you do anything, ask your top what he likes the most: deepthroat, more attention to the head, using a hand too. Not every guy expects or wants a deepthroating, so find out for sure how he likes it or wants it. ALSO, tell him to instruct you to change something, or improve something, if it’s not feeling right for him. Also, uncut guys have a different sensation in their cocks, so ask ahead what he enjoys or feels best.
2) COCK CURVATURE: Before you start sucking, assess the curve of his cock: downward, upward, or straight. Because this should determine how you face him to suck. What you want his cock to achieve is a downward curve into your throat. So if he curves down, face him directly and best kneeling or below him so you’re not too high up. If he curves up, get into more of a 69 position. And if he’s straight, you can do either of these. Same thing if he has a left or right curve, you’ll want your mouth facing whichever way creates a downward curve. NOTE: a cock can be sucked any which way, but achieving that downward curve makes it easier on you.
3) GAG REFLEX & BREATHING: As you start sucking, slowly go down on his dick and assess how far you can go before you hit your gag reflex. And when you DO hit your gag, pull back immediately, relax your throat, and try to control your gag. It really just takes practice to be able to relax your throat and not panic about gagging — because the panic can actually make you gag more. Seriously, practice on a dildo or even a banana so you know what your best technique can be so you’re not gagging. You also have to practice breathing through your nose while sucking.
4) PUKING & CRYING: It’s very important that if you do gag, and if it actually makes you puke up: pull back immediately, again, and do not allow the puke to spew out or on his cock. Sure, it happens. But you gotta contain it in your mouth. Also, always have Kleenex nearby, for just this occurrence and because you will inevitably have to stop and blow your nose (anything touching the back of your throat reflexively makes your eyes water and your nose run. It’s all normal).
5) GIRTH & THICKNESS: Assess his girth too. Girth can actually hinder being able to suck deep, because your mouth can only fit something so wide in it. And there will inevitably be teeth scraping. If he is super thick, ask him if it’s feeling OK and that you’re not scraping, or have him tell you right away if you are. If that’s the case, just do your best to suck as comfortably as possible, and pay more attention to his head and top of his dick with your hand and tongue.
6) TONGUE ACTION: Regardless of how deep you suck, use your tongue! It should be moving side to side or swirling as you go up and down, and especially when you’re sucking closer to the head. If you can suck him deep to his balls comfortably, stick your tongue out at the base to lick the top of his balls as you go down. Your tongue action will provide another layer of stimulation that feels great. Another technique that feels great, I call "the envelope" -- with a closed mouth, just slightly open mouth, or your entire tongue, you glide up and down against his shaft, using your lips and tongue as the stimulation. Thus, the action is like licking across envelope glue before you close it.
7) BALLS: Most guys like attention to their balls. Licking them, or sucking on them, licking under them near his taint. Again, ask what he likes best. Do note that lightly tapping on his shaft where it meets his balls is great stimulation, as is lightly cupping his balls and rubbing them. Some guys might want you to really grab them tight though, so again: ask how he likes action on his balls. Also, see if he enjoys a finger stimulating him near his butthole, and/or wants a finger up there at the same time.
8) NIPPLES: Most guys’ nipples are sensitive and add pleasure to being sucked. Some nipples are hard-wired and make him feel amazing when tweaked. Ask him how sensitive his are, and if he wants stimulation like that. Then also find out how light or hard he enjoys his nipples being pinched or tweaked. Again, have him communicate if he needs you to change something.
9) HAND ACTION: This comes in “handy" if he’s getting close to cumming, or wants to come. Use a combination of your mouth and hand, but just make sure you get some spit on it (or lube) so it’s nice and slick. Always grip tightest on the glans at his head. Or exact same thing if you’re solely using your hand to jack out his load — make sure it is always slick and wet (unless he requests it drier).
10) AND FINALLY, CUMMING: Find out how he likes to cum, and/or what MAKES him cum. With his cock still in your mouth, by using your hand (or a combo), wants to give you a facial, or wants to just blast it on the floor or his chest etc. If a guy DEMANDS you have to swallow his cum, tell him to chill out. I always tell guys, that my comfort level in swallowing a guy depends on how the in-person chemistry feels. Some guys I immediately connect with and want every last drop down my throat, and other guys I just want don’t want any. I consider that normal, but everyone is different. However: you can also take his load in your mouth but not swallow it. It takes some practice to hold it until you can spit it out though. That's also why it's good to have Kleenex right by your side, to discreetly deposit unwanted cum without having to "time out" and walk away to the sink or the toilet.
ADDENDUM: "THE SLOPPY"
This seems to be what all the kids are into now. Or for sure the younger gays. It's when the top just wants tons and tons of spit and saliva spewing out of your mouth, and down the balls etc. with a faster and more ravenous style of slobbering and sucking (usually using your hand with it all). And it gets pretty damn messy. It ain't my personal style, but just know what it's all about.
