Growth

My mantra, if it really is one, is "be true to yourself".
Not that it stops the hurt along the way, it's a reminder that do as you will be done by is a pretty good way to get through life.
And yes, days I think I'm worthless, useless and so forth but then it's me that has the standards and a winning day is a day when I throw caution to the wind and work by natural instinct.

I have been through the same for years.
I sew you reached the point where you see you're just human, which is very good.
Then, why do you keep treating yourself so bad?
In my case I am control freak, but I can't control anything. Also, I have been very bad with myself about my own mistakes.
It takes a while to find that balance but you'll reach that point.
Be easy and patient with yourself.
Mood may be affected with so many variables. It's not real to feel and be the same way every day.
But, yes... you'll find a balance and would begin to love yourself.

Your post resonates with my heart on many levels. Thank you, my intellectual friend.
Being human we are innately imperfect in every way. Finding happiness with ourselves is often measured in small victories. Pleasing others is a privilege reserved for special occasions when by our own free will we plunge deeply and purposefully.

chrisrobin said:

My mantra, if it really is one, is "be true to yourself".
Not that it stops the hurt along the way, it's a reminder that do as you will be done by is a pretty good way to get through life.
And yes, days I think I'm worthless, useless and so forth but then it's me that has the standards and a winning day is a day when I throw caution to the wind and work by natural instinct.

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Throwing caution to the wind and going forward is living at it’s highest form imo

SultryMrsT said:

Your post resonates with my heart on many levels. Thank you, my intellectual friend.
Being human we are innately imperfect in every way. Finding happiness with ourselves is often measured in small victories. Pleasing others is a privilege reserved for special occasions when by our own free will we plunge deeply and purposefully.

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Pleasing others is a reserved privilege…oh that’s good. The standard needs to be loving ourselves first & only extended that privilege to select others. Thank you @SultryMrsT this is a good thought process.

Intellectualmeat said:

Pleasing others is a reserved privilege…oh that’s good. The standard needs to be loving ourselves first & only extended that privilege to select others. Thank you @SultryMrsT this is a good thought process.

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Most welcome, Sir

I often have to repeat this mantra to myself: I am worthy, I am enough. When I first heard this in a meditation class, I could feel my emotions well up as I have struggled often with being good enough, doing enough, working hard enough, being a worthy husband, father, and son. It is getting better.