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TheBF wants to have sex with me, bless him, especially since we're supposed to be on a 6 week hiatus from sex after I give birth (!!!!!!), but I've actually reached the point where I feel too pregnant. Seriously, my midsection is uncomfortable all the time.

He tried to convince me to have anal sex with him last night, and I just thought, "Oh, god, I feel like my belly is about to explode..."

Wait a minute. What's wrong with me? I'm going to have regrets, aren't I? I better jump his bones while I still have a chance! No sex for a month and a half! Soon I will be much sorer around my mid-section, and tired from baby, and overwhelmed by family being here, too...

I'm so not ready for guests! I've been sleeping a lot the past three days and really haven't gotten out of bed, ever since I started getting really sick from this cold.

I feel much better now, and now I have to make up for lost time. I've got so little time left before this baby is due and too much to do. :frown1::frown1::frown1:

We aren't going to make to six weeks. I just know it. One of my coaches once told me that the two weeks after she gave birth she was hornier than she ever was in her entire life. If that happens to me, I really should register on some sort of potential sexual predator list or something, because men won't be safe near me, especially not TheBF. :redface:

Tomorrow I have a doctor's appointment and I'm going to ask her if it has to be six weeks, and about anal sex, and using sex toys, too... I think we just might make it if we can have anal sex and I'm allowed to use sex toys.

It's going to be the most awkward conversation ever.

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Pitbull
Who made that 6 week rule????
I never was told that one (Thank God!)
My advice - Listen to your body and not rule making "experts".
And if your body says YES!!!
Go slow at first.
(And remember that you can get pregnant again real quick so caution)

Six weeks sounds like total bullshit to me.
In six weeks time - mice have had sex and given birth.
 
B_Nicodemous
I am familiar with this through my sister's (though they each had their too kids vaginally). From what they say they wanted nothing to do with their respective hubbies for the first few weeks anyways (both had babies who were fussy, so add sleep deprivation, and then just the aftermath of a vaginal birth) I can ask then if they made it the six weeks or not.

I would assume that for a c-section the main concern would be the tearing of the sutures and or any freshly healed together tissue. I am sure you have been instructed to take care not to lift over x pounds and to avoid climbing stairs (most likely for the same reasons)

The other reason for the six week wait 9as I understand it) is due to the fact that you will be uber fertile right after (I almost said you would come into estrus right after! LOL I blame pitbull for that. He mentioned mice and I used to have mice and then rats as pets and bred them so I tend to use the terminology that I used then. What can say, I am a dork :redface:)

You may want to be really careful about that. A pregnancy puts stress on the body (as you can attest) and I don’t know how wise it would be to stress it out so soon after, when it really needs to heal. Maybe that is the main non sexual reason?

That makes me think that they just cut through your uterus to get the tyke, so you really would want that to heal properly before getting preggers again.

Of course the best thing to do is talk to your Dr. Yes the convo will be awkward, but your q's are good! Also remember that people heal at different rates, so you might get the go ahead to have vag sex well before 6 weeks.

You also may not want it for 8 weeks if you get a fussy baby! Lol If you and the BF are past the point of exhaustion tending to a crying newborn, your spirits may be willing but the flesh might want no part of it. This last note was from watching my Sis with her second. Her and my BIL were past the point of exhaustion, to where they were falling asleep doing dishes:eek:

I need to research this. I don't have a ready answer. Info that is unknown to me? Well, we can't abide by that, now can we?
:tongue:
 
P
Pitbull, you are absolutely correct about getting pregnant again. My doc said that the risk was extremely high and it would be dangerous to get pregnant while my uterus was still healing. Not only that, she said it would probably be painful.

I can have anal sex and oral sex. Golly it was awkward when I asked my doctor. Neither of us made eye contact again after I asked her all my sex questions. I love my doctor, but wow it was so uncomfortable... I hope that I can look her in the eye when she's going to do my cesarean.

Nico, people have actually told me that they did not wait to have sex after the cesarean and that they did it anyway, even with the stitches and the infection risks and other potential damage that could be done... not to mention the pregnancy risk, which is very dangerous. I'm not sure what I'll be like. I'm extremely health conscious and risk averse when it comes to my physical safety, but then again, I'm also an incurable horndog who has done many crazy things for the sake of satisfying my lust, so.... Who knows which Miss Petite will win over in the weeks after I give birth? The cautious Miss Goody Two Shoes? Or the nasty Miss Fuck Me Now Goddammit?

At least my doc approved of anal sex. Since discovering the pleasures of anal sex, I've often thought that if I absolutely had to, I could replace vaginal sex with it, but only if I absolutely had to because it requires so much advance planning, time, and preparation.
 
B_Nicodemous
Well...lol...sorry just picturing that convo...lol...sorry! Ah sweetie at least you got some answers. I have been surfing the web and found alot of what you said (well, not the "go and ass fuck" parts, but most of the others) I also decided to ask the lspg members for their experience with the six week wait after a c_section (hope I didn`t over step my bounds, please don`t be too mad if I did) and so far got 2 responses from guys (one whose wife had them, and one whose good friends had them) The info there was that the exhustion of a newborn was the big thing for guy one, and for guy twos friends the hormone change was the deciding factor (hormone drop leaving zero sex drive fore the women) Strangely enough guy one (i am two lazy to check his screen name) said that wife`s horniness returned at about week four, which is when both my sister`s said they got the case of the hornies again lol let us know what your results are. I give you two weeks before you are jumping the BF`s bones, and I factored in exhuation! lol Oooh I should start a pool for that one! that is my offical bet, r two weeks!
 
D_Rosalind Mussell
I waited the 6 weeks, but not because of doctor's orders. I had so little free time during the first 3 months that showers and naps were worth their weight in diamonds. Hubby was working 50 hour work weeks at the time and he wasn't sleeping either (kid didn't sleep through the night for the first 3 months). I had some family help but not enough to get beyond the sleep/food/work routine. I know you aren't ready for guests but you will be grateful when you need a rest. I'm glad you are going to have some help!
 
B_Nicodemous
Lol. I just checked my thread! I guess I didn`t overstep my bounds after all. =) in the event you read this before checking back there: my Sis corrected me. She had sex drive back after week two give or take after baby number one, and by around week three they were seeing how far hubby could get inside. It was baby 2 that her sex drive came back around week 4 and she was so sleep deprived she felll asleep doing dishes and almost drowned. They made it past the six week mark on that one no prob (both waaayyyyy to tired to do anything) She said if you want a good representation of her and her hubby during that time watch the end of Shrek the Third. =) Oh and she says to tell you to watch [he Rugrats Movie for an example of passing out doing dishes. she says and I quote "just tell her to replace Didi with a tiny latina, and she should have it"
 

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