the other week I was chatting to a friend who is a psychotherapist and this friend was telling me about a conference they had attended in Germany.
During the conference my friend had a chat with another psychotherapist and they both said: I've had no discussion about 'sexuality' in my training.
Neither of these men had a unit/seminar/lectures/talks/discussions about 'sexuality' and all its complexities during their training/uni days.
I was horrified. Maybe it is happening now and they don't know or???
I'd struggled with accepting my sexuality for years and yet I find out now in 2022 that at least 2 therapists and successful.. had no Training on this subject/theme.
I'm psychotherapy bashing and I know it.. but HONESTLY? no training... I shake my head...and I know that these are two men that are worlds apart in ages.. one older and one much younger..
But how can this be I asked?
No answer...
So many discussions on this site alone about 'sexuality'..
We might assume we understand sexuality and no need to discuss it AND maybe by talking about/revealing our behaviours the problems with 'sexuality' are solved... and are the problems really to do with 'sexuality' or 'acceptance'?
I'm not sure how to say all this...but if a man, for instance, if married and has children and then finds out he has sexual feelings for other men; what should he do...he might deny these feelings... and then before long he is swamped by desires of wanting to touch another mans penis...
My friend told me that this chat of his with a colleague came about during a discussion about Bisexuality... that some people don't believe in this.. people are either heterosexual or homosexual.. This polarised idea. This old, becoming hold, idea that homosexuality is wrong.. but are we talking about exclusivity and that one should remain in one or the other.. but we are not like that as humans... maybe some people are.. but now we are seeing people that want to be 'pansexual' which is basically 'sex with other people'.. my limited understanding coming out now...
Even during a course I did about psychotherapy and counselling and have a pretty Certificate to show for it.. Sexuality was not discussed, or I was asleep... and in 2022 and my growing awareness of my own behaviours and consciousness I am really questioning some of this now... because I feel like I have not been heard, enough or at all.. in my therapy and I've had different therapists...
During the conference my friend had a chat with another psychotherapist and they both said: I've had no discussion about 'sexuality' in my training.
Neither of these men had a unit/seminar/lectures/talks/discussions about 'sexuality' and all its complexities during their training/uni days.
I was horrified. Maybe it is happening now and they don't know or???
I'd struggled with accepting my sexuality for years and yet I find out now in 2022 that at least 2 therapists and successful.. had no Training on this subject/theme.
I'm psychotherapy bashing and I know it.. but HONESTLY? no training... I shake my head...and I know that these are two men that are worlds apart in ages.. one older and one much younger..
But how can this be I asked?
No answer...
So many discussions on this site alone about 'sexuality'..
We might assume we understand sexuality and no need to discuss it AND maybe by talking about/revealing our behaviours the problems with 'sexuality' are solved... and are the problems really to do with 'sexuality' or 'acceptance'?
I'm not sure how to say all this...but if a man, for instance, if married and has children and then finds out he has sexual feelings for other men; what should he do...he might deny these feelings... and then before long he is swamped by desires of wanting to touch another mans penis...
My friend told me that this chat of his with a colleague came about during a discussion about Bisexuality... that some people don't believe in this.. people are either heterosexual or homosexual.. This polarised idea. This old, becoming hold, idea that homosexuality is wrong.. but are we talking about exclusivity and that one should remain in one or the other.. but we are not like that as humans... maybe some people are.. but now we are seeing people that want to be 'pansexual' which is basically 'sex with other people'.. my limited understanding coming out now...
Even during a course I did about psychotherapy and counselling and have a pretty Certificate to show for it.. Sexuality was not discussed, or I was asleep... and in 2022 and my growing awareness of my own behaviours and consciousness I am really questioning some of this now... because I feel like I have not been heard, enough or at all.. in my therapy and I've had different therapists...
