I have 2 friends that I want to fuck but I don't don't want to cheat on my partner so the only way around it is for us all to have a foursome. The thought of this turns me on so much and I fantasize about it all the time but I know my partner would never be up for it. I want to watch him get fucked by them and for him to watch me fuck and get fucked by them too. I could easily arrange a threesome with my friends without my partner but I would feel terrible. What should I do?
If you have already asked your partner and he has said no, that should be the end of it and you know it. What you want is someone here to tell you it's okay to cheat on your partner so you can pass the blame, guilt, etc. to that person.
Flip the situation around: if your partner wanted to have a threesome (or more) with other people and you didn't, then he did it anyway without your knowledge, how would you feel about it when you found out?
Flip the situation around: if your partner wanted to have a threesome (or more) with other people and you didn't, then he did it anyway without your knowledge, how would you feel about it when you found out?
Tactfully leave him and have all the sex that you desire without any strings attached. You shouldn't have to feel guilt staying loyal since your true desire is sex with many different men. Do not drag him into an uncomfortable situation, or use an excuse as to why you want more out of your sex life. He'll be hurt (probably) at first, and you (might) miss him, but to limit your sexual preferences makes no sense.
How do you know he would never be up for it. Have you discussed it specifically?
elklindoxxx
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My partner and I go with other couples, and I also thought that she wouldn't want to do it either. I went and got counselling to see how to approach her in the proper way. And our first discussion was nerve racking because you don't know how they are going to react.
You just don't up to him and say....let's do a gang bang. They are going to think you are insane, smack you upside the head and storm out.
With my partner, I gently told her if she wanted to attend a couples event to see if she liked it. The first time we went, there was no sex we just socialized to get to know the people. You will see people from everywhere. There was even one lady who was on a school board in the area. We started slowly and gradually got more involved over time.
So it doesn't hurt to have the discussion to see what kind of interest that he has. Also, I don't suggest that you cheat either, that will cause even more problems.
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Forget it, its all fantasy for a foursome - a threesome is more practical but only if he is 100% in favour.
