Accepting Of Your Bisexuality...

[someotherguy]

When I started to have a sexual attraction towards men I was scared that if I dipped my toe then there was no going back. For some, that's how it is and that's perfectly fine and normal. We're all different. For me, once I actually started to have sexual experiences with men, I discovered that it's fun but not as deep as it is with women. Still lots of fun though. Coming to terms with that was hard and still is something that comes up on occasion. Weeks go by that I don't think about men but then once I do it's like I forget women exist. That's just how it is for me and all our experiences vary. What's important is to acknowledge your feelings and know they're valid, no matter if you lean more to one side or are just perfectly in the middle. If those feelings are there, you're bi. Welcome to the club.

 

[Razor500]

I've always accepted mine, but it took me until I was in my late 20s to fully understand what it was.

I'm not technically bi, I'm pansexual. Which no one really seems to understand, so I usually just say bi.

When I was younger, I knew that liked both boys and girls. But growing up in a traditional, upper-middle-class, Midwestern family with deep Catholic roots, anything other than 100-percent straight was a social death sentence.

For years, I did the dating-women thing (because I *do* like women), but because I was a bit of a late bloomer, most of my options really seemed to be among the late-20-something crowd of divorcees with one or two small kids. Which wasn't my cup of tea.

I'm now in my early 40s and gleefully single. Most of my sex is with men, because (and I say this with affection) Grindr doesn't require you to buy them dinner first.

Glad you found your place in the sun. When you step back and think how society, religion, whatever dictates how we should feel sexually, it truly is bizarre and SO unhealthy. I'm happy for you, man. Live life!

 

[Razor500]

When I started to have a sexual attraction towards men I was scared that if I dipped my toe then there was no going back. For some, that's how it is and that's perfectly fine and normal. We're all different. For me, once I actually started to have sexual experiences with men, I discovered that it's fun but not as deep as it is with women. Still lots of fun though. Coming to terms with that was hard and still is something that comes up on occasion. Weeks go by that I don't think about men but then once I do it's like I forget women exist. That's just how it is for me and all our experiences vary. What's important is to acknowledge your feelings and know they're valid, no matter if you lean more to one side or are just perfectly in the middle. If those feelings are there, you're bi. Welcome to the club.

With me, I relate and am more comfortable with women. But still, the sexual attraction to men is very strong.

 

[Pumpme]

No point fighting that which I was born to be. I am bisexual! I embrace this and I am proud of who I am

 

[DoYouLikeMe]

Joe Rogan is a dipshit and it's sad to see that so many dudes will follow him blindly off a cliff.

 

[bi2]

When I started to have a sexual attraction towards men I was scared that if I dipped my toe then there was no going back. For some, that's how it is and that's perfectly fine and normal. We're all different. For me, once I actually started to have sexual experiences with men, I discovered that it's fun but not as deep as it is with women. Still lots of fun though. Coming to terms with that was hard and still is something that comes up on occasion. Weeks go by that I don't think about men but then once I do it's like I forget women exist. That's just how it is for me and all our experiences vary. What's important is to acknowledge your feelings and know they're valid, no matter if you lean more to one side or are just perfectly in the middle. If those feelings are there, you're bi. Welcome to the club.

Great post.

As I first experimented when I was lot younger to process what I was doing, I would just compartmentalize the MM sex and MF sex into seperate disctinct activities.

With MM sex, I enjoyed the fun, the taboo nature of who and what I was doing and enjoyed being adored and worshipped for me cumming was just the bonus. It was like a drug that I needed every now and again. Once I had my fix I was good to go for a while before I needed my next fix.

Sure intially there was lot of guilt feelings, but once that subsided, I enjoyed fully the sensual and sexual way I was made to feel and completely embraced it.

 

[Sirramm]

I am an "orally bi male", a term I hear more and more lately. I don't look at guys in a store and get turned on or want to do be alone with him. However, when I am with my girlfriend/wife and watch them have sex I really like tasting her on his cock or eating his cum out or off of her. Seeing a guy with a beautiful cock, and I personally think they all are beautiful while watching porn or in the throes of passion gets me fired up!!! Of course, I don't let everyone know I'm willing to suck his cock after he fucks my wife...most men still freak when they get their own cum on their hands, legs, and god-forbid mouth! LOL

 

[Mitoro71]

I am an "orally bi male", a term I hear more and more lately. I don't look at guys in a store and get turned on or want to do be alone with him. However, when I am with my girlfriend/wife and watch them have sex I really like tasting her on his cock or eating his cum out or off of her. Seeing a guy with a beautiful cock, and I personally think they all are beautiful while watching porn or in the throes of passion gets me fired up!!! Of course, I don't let everyone know I'm willing to suck his cock after he fucks my wife...most men still freak when they get their own cum on their hands, legs, and god-forbid mouth! LOL

Wow totally on the same page! Yes I’m not looking at guys around me. But when horny watching porn, I love and get hard looking at their cocks. I’ve always been with both sexes. I love waking up to my girl or other women over the years but when wanting to fuck or suck a cock, I’m so loving that. I get harder faster looking at dick. I have sex all the time with my girl now but I’ll cum so much after watching MM porn and then fucking my girl now

 

[goldscorpguy]

I remember just after my first proper, mind blowing bisexual experience some twelve years ago, that somehow people would look at me afterwards and know that I had sucked a man's cock. But of course I looked no different. I just felt, and still feel, more complete. I never regretted taking the leap, in fact I only wish I had tried it sooner. I would urge anyone who's curious to try it. Take the leap.

 

[Dex1979]

the thing I am thinking the last few years is why I didn't accept it earlier
I guess its never too late
was embarrassed
had first experience and felt guilty
these days (couple of years now) I have accepted it
and yes would love to get naked and platy
when I am horny as fuck I even fantasise of 69ing
sucking wasn't something I wanted at first
now a mutual suck sounds awesome

 

[bi2]

I remember just after my first proper, mind blowing bisexual experience some twelve years ago, that somehow people would look at me afterwards and know that I had sucked a man's cock. But of course I looked no different. I just felt, and still feel, more complete. I never regretted taking the leap, in fact I only wish I had tried it sooner. I would urge anyone who's curious to try it. Take the leap.

the thing I am thinking the last few years is why I didn't accept it earlier
I guess its never too late
was embarrassed
had first experience and felt guilty
these days (couple of years now) I have accepted it
and yes would love to get naked and platy
when I am horny as fuck I even fantasise of 69ing
sucking wasn't something I wanted at first
now a mutual suck sounds awesome

I think for those that are bi or bi curious, sometimes situations dont often present themselves easily where you can try it in a safe (being kept a secret) and comfortable manner.

As you both mentioned there is also initially the guilt factor for some.

For me, I had my first experience via massage with a much older neighbour. It was safe, free of judgement and allowed me to experiment without too much guilt, as it was "only a massage". I kept coming back for "more massages" and each time, we progressed or rather he progressed with me further and further at a pace that I was comfortable at. Eventually over a period of a few months it became a fuck-buddy relationship, whenever I had the urge/need to be fucked I would message my neighbour to hook up. It was almost always on my terms and needs.

I definitely dont have any regrets nor ever felt I was taken advantage off and if anything feel fortunate there was an opportunity to have MM sex which I enjoyed and still enjoy.

 

[Dex1979]

I think for those that are bi or bi curious, sometimes situations dont often present themselves easily where you can try it in a safe (being kept a secret) and comfortable manner.

As you both mentioned there is also initially the guilt factor for some.

For me, I had my first experience via massage with a much older neighbour. It was safe, free of judgement and allowed me to experiment without too much guilt, as it was "only a massage". I kept coming back for "more massages" and each time, we progressed or rather he progressed with me further and further at a pace that I was comfortable at. Eventually over a period of a few months it became a fuck-buddy relationship, whenever I had the urge/need to be fucked I would message my neighbour to hook up. It was almost always on my terms and needs.

I definitely dont have any regrets nor ever felt I was taken advantage off and if anything feel fortunate there was an opportunity to have MM sex which I enjoyed and still enjoy.

I wish I can go back in time
I had met a guy that was willing to try ad treat ny cock nice
guilt stopped me from relaxing and doing more things
so he only sucked me and after a few visits I fucked him
I didn't suck
now that I think of it I would have tried a 69 and taste cock

 

[bi2]

I wish I can go back in time
I had met a guy that was willing to try ad treat ny cock nice
guilt stopped me from relaxing and doing more things
so he only sucked me and after a few visits I fucked him
I didn't suck
now that I think of it I would have tried a 69 and taste cock

To be fair to me I got lucky, right time and right place.

I came walking back home from training and mentioned to my neigbour when I walked passed him that I had with very sore hamstrings. He suggested if I wanted to get them massaged that he would be happy to do it as he had a massage table. I was in a bit of pain and needed relief and didnt think too much of the offer, so I changed, showered and went over to his place.

When I got to his place, he had a massage table set up and told me to strip down and that he would drape me with a towel, which he did. He spent probably at least 30 minutes, massaging my thighs, calves and feet, but ever so carefully and occasionally would rub my arse and every now and a drop of hot oil would run down my crack into my hole. Eventually he started to massage my arse all the while asking if I was okay and comfortable, to which I replied I was, as I was very very horny at this stage with a massive boner.

After massaging my back, he asked me turn over and at this stage there was no towel and he continued to massage me, "ignoring my boner", until at the end where he grabbed my dick and gave me an awesome hand job till I blew my load, 30 seconds later lol. He cleaned me up and told me if I ever I wanted another massage to just ask him.

From that very first "massage", he just slowly progressed with what we did with our time together. I think thats what enabled me to feel very comfortable and at ease with everything. Sure there was guilt intially, but I just justified it all in my head by saying its just a massage.

 

[Jamesbgck]

I remember just after my first proper, mind blowing bisexual experience some twelve years ago, that somehow people would look at me afterwards and know that I had sucked a man's cock. But of course I looked no different. I just felt, and still feel, more complete. I never regretted taking the leap, in fact I only wish I had tried it sooner. I would urge anyone who's curious to try it. Take the leap.

I could not agree more. Well said.

 

[Theo0152]

Thinking back there was always an attraction to men but I think being naive about it and being brought up in an environment of heterosexuality (Rural Irish Catholic) it did not register and did not even know about bisexuality. Later in life it all made sense and I now that I accept my bi side I am quite happy. That missing something was found. I do wish it was easier to be with men more and find maybe that one person to share with. Maybe someday.

 

[bi2]

Thinking back there was always an attraction to men but I think being naive about it and being brought up in an environment of heterosexuality (Rural Irish Catholic) it did not register and did not even know about bisexuality. Later in life it all made sense and I now that I accept my bi side I am quite happy. That missing something was found. I do wish it was easier to be with men more and find maybe that one person to share with. Maybe someday.

Youre not alone.

When I was younger, I was having sex with a man and a girl. I was confused as to whether I was gay or straight.

I didnt understand in reality I was bi and enjoyed the wonderful benefits of each sex.

I do think one day, guys will be able to be a lot more open about being bi, when that may happen is another story. In the last 5-10 years, so much has changed. So it shouldnt be any surprise that things are a lot different in 20 years time, when new posters read these forums.

From a historical point of view, these threads and discussions will have a great deal of value to appreciate what men faced today in 2021.

 

[deleted5199391]

Sexuality is a spectrum, and Joe can't ever comment properly a MMA match, so don't take him into account in a matter like that one.
Sexuality is a spectrum. Even straight or gay are that for aproximation.

I am bi, with a preference for women, and I've no problems with that. Unless someone specifies the orientation, I assume that everyone can be bi. Like Schrodinger's cat.
And had no issues with a male lead society, also because this isn't even true, at least in EU.
Maybe you had problems with your perception of manliness?

 

[WilliamG]

I've never had sex with a man. Married 30+ years. But my goto porn is male dominated. Don't know if it comes with age. Or the fact I've been with a lot of women (prior to marriage). Maybe it's just the taboo thing to me. I don't know. I think my earliest recollection of enjoying men was was my wife (then gf) used to have Playgirl magazines (long before the internet). I remember clearly the first time I got stoned looked thru a couple couple of pictorials and decided to ride a Coke bottle (empty of course) as I stroked. It took 20 years, but I convinced my wife to use toys on me. While we both enjoy the play... My mind says... "What if..?"

 

[deleted10500801]

Sexuality is a spectrum, and Joe can't ever comment properly a MMA match, so don't take him into account in a matter like that one.
Sexuality is a spectrum. Even straight or gay are that for aproximation.

I am bi, with a preference for women, and I've no problems with that. Unless someone specifies the orientation, I assume that everyone can be bi. Like Schrodinger's cat.
And had no issues with a male lead society, also because this isn't even true, at least in EU.
Maybe you had problems with your perception of manliness?

Humans are just sexually fluid. When people say they're straight or gay - that's only what they tell people and rarely a true reflection of their desires and sexual behaviour.

As for gender, what is considered masculine or feminine varies across different cultures.

 

[deleted5199391]

Humans are just sexually fluid. When people say they're straight or gay - that's only what they tell people and rarely a true reflection of their desires and sexual behaviour.

As for gender, what is considered masculine or feminine varies across different cultures.

I think the same.