setting the scene for yall, i was 25 when i men the man (60Y.O) of my dreams. We hit it off from the very first conversation on FB dating, and a few weeks went me and I met him in person and can truthfully say I became so infatuated with everything he was,wasnt, ect. I love and tried to give him the best version of myself, I do have severe anxiety and depression so im sure that made things much harder then needed. But anyways we were together for 2 full year I think a little over. And one night he is sitting out on the deck. I could see what he was doing on his phone. *sniffies* Instantly felt like I had just lost EVERYTHING. But before I told him that I knew he was whoring around the city I did a deep search of his iPad which syncs with his phone. By looking at his saved passwords, it would say when the last time the login was and there were dates literally every month for the past two years the entire time we were together he had been talking to other men hooking up with other men and then coming home and kissing me with the same mouth that he just did with. I’m so lost right now and it’s annoying that we as humans can so easily jump on someone’s heart and kill there self esteem and not only try and play the victim but then DO IT AGAIN! I’m so scared that I’ll never find someone who loves as loyally and unconditionally as myself.
advice to heal after Fiancé cheated
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Before getting into any long term relationship, it's wise to know the history of the guy during the dating phase.
A big red flag is an older guy who has been single for a long time or hasn't had a steady history of long term relationships greater than 5 years.
There are exceptions but mostly these people are just not meant to be in relationships and will burn years off your life and don't give a sh!t if you let them.
A big red flag is an older guy who has been single for a long time or hasn't had a steady history of long term relationships greater than 5 years.
There are exceptions but mostly these people are just not meant to be in relationships and will burn years off your life and don't give a sh!t if you let them.
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I’m an older guy and have been single for a long time since my relationship ended.
I’d like to be with someone special again but it’s not so easy as we age, many people can be ageist
I’m still horny and have occasional hookups but I’m single as I’m choosy and also can’t find anyone who wants more than random sex.
You said there are exceptions but I’d say the majority of older men are less likely to cheat than younger guys who want numerous partners.
I'm not looking to judge you personally. I don't know you or your circumstances.
A red flag is a signal to do further investigation before proceeding. It does not mean someone is necessarily bad.
It's no different than a job interview. If someone is unemployed for a long period of time or has a history of changing jobs rapidly, it raises a red flag to investigate why that is the case. Upon investigation, it may be that the person has a reasonable cause for changing jobs often or being unemployed for a long time.
All I was advising was for people to take due diligence. It was not to trigger people.
I'm sorry this happened to you. Finding out a partner is a cheater is never easy, wither it's physical or emotional. You will find someone who loves you the way you want and deserve to be loved.
If you can, I would also suggest talking through this with a therapist. Mine have been amazing in helping me work out the pain of relationships but also helping me identify what it is that I want from partners. If you can't do that, then I suggest a trusted friend and ask if they are willing to hear you.
Hugs and good luck.
If you can, I would also suggest talking through this with a therapist. Mine have been amazing in helping me work out the pain of relationships but also helping me identify what it is that I want from partners. If you can't do that, then I suggest a trusted friend and ask if they are willing to hear you.
Hugs and good luck.
Thank you for this. Ive been watching A TON of videos from different therapists and things like that just trying to build back up what he has torn down. I’ve always been such a loyal, welcoming, soft individual who wears his heart on his sleeve. To put it simply I was raised right! And when it comes to relationships I think what happens is I trust peoples words too easily when they are showing me they mean something else. I am very much a monogamous type of person and enjoy having a man to enjoy everyday things with. Never been one to care about age but have naturally found myself like mean near his age. I am sending positive vibes your way and thank you for taking the time to comment
Thank you for the the advice! I am looking for a good therapist at the moment!
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Did he actually cheat on you? When broke up did he admit to doing it or did he say he didn’t cheat ?
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