Advices for a healthy bottoming hygiene

[kinkyfrench13]

Hi, everyone,
I'm looking for advices on bottoming. I'm a recurrent user of sex toys (more or less 7.5x6.5 inch) and I've just acquired a good big dildo (9x7.8, Sir Peter's dildo).
Obviously, with this kind of dildo, an enema is a must. But here's the problem: very often, after playing, I get a stomachache that lasts for days. And I also notice that I'm constipated for about 2-3 days without knowing why. From what I've read, enemas tend to prevent constipation, but in this case, I don't go to the toilet (everything settles afterwards).

I'm keen to hear advices from people experienced with big dildos: how do you do your enema? Just the rectum or further up? As for me, I use my shower hose and not an enema bulb. I always wash further than my rectum.

I also use a lot of lubricant when I play that deep, but I notice that sometimes I get little red marks when the lubricant comes out of my hole. Same thing here, I'm taking advice on how to achieve deep penetration without hurting yourself. On this subject, I haven't hurt myself, even when there aren't these problems of red marks, constipation occurs after penetration.

Thank you for all your advice, because all this makes the after-sex quite complicated!

 

[LPSG Support]

Hi. I don't have an answer for you but I'm hoping some other users do

 

[kinkyfrench13]

Thank you !

 

[bravesoldier]

I kind of think there's not an absolute hygienic solution when using dildos that penetrate deeply. My experience with dildo play (which I absolutely love) is if I don't go deeper than 7-8 inches after a good flush, I don't have hygiene problems. When I douche and flush more, trying to get deeply clean it rarely works with absolutely no cleanliness issues. Once or twice I had total success but that's it. Penetrating that deep just seems to have hygiene risks and I guess it always will. I learned recently I can go very deep inside, but it takes a lot of exploring, patience and learning. I have learned that I won't hurt myself with the right, flexible dildo and the dildo will turn and bend with my colon after passing the second hole. In my wildest dreams I never thought I'd successfully get that deep in my gut and experience the mind-blowing sensations of being filled, stretched and penetrated at that depth. Also, to love the mixture of some discomfort and pressure combined with intense sexual pleasure. To achieve this pleasure, acclimate your rectum and colon slowly, Approach the second hole slowly but deliberately. With a flexible dildo, after teasing and acclimating at the second hole I have found if I push with enough firm but gentle pressure, the dildo will bend and go straight beyond the curve in the colon. I felt pressure at this point but not pain. Bravery is another must, and determination. A higher discomfort tolerance is an absolute also, as reaching this level of pleasure is not for the weak at heart. For me it was and still is a slow and gradual progression that is simply mind blowing as far as the level of sexual pleasure it brings. I have also mastered taking very large girth, as in 8 inches of girth. If you attempt huge girth, you may think your hole won't take it, but it will, and you probably won't rupture any skin unless you're trying for something beyond 8 inches of girth. I've found my hole is quite tough and resilient.

The best advice is do anything deep and girthy very slow. It won't happen overnight and takes more determination than you may think.

 

[chrisrobin]

Take it slow, dont go to extreme girth and make sure your dildo is flexible. Like all artificial anal stimulants there's always the excitement of going big and heavy when for the maximum pleasure it should be applied sure but slow and when you feel you've gone far enough stop, tomorrow is another day for fun.
When my buddy comes over for some dildo sex the fun and sexual stimulation is being "done" by another hand but one who knows no means no I can cum off easily hands-free, and so can he.

 

[louparis10]

I kind of think there's not an absolute hygienic solution when using dildos that penetrate deeply. My experience with dildo play (which I absolutely love) is if I don't go deeper than 7-8 inches after a good flush, I don't have hygiene problems. When I douche and flush more, trying to get deeply clean it rarely works with absolutely no cleanliness issues. Once or twice I had total success but that's it. Penetrating that deep just seems to have hygiene risks and I guess it always will. I learned recently I can go very deep inside, but it takes a lot of exploring, patience and learning. I have learned that I won't hurt myself with the right, flexible dildo and the dildo will turn and bend with my colon after passing the second hole. In my wildest dreams I never thought I'd successfully get that deep in my gut and experience the mind-blowing sensations of being filled, stretched and penetrated at that depth. Also, to love the mixture of some discomfort and pressure combined with intense sexual pleasure. To achieve this pleasure, acclimate your rectum and colon slowly, Approach the second hole slowly but deliberately. With a flexible dildo, after teasing and acclimating at the second hole I have found if I push with enough firm but gentle pressure, the dildo will bend and go straight beyond the curve in the colon. I felt pressure at this point but not pain. Bravery is another must, and determination. A higher discomfort tolerance is an absolute also, as reaching this level of pleasure is not for the weak at heart. For me it was and still is a slow and gradual progression that is simply mind blowing as far as the level of sexual pleasure it brings. I have also mastered taking very large girth, as in 8 inches of girth. If you attempt huge girth, you may think your hole won't take it, but it will, and you probably won't rupture any skin unless you're trying for something beyond 8 inches of girth. I've found my hole is quite tough and resilient.

The best advice is do anything deep and girthy very slow. It won't happen overnight and takes more determination than you may think.

Everything is said and well said!
Nothing to add!
That's how I practice : slowly, very slowly, Our hole can take huge girth without problem.

 

[goldscorpguy]

It may be that your stomach ache and constipation is a direct result of going too deep with your cleaning. Your microbiome can be affected for a few days after cleaning, and doing it too often can damage the intestinal lining.

I've always favoured just a shallow douche, using a bulb and stem no longer than a few inches. I certainly never go near those shower attachments. I use plain, warm water ( never saline) in the bulb, and repeat the process 3 or 4 times until the water runs out clear.

 

[techpump]

Yes the enema cleaning you are doing, its too vigorous. You should not be getting water into your colon. It sounds like you're cleaning so deeply that you are getting water in there and you do not want to do that. You can flush what's in your rectum back up into your colon and its not supposed to go that way. It also messes with the biome of your colon, like @goldscorpguy mentioned. If you want deep fun past the second hole, go with flexible really much smaller dildos. Very flexible to start with. Its a super small sphincter and takes a special toy and patience to penetrate it. A 7" girth is not going in there, maybe in the future, but not off the rip.

Red specks of anything on your toy is blood. You are going at it too hard with toys too big. Fill yourself up as much as you can but stay safe!!

I'd go with a bulb enema and no to the shower cleaning. Aneros makes a bulb enema designed for super slow water release to make sure water doesn't shoot in too fast so it does not bypass the hole to the colon. If an anal/prostate toy company's enema bulb is preventing water from going up there, then its a sign that no one should be getting water up there either. Likely the cause of your gastric distress.

 

[louparis10]

Hi, everyone,
I'm looking for advices on bottoming. I'm a recurrent user of sex toys (more or less 7.5x6.5 inch) and I've just acquired a good big dildo (9x7.8, Sir Peter's dildo).
Obviously, with this kind of dildo, an enema is a must. But here's the problem: very often, after playing, I get a stomachache that lasts for days. And I also notice that I'm constipated for about 2-3 days without knowing why. From what I've read, enemas tend to prevent constipation, but in this case, I don't go to the toilet (everything settles afterwards).

I'm keen to hear advices from people experienced with big dildos: how do you do your enema? Just the rectum or further up? As for me, I use my shower hose and not an enema bulb. I always wash further than my rectum.

I also use a lot of lubricant when I play that deep, but I notice that sometimes I get little red marks when the lubricant comes out of my hole. Same thing here, I'm taking advice on how to achieve deep penetration without hurting yourself. On this subject, I haven't hurt myself, even when there aren't these problems of red marks, constipation occurs after penetration.

Thank you for all your advice, because all this makes the after-sex quite complicated!

Like you, I use my shower hose to do my enema. Sometimes I wash further than the rectum. Without going too deep and especially with the minimum jet as said by @goldscorpguy and @techpump.
Like @bravesoldier, I learned to pass the second hole and go deep inside, it took time learning and patience. I had to find the right position, gentle pressure but firm enough for the first penetration, now the in and out is easy for me. I master penetration well with my 6 inch (15.5cm) circumference dildo. Once I'm used to it, I can move on to my 7 inch (17.6cm) circumference dildo. At first, I didn't think my second hole would take it, but it did!
My biggest dildo has a circumference of 7.9 inches (20 cm). It will never go further than myrectum. That's already a lot of determination and training to ride it.
For me, passing the second hole and use of huge dildos (more than 7inches) will never be a very regular practice : I want to keep a man asshole, I don't want to end up with a pussy...

 

[WilliamG]

For me it's just a couple bulb enemas only rectum deep. My diet is plant based and very clean. If you can commit to it... Diet makes the difference. Good sources of fiber. Drink plenty of water. Don't eat a stuffed Chalupa before the event.

But if you decide to clean deeper (I've done this when I'm using an xtra-long dildo)... there is a "waiting" period for an hour or so after... Maybe some slight cramping and a couple more visits to the toilet. I have in the past found if I over do it... I'm uncomfortable for longer than I'd like. And like was said... could disrupt your gut balance. Hence the clean diet.

 

[Bluegoon21]

Cleaning out has always been my hindrance to heavy butt play. I tried to scale back to only using the enema bulb with a few rinses. I find that a few lubed fingers helps make sure I'm getting everything expelled but I've never been 100% clean. Certain plugs can be too long for me which can be uncomfortable to use so I prefer width opposed to length, but after a point, I guess some stuff gets through the 2nd hole.