Am I Asexual?

[mrt19]

Hey im 21 years old and very confused about my sexuality, i dont feel attracted to anyone, like (i can just be with someone stranger and would have the same feeling with someone i know) <-- hope its understandable : )
same with intimacy i dont feel anything if i have sex with someone (Male) i tried it 5 times with random guys but didnt felt very comfortable with it same with an relationship (maybe because im shy?) same with porn i only get horny if its something rough or kinky because i loose interest very easily in it.

sorry for my english : )

do you have any advice? maybe im just confused or not even gay? or bi...

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Asexuality coexists with whatever you mild attraction might be. think in terms of “if I must, would I have sex with men or women, or both?”

I’m demisexual, which is within asexuality, and my reality is I must have a pre established emotional attraction before my brain thinks, “hey, they are sexy.”
Paired with that is generally an attraction to masculine energy. So, mainly men. I consider myself barely bi, and I’m perceived as straight.
So straight and asexual.

you might easily be asexual and gay.
You did mention a need for kinky/rough. I know many asexual and demisexual folx who are kinky, and a majority consider kinky their sexual orientation. Without it, there’s no sex.

 

[deleted1547822]

Humanity is already complex enough. You're a human. Why add more complexity?

I'll tell you the same thing I told my son. Stop fucking strangers just because you can. Learn to make friendships with women or whatever gender you're attracted to. Learn to make friendships with the gender you're not attracted to. Learn what a healthy relationship is. When the time and person is right and that friendship grows, and you introduce sex, it's a completely different thing.

You're German. I get it and the aloof culture. It makes it more difficult. The recipe is still the same though.

 

[Acrab69]

There are different types of attraction, but if you are not sexually attracted to anyone, you may be asexual. In any case, it's something you should discover for yourself.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Hey im 21 years old and very confused about my sexuality, i dont feel attracted to anyone, like (i can just be with someone stranger and would have the same feeling with someone i know) <-- hope its understandable : )
same with intimacy i dont feel anything if i have sex with someone (Male) i tried it 5 times with random guys but didnt felt very comfortable with it same with an relationship (maybe because im shy?) same with porn i only get horny if its something rough or kinky because i loose interest very easily in it.

sorry for my english : )

do you have any advice? maybe im just confused or not even gay? or bi...

look up “aromantic .”
I think it might apply.

 

[Guy-jin]

You’re still very young, it may be that you are asexual and/or aromantic. These are spectrums so maybe eventually you will find yourself feeling something or feeling attraction.

Do you feel love for your family? For a pet? For friends? Not romantic love but platonic love, familial love. I experience these types of love but not so much romantic love, so I am aromantic.

As far as not feeling anything during sex, perhaps you are demisexual and need an emotional connection to feel good during sex. There are many ways to be, and they are all natural. I think you should listen to your body and soul and if you do not need sex, don’t feel obligated to engage in it. Worry about the labels later.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

You’re still very young, it may be that you are asexual and/or aromantic. These are spectrums so maybe eventually you will find yourself feeling something or feeling attraction.

Do you feel love for your family? For a pet? For friends? Not romantic love but platonic love, familial love. I experience these types of love but not so much romantic love, so I am aromantic.

As far as not feeling anything during sex, perhaps you are demisexual and need an emotional connection to feel good during sex. There are many ways to be, and they are all natural. I think you should listen to your body and soul and if you do not need sex, don’t feel obligated to engage in it. Worry about the labels later.

Aaaannnddd, mic drop.

 

[TrueB2]

The sexual experiences I've had have been similar. I don't feel anything mentally/emotionally when having sex and physically...well idk. I know it feels good, my body responds to the stimulation, but I don't really feel that physical stimulation. Idk how to explain it lol. Could be I need a close relationship with them, but the only person I thought I was into kissed me and I didn't feel anything there either so. I do believe you have to figure it out for yourself though because no one will be able to do it for you

 

[BIGMUGGERDOG]

The sexual experiences I've had have been similar. I don't feel anything mentally/emotionally when having sex and physically...well idk. I know it feels good, my body responds to the stimulation, but I don't really feel that physical stimulation. Idk how to explain it lol. Could be I need a close relationship with them, but the only person I thought I was into kissed me and I didn't feel anything there either so. I do believe you have to figure it out for yourself though because no one will be able to do it for you

Hey, there! Newly-found asexual*points to self* I ab-sol-ute-ly feel the same way. The main difference being: I’m still a virgin! Oh! I’ve also concluded that I’m aromantic.