Am I asexual?

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Hey guys! I've been thinking about that lately while watching porn. I don't mind watching people have sex, nor masturbate to it, but when thinking about doing the same I somehow feel grossed or too anxious to even try.
So I was wondering if I am '' asexual '' or maybe just scared idk plz help x)
 
Sounds more anxious than asexual…..

Anxiety has odd ways of affecting us. Each differently.
Yeah after doing some more reseaech, it might be the answer in the end but it's okay I guess anxiety can be overcome! I didn't notice it so far lmaoo
 
Thought so. Definitely anxiety. It will go away the more you experiment with sex. And if it doesn't, there's help for that out there. So relax and enjoy what you're watching, or find something different if what you're seeing makes you feel like that. Perhaps what you're watching is too hardcore for you right now, there's many types of porn.
 
To me, social media and always on tap porn have drastically changed the way we develop sexually. Having so much available imagery of what sex "should" look like must be overwhelming for many. Lots of false expectations must come out of this. I would not be surprised there aren't many more like yourself feeling anxious based on our online examples.

Real sex looks rather boring when filmed (yes, we filmed it once). We could not stop laughing when we watched us actually doing it. :p
 
Porn is not real life.
Real life is messy and unpredictable and like discovering a new continent.
Adventure and awe and disappointment and injuries and hunger and feast.
Always on tap porn , echo chamber social media, monetising everything , influencers, and the avalanche of bullshit has permanently wrecked our brains, as a species we are doomed.
Now people expects to climb on, have a DP as your 1st experience,with perfectly wet partners with puffed up ducklips and makeup and perky photoshopped plastic tits.
Thank god I had my sexual awakening in the 1970s when women had pubic hair and men used communal showers and did not shave their pubic hair.
What is more is people cannot understand and metabolize rejection. It was the norm that women spurned young men, you had to get up and try and become better at dating and hone your social skills, and learn how to dance, how to be a gentleman, have manners, IT WAS A LOT OF HARD WORK.
Sexual partners did not fall into your lap, the porno encounters were just that.
Real boys and girls fumbled and stumbled their way to sexual encounters , and you either survived ot you stayed single.



Rant over.
 
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There are lots of people who are very sexual but not sexually attracted to anyone.

Did you know that there is an asexual forum on here? Check out "Ask an Asexual."

What you described sound similar to aegosexual which is on the asexual spectrum which means there are so many possibilities with sexual attraction.

The takeaway you should have from this is that if you are just anxious about sexual intimacy then you can at least work on that with someone you trust and confide in confidently without shame and without COERSION. Also, you may realize you love the sensual aspect of intimacy and love someone's aesthetic portrayal but you don't necessarily desire sex.

A side note: someone brought up indifferent to sex. This is also a spectrum: sex favorable, sex indifferent, sex repulsion/aversion. There is also sex positive (you're ok with talking about sex and sexual topics) versus sex negative.