Had an experience some years ago where I was predominantly bttm. Messed around with this guy a few years younger than I was… His cock was larger/thicker than most and mainly we would just j/o or made out… He would ask to fuck me but I declined due to the size and not wanting my hole ripped apart lol.. but one day I was extra horny and agreed to be fucked… It was the worst experience ever! He was extra aggressive and it hurt like a mf… I was extra tight combined with him being thick, I noticed the condom starting to shed and felt my ass ripping so I made him stop…I felt molested even me being older lol… from that day on, I started topping… Anyone with similar experiences to share?
Any Bottoms Ever Been Fucked So Hard That It Made You Rethink Your Sexual Position?
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Ok… i’m taking notes. So what you’re telling me is, when I do find myself a bf (I live in hope) and if he turns out to be a bottom, all I need is to aggressively fuck the shit out of him, literally! To turn him into an exclusive top. That or he’ll become addicted to pain and would then requires me to fist his gaping hole to satisfy his needs. It’s a risk i’m willing to take.
Sounds like he was either totally inexperienced or an inconsiderate jerk. An ass can take most any size cock with the proper preparation. Without a lot of foreplay it’s going to be a miserable experience, especially for a guy who doesn’t bottom frequently. Sorry he ruined such a pleasurable act for you. I’d encourage you to give it another shot, this time with an experienced, caring top who is willing to give your hole the tender loving care it needs to open up for him.
I had the inverse experience of being genitally abused by a partner and it made me never want to top again, turned me into a total bottom. I really want to heal from it because I miss topping (and I DO know how to make a hole ready) but i've struggled with performance anxiety if I'm the genital focus for a long time now, it's kind of sad. I really hope I get over it.
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The problem isn't the size of his dick, it is his technique.
The first guy that tried to fuck me spit on his dick and tried to jab it in. His dick was about 4.5" and skinny. I didn't let anything touch my ass again until I met my first boyfriend 6 years later.
I've been fucked by some very well-hung guys with no problems. It is all in their technique.
The first guy that tried to fuck me spit on his dick and tried to jab it in. His dick was about 4.5" and skinny. I didn't let anything touch my ass again until I met my first boyfriend 6 years later.
I've been fucked by some very well-hung guys with no problems. It is all in their technique.
No! The only bad experience I had with a Dutch guy. He was hung HUGE and we were playing around and I was on my side he pulled me towards him and his cock hit my hole dead center with force and I saw stars! I was put off but it for awhile but I still love the idea of a rough top nailing me.
It's like throwing a truck around a corner at the same speed as a mini Cooper. It's not going to end well.
The bigger the penis, the more lube and foreplay time (aka stretching open your hole) is required.
So if it's unbearably painful, it's either your fault for not telling him to slow down or his fault for not taking the time.
There's no such thing as too big when it comes to cock size.
The bigger the penis, the more lube and foreplay time (aka stretching open your hole) is required.
So if it's unbearably painful, it's either your fault for not telling him to slow down or his fault for not taking the time.
There's no such thing as too big when it comes to cock size.
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It's really not for a one night stand. You should know each other, at least a bit, so you're both on the same page when it comes to easing it in. This is what I've found anyway. There was one encounter with an Eastern Airlines flight attendant and the guy's cock was bigger than I'd ever seen in person. I only knew the guy from just a few social events (friend of a friend).
I do regret not communitating with him better so that he could of fucked me. I was so embarrassed as I couldn't even fit the head in my mouth.
Since then I've learned from that experience and am much better at communicating and finding other solutions if necessary.
I do regret not communitating with him better so that he could of fucked me. I was so embarrassed as I couldn't even fit the head in my mouth.
Since then I've learned from that experience and am much better at communicating and finding other solutions if necessary.
Unless the hung top is very inexperienced, he should really know he can't just go jamming his cock in your ass like they do in porn.
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He was experienced but probably just likes rough sex… Im the complete opposite… Never seen him again..
Probably not planning to see you again rather than liking rough sex was the reason in that case. If he was THAT rough with everyone, he wouldn't get much return business.
It's difficult to describe. He would randomly suddenly start clawing or yanking at my dick while doing baby-talk, like a loud demeaning goo-goo-gaa-gaa thing that I never asked him to do and he wouldn't even do it during sex. the first time he did it was in bed early in the morning and it was out of nowhere and it really freaked me out. but then he "punished" me for "the manner in which I told him to stop" which was "in too mean a tone" and he gave me the silent treatment for a couple of days and made me feel like it was my fault. Then a couple of weeks later he did to me again, yanking my dick suddenly while doing baby-talk, while we in the car together and he was driving, not giving me a place to go and I was too afraid to react that time because what happened the last time. Understand that we had been in a committed relationship for three years once this had started happening, and we had been through a lot together, so in the midst of this, it was hard for me to see that it was legitimate sexual abuse. I had a therapist at the time who was not very helpful, but the therapist did encourage me to confront him about this as calmly and compassionately and articulately as possible (fuck therapists! am I right?). So the last time the guy did it to me was when I was telling him about the problem and he responds with a, "What? Like this?" and doing it again. He then said some of the worst things ever said to me, he said there was something wrong with me for loving him, he said that I always knew he was "evil" and the fact I was still there said something about me that i "need to explore", then creepily saying, "I'm proud of you so talking about it so calmly; can I get you a bowl of ice cream, as a reward?" I slept there one more night and then the next day I told him over the phone "no contact ever again" basically and used every last remaining ounce of my willpower to cut him out of, and keep him out of my life.
anyway this happened a little over two years ago and I'm still pretty fucked up about it. I took me a long time to admit to myself that this was sexual abuse and that, while I was never forcibly penetrated or anything like that, I have shown symptoms of rape trauma since this occurred. I can almost never get hard for other guys any more because a sense of terror in their presence, though I'm happy to get them off which I do well, so I'll still do that.
So sorry for unloading more than you probably wanted to know, but you did ask me to elaborate, and there is a moral to the story that you might need to hear: If something feels like sexual abuse, it probably is. This encounter you're talking about does sound like more than him simply getting carried away.
That sound bad he should be more gentle with you not so rough I had that happen to me . the guy hurt me he just want his pleasure not think about his parter.
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The first time I had sex as a bottom, I got fucked so hard I realized I should probably stop
Topping women. Does that count?
Topping women. Does that count?
Damn bro. That's definitely sexual abuse but there is more going on there than just the way he made you feel by touching you. It's like he was doing it on purpose to demean and humiliate you, knew that it was effective, and then was satisfied with himself that you still didn't leave him.
That's called a textbook narsissist bro. Literally nothing and no one matters to them besides themselves and whatever manipulative whim, impulse, or need that they have at any particular moment. They also are especially prone to using gaslighting and other tactics to make YOU feel like there's something wrong with YOU.
Glad you got out of there. Look up some books or YouTube videos on recovering from a narsissist if you haven't already. It'll prob help you understand more about what was going on there.
I'm aware now that he was a narcissist or sociopath. What's even more embarrassing is that I was educated about narcissism and sociopathy before I met him, and I should have known better, but for some reason I still looked past all the red flags and let him hook me in for a really long time. He was really brilliant. That or I'm the dumbest kind of chump.
I first heard this from @EquusAZ , but it originated on "Bojack Horseman":
"When you're wearing rose-coloref glasses, all the red flags just look like flags."
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You weren't the dumbest kind of chump. When somebody is in that situation, it is so hard to see what is happening to them and to realize that they need to get out of it. Feel lucky that you did eventually realize that things needed to change and you were able to get out of it. Don't look down upon yourself, realize you are much better now.
