Like, if I were to go on a hookup app and say I'm inexperienced, maybe straight or bi or confused, never been with a man, looking for someone to show me what gay sex is all about, looking to suck my first dick, get fucked in the ass for the first time, etc? Is that a turn off, or would people be into that the same way straight men find it hot to take a girl's virginity?
Are gay men into being someone's "first," "popping their cherry," etc?
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Huge turn on for me. I think it’s always best to be honest about what you’re looking for in a hookup, regardless of experience level, but especially if you’re a newbie. Be patient and make sure you find someone you’re attracted to (very important) and is willing to take his time.
Some guys might have a particular fetish for something but I wouldn't say popping cherries was a universally desired thing. It can be seen as a negative for some as well. Skill comes with experience, without that skill, gay sex can be unfulfilling.
I love the idea of a guy sharing his first experience with me! I like giving him the space to experiment safely, especially when it comes to anal sex which you know… it can easily become painful.
I’ve had great sex with inexperienced guys who were willing to learn and play. If they are open to doing things slowly, maybe playing with a dildo and learning how to relax, I love it. But sometimes you talk with inexperienced guys who say stuff like “no, I only want a big dick inside me, and a rough fuck, as first experience”. That’s a pass for me.
What I really love is managing to convince a guy to bottom for you, when the only experiences they’ve had were rushed and/or painful… the look on their face when you reach that spot and they think “ohhh that’s how anal is meant to feel like” is priceless
One thing to keep in mind is that I’m wary of someone saying “I’m straight and confused and looking for a first experience”. I know that there’s a high chance that he’ll change his mind and block me, or just not show up at the date. Of course it’s fine to change your mind, but what is not fine is blocking and/or ghosting because it wastes my time. There’s no amount of “if you change your mind, please at least tell me instead of blocking” that will prevent people from blocking you.
I’ve had great sex with inexperienced guys who were willing to learn and play. If they are open to doing things slowly, maybe playing with a dildo and learning how to relax, I love it. But sometimes you talk with inexperienced guys who say stuff like “no, I only want a big dick inside me, and a rough fuck, as first experience”. That’s a pass for me.
What I really love is managing to convince a guy to bottom for you, when the only experiences they’ve had were rushed and/or painful… the look on their face when you reach that spot and they think “ohhh that’s how anal is meant to feel like” is priceless
One thing to keep in mind is that I’m wary of someone saying “I’m straight and confused and looking for a first experience”. I know that there’s a high chance that he’ll change his mind and block me, or just not show up at the date. Of course it’s fine to change your mind, but what is not fine is blocking and/or ghosting because it wastes my time. There’s no amount of “if you change your mind, please at least tell me instead of blocking” that will prevent people from blocking you.
I'm not a top, but I've been the first man someone's ever gotten their cock sucked by or ever fucked and that itself isn't a specific turn on, but if they're already my type and they express curiosity, I'm just as happy to oblige as if they were experienced tops. I'm regularly hooking up with my boss now and I'm the first and only man he's ever hooked up with.
Pretty sure that's a common fetish or what ever word someone wants to use. I remember my first time was pretty much me asking a gay friend to show me what to do. And the few times I slept with a virgin(that I knew about) I just tried to be super nice and encouraging.
Yes and no. It depends on what the guy wants to do. First blow job, rimming, handy? Sure. First time topping? No. Well, not unless he's a bottom that wants to top. Turning a bottom into a top is a huge turn on for me.
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Not so much a turn on, more a feeling of being honoured. I've done it a few times and I always make an effort to make the experience as good as possible for him. One guy was very apologetic because he was having trouble relaxing his hole. He said it must be very frustrating for me. I reassured him - truthfully - that I was still very aroused by the whole thing.
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I was 18 and out at the local city park looking for some fun and a guy asked me if I’d like a blow job. One thing led to another and this guy, an EMT, ended up “popping my cherry”. It is something I still fantasize over all these decades later. I was a bottom thereafter. The one time I topped i came immediately. Happily married now, but my bottoming days are ones I lust after…
It never was for me tbh, I always wanted someone who was experienced. But for a lot of tops, they do want a bottom who is “untouched”, when I was younger I learned that telling men I’m not a virgin or that I had gotten fucked before would make them lose interest somewhat. So I used to say that I haven’t been fucked yet and guys would go crazy for it.
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recently in gay apps i see most of the tops wanted femboys, twinks, and trans, bottoms like myself will have hard time to find a proper top now.
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