This might be the wrong venue to ask this question but here goes.
I hear women always asking "where are all the good guys? Seems like all of the good ones are either married or gay." The problem is that most "good guys" aren't hounds that objectify women and are just looking to get laid but, from my observations, the guys who get laid most are exactly that. Why don't women ever notice the guy that's quiet and not chasing skirts? Personally I'm not very good at approaching women. It's like I see them being hit on all the time and don't want to insult them by appearing to be one of "those guys". As a result, I find it very difficult to meet women. If I can't meet them I can't get to know them or allow them to get to know me.
Don't get me wrong, I love women, I love their company, I feel women are easier to talk and relate to than most guys because they are not obsessed with discussing sex, who they've banged, how they got their latest conquest into the sack, who, in the room, they would most like to bang, etc, etc. I'm uncomfortable with that and always have been. I find conversation with most women to be deeper and about more meaniful things. I find great satisfaction in pleasing a woman sexually or intellectually but don't often get the chance. I'm asking for advice from women on how a nice guy might respectfully approach a lady without seeming like just another hound. I like women as much as the next guy, I'm just no willing to seem like I'm being disrespectful or demeaning to accomplish it. WTF am I doing wrong?
I'll also offer some advice to those ladies who just can't seem to find a decent guy. You've all seen that guy who mingles quietly but isn't always making moves, trying to impress or flitting like a honey bee from flower to flower. Maybe he's just sitting quietly by himself observing. What are your impressions of guys like that? Do you think they might be boring, aloof or uninterested? Well, they are probably none of the above, they just don't want to seem disrespectful or on the make. Isn't that a sign of a possible "nice guy"? The next time you are out and you see a guy that's not on the make, why not approach him and see what you find instead of only paying attention to those paying attention to you? There ARE nice guys out there but maybe they are too nice to risk seeming insulting or disrespectful.
Any advice from the fairer sex would be appreciated. Thanks.