Asking a straight guy to suck his dick
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I am not incapable of recognizing attractiveness in some men. However, recognizing that they are attractive is different from being sexually attracted to them.
The above bolded statement is correct - attraction and sexual attraction do not necessarily go hand in hand. However, they aren't very far apart from each other either. That's mainly the point I'm getting at when I say we're all bisexual to varying degrees. Some people much less than others and some people much more than others.
From a straight perspective, I think it'd be very hard to say, "Hey this girl is attractive to me, but I don't really want to have sex with her." I don't see why that's any different if it's a guy thinking that way about another guy or a girl thinking that way about another girl. Someone being "attractive" to you, remember, means much more than just thinking that person is "good looking". It means they are charming, alluring, and very pleasing to you.
P.S. - My "bisexaulity" post wasn't directed at anyone specific, I'm just giving some food for thought.
Just like in this post to alwaysguessing, I'm not trying to say "OMG he's bisexual!" or anything like that... again just giving some food for thought. :wink:
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Good food for though... *nom nom*... yummy!
Anyway, you can call me bi-asexual if you want, or abisexual perhaps.
Anyway, you can call me bi-asexual if you want, or abisexual perhaps.
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Funny, I do that all the time. Even if I don't say it out loud, I think it.
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Boy, since the last time I was here this place has gotten so homophobic. Have the neanderthal straight guys taken over LPSG or what?
Always Guessing, I'd hate to be your g/f!
What's with this guy? Can everyone say "troll"?
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Yes, it's foolish to make a pass at someone who isn't interested, but it happens all the time and people are no worse for the wear. It only gets creepy when someone doesn't stop after the other person has indicated their disinterest.
To this point, I suppose it's possible that a person's sexuality constitutes a de facto statement of disinterest, such as when a gay man makes a pass at a man he knows is straight. But even then, lots of straight guys go ahead and make passes at women even when it's very clear the woman has no interest. In that situation, the woman might as well be a lesbian, but the straight guy forges ahead anyway. We've all seen this happen, probably hundreds of times, and I bet that most women long ago lost count of how many men they've turned away, even after their lack of interest has been well-established.
Several of the 100% straight guys here clearly don't understand that being on the receiving end of a pass from a man doesn't require a strong reaction. You can simply say no. Some of the posts indicate a level of disgust that suggests homophobia.
Which is a pretty funny reaction from "100% straight guys" who hang out on a message board devoted to large penises.
To this point, I suppose it's possible that a person's sexuality constitutes a de facto statement of disinterest, such as when a gay man makes a pass at a man he knows is straight. But even then, lots of straight guys go ahead and make passes at women even when it's very clear the woman has no interest. In that situation, the woman might as well be a lesbian, but the straight guy forges ahead anyway. We've all seen this happen, probably hundreds of times, and I bet that most women long ago lost count of how many men they've turned away, even after their lack of interest has been well-established.
Several of the 100% straight guys here clearly don't understand that being on the receiving end of a pass from a man doesn't require a strong reaction. You can simply say no. Some of the posts indicate a level of disgust that suggests homophobia.
Which is a pretty funny reaction from "100% straight guys" who hang out on a message board devoted to large penises.
Well as a long time member of this "support group", all I know is that I wouldn't want you for a friend. To me you have a rude and dismissive way about you. There are other "100% straight" guys on this site who are aware, sensitive and at least compassionate. I don't think your issue is about the topic. I think it's about what kind of person you are.
I love you, Jon!!!! :smile:
It's correct to say that attractiveness doesn't necessarily have to do with sex. Attractiveness has to do with be pleasing to the eye and/or mind.
However, I'd generally like to think that people want to have sex with someone they find physically and mentality attractive VS. someone they find ugly and boring. Although, it's not set in stone of course. :smile:
Boy, since the last time I was here this place has gotten so homophobic. Have the neanderthal straight guys taken over LPSG or what?
Always Guessing, I'd hate to be your g/f!
What's with this guy? Can everyone say "troll"?
I find it hilariously ironic that the term "homophobe" has come to be defined as "a man that only has sex with women". Can everyone say "ignorant"?
NEWREBA, I'm glad I don't have to even deal with you in person at all. I thank god that your inane banter is confined to the internet.
If I ask a girl to lick her pussy and she slaps me, she is demonstrating "heterophobia" or what? The blatant double-standards presented in this thread are real knee slappers.
Having a large penis does not automatically make you gay. Are you serious here? It's not unreasonable to assume that there might possibly be some women on this site that would be interested in meeting and possibly sleeping with a man that has a large penis. Maybe some of the straight guys would like to interact with the women here? This site is not completely devoted to gay men. Not everything in this world revolves around homosexuality or homophobia for christ's sake!
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rob_just_rob
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A person's lack of interest in homosexual sex does not make him (or her) a homophobe.
You're seeing homophobes under the bed, and that doesn't say much for your cognition. Nor is that much of a contribution to what's being discussed.
What's with this guy? Can everyone say "troll"?
Back atcha.
My issue is that you claim that being drunk is no excuse for a person to be coming on to someone that most probably isn't into them, but you maintain that those [drunken few] that permit for these certain things to happen (ie. a blowjob) are innocent victims. Either both parties are responsible for their chosen actions, or the alcohol's to blame. You can't let one off, and not the other.
Anyway, I was kind of irritable the other day so I'm gonna go ahead and apologise for being catty. Sorry.
And just to be clear on things, it's only finally hit me what the title of this thread is, and straight out asking anyone to suck their dick is fucking creepy. So I've only been, and continue to argue that [imo] it's perfectly fine for a gay male to come on to a straight male. But it all comes down to context. Even the spontaneous fellatio request.
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Ah, C'mon Rob, you've been here long enough to know better than that. Nobody has said that a disinterest or lack of interest is the issue. Heck a lot of straight guys here have said that they wouldn't be interested in man on man sex, and it has been no problem. As was said, it's the level of disgust and other feelings that have ben expressed that is giving the insinuation of homophobia.
She is demonstrating poor behavior, and if she is a lesbian and she is slapping you because you are a man, then "yes", it would be the exact same thing, only reversed. No one has said that a man that only has sex with women is a homophobe.
This entire argument has been going on, and we never have learned the details of the OP's situation. In fact, not sure if anybody has noticed, but the OP has never even returned to even at least clear up some of the possible misconceptions.
No, having a large penis, or even being on this site does not automatically make you gay. However, it is commonly known here that this site is so successful because of the level of acceptance from the majority of active members, both gay and straight.
Look, I think that you have been unfairly judged for the most part. However, I think you have reacted questionably a few times also. Some of your statements, like part of the above, have taken other statements out of context, just to defend your position, and have edged on homophobia, and others have reacted poorly to that.
I assume that you don't give a crap what I think, but I hope that you hang around long enough to relax a little, and find out how much fun this place can be :smile:
Well I simply disagree. I think it's just as wrong for a man to straight out ask a woman for oral sex. I also think it's inappropriate for a woman to offer a man oral sex, just out of the blue. If one of my female friends offered to suck my dick, knowing that I have a girlfriend, I would end our relationship. I would not want to be alone with her again because I would perceive her as wreckless and unstable, not to mention slutty.
I do not believe that I took this statement out of context:
"Some of the posts indicate a level of disgust that suggests homophobia.
Which is a pretty funny reaction from "100% straight guys" who hang out on a message board devoted to large penises."
If this guy was not insinuating that we are lying by claiming to be "100% straight", because we have to be gay to some degree in order to belong to a large penis site, then I don't know what the fuck his point was. Do you?
BTW I appreciate your welcoming attitude and understanding towards me. Please don't misinterpret my attack on your position to be an attack on you personally. Because I think you are a real stand-up individual.
I do not believe that I took this statement out of context:
"Some of the posts indicate a level of disgust that suggests homophobia.
Which is a pretty funny reaction from "100% straight guys" who hang out on a message board devoted to large penises."
If this guy was not insinuating that we are lying by claiming to be "100% straight", because we have to be gay to some degree in order to belong to a large penis site, then I don't know what the fuck his point was. Do you?
BTW I appreciate your welcoming attitude and understanding towards me. Please don't misinterpret my attack on your position to be an attack on you personally. Because I think you are a real stand-up individual.
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Now, here is where we are on different wave lengths. No one that I recall has supported propositioning someone, "knowing" that they are in a monagamous relationship. In fact, just the opposite which I have pointed out multiple times.
The OP's original post had 3 seperate questions..1. Anything wrong with asking a "str8" guy to suck his dick? (Yes, ok to ask), #2. What do you think he'd say? (No one knows him, so it's anybody's guess??), #3. What If (bolded by me) he's in a relationship with a gf? (Has overwhelmingly been stated "NO").
I still consider your reaction, even to the female to be a bit harsh and over the top, but that just means we share different opinions.
Well first, you didn't copy and quote the entire statement, which leads to more misunderstanding. Here is what it really said...
Notice that he is referring to the level of the negative reaction. In fact he clearly states that "several of the 100% straight guys here understand a simple no is all that is necessary" That in no way assumes that they are lying, or automatically makes them gay.
You know, we may just be agreeing with each other, and misunderstanding. Let's try this, agree or disagree....
1. It is ok for a man to ask another man if he would be open to a bj, and see if there is any interest?
2. It is NOT ok if either is in a monagamous relationship?
3. Once disinterest is established, it is NOT ok to continue to persist and try to change his mind?
4. You cannot determine if a man is totally straight based on the fact that you have only seen him with women?
I thank you for the compliment :smile:. Open minded debating helps to understand each other and possibly clear up misunderstandings, and even sometimes works towards agreements. :smile:
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I agree with the circumstances, which I covered a couple with the next couple questions.There could be too many to list
See, we actually pretty much agree :beerchug2:
So,I was wondering,,,once you're no longer with your girlfriend, can I suck your cock??
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Here are my two cents. I am straight, but if approached I would probably let a gay guy blow me. Especially if I hadn't gotten any recently. I don't think this would make me gay because I am not the one doing the sucking. A mouth is a mouth, no matter what is behind it.
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