Being dumped and never getting over it.

[GS_PL]

It was abrupt (to me, to him it was a long time waiting), but I was kicked to the curb many years ago for a guy with a salary at least five times my own, an incredible physique (which my partner worked his ass off to also obtain), and a third leg. I had no chance. He was also much closer in age to my partner, who was much younger than me.

As more time went on, I've just become more and more enraged that he had a relationship with me in the first place, since he was so miserable in my company for over 5 years. He's gone from an overweight liberal who was shy, with me being his predominant social life, to an outgoing, ultra-conservative, highly active, kick sand in my face douchebag. I didn't have social media, but he used it to scream to the hills how unhappy he was being with me (which would explain everyone we knew acting very awkward in our presence).

I've made personal strides for the better for my life in the 8 years of being away from him, but will never make penis enhancement or political switches to match what he's done with himself, and has worked for him swimmingly. I am legally not allowed to see him or his husband - he had the financial ability to "pay witnesses" to appear in a court of law to make me out to be an unhinged safety risk, which needless to say is borderline suicidally hurtful.

 

[Brodie888]

Nothing lasts forever and from the sounds of things, some things should have ended sooner than it did.

It's time to let go and stop allowing your ex to take up all that space inside your head. Nothing can be gained by holding onto the pieces of a broken relationship.

You need to do that to make room before someone else can take his place.

Breakups are normal. Sometimes your path in life diverges from the people we love. Better to wave them goodbye and wish them all the best as you walk your own path than get stuck standing still going nowhere.

 

[Vastian]

Just saying from my expierence with an older guy. 1. At the time it was good. Issues arose but that's a relationship.
2. When we did break up.(I admit I didn't put much effort into learning how stuff worked so when we split i found out "our properties" we actually his properties.

End of the day as much as it sucks and isn't fun. Just have to start over and make the best of what you have. Work to improve but don't look back and judge. Just work hard. Make your own life so your never in that position again

 

[hotcouple_be]

ever heard of "No good deeds ever go unpunished" ? don't worry, we've all been there.

personaly i see the bright side and even thanks them for what they did,
never felt any more guilt for being an asshole ever since

 

[micnov]

I'm so sorry to hear what you went through. He sounds awful. How shameful that he didn't communicate with you about things and choose to broadcast them on social media instead. He sounds like a pick me type when I read how he's changed his personality. In a way it's good that you were rid of him. I know it's hard but try not to think about him and focus on finding someone else who's deserving of your love. Wish you the best. Take good care of yourself.