I know its hard to find a trans women mostly because we aren't that common. We make up less then .2% of women but some studies have estimated that around 80% of heterosexual men are trans attracted. So meeting one you find attractive, that is into men, around your age, and you have things in common, is the equivalent of meeting a unicorn.
Yes unfortunately here are a lot of trans women in he sex industry as its hard for us to get a regular job and transitioning is expensive, also sadly alot of people set up fake profiles to lure the vast majority of men wanting to meet a trans woman. I doubt there will ever be an actual dating site dedicated to trans women as there just isnt enough of a market for it, the only ones you will ever find are the pay gated ones that use fake profiles to lure men into joining. Remember if she seems too good to be true, she probably is. Also take a long hard look in the mirror, do you really think a 23 year old porn star lookin chick is going to want to date you? (Maybe she will, but just be smart)
I tend to use Grindr more then Tinder as at least I don't have to spend hours explaining what being trans is to some dumbass who just swiped on my pic but didnt read my profile.
I think maybe try Tinder and Grindr and just remember to be open and kind like you would with any other woman. If she sees too good to be true she probably is. Dont treat us like we are some hidden monster you need to hide. Also please do some more research on trans people other then on porn sites. Comparing all trans women to the trans women you see in porn is like expecting every woman to be Jenna Jameson in her Prime. lol.
And most of all, when you do meet a genuine trans women, be grateful, as there aren't many of us, and if you don't treat us with respect there are literally thousands of other guys waiting to do so.
