Bottom role in sex

[Sexyguy]

Wondering how to top and bottom dynamic works in other relationships. I’ve been with my bf now for a year or so, he’s top and I’m bottom. When we have sex we usually start with kissing and stroking each others dicks and then he always wants me to suck his dick for a while before he fucks me which I love so totally happy with that but then after we’ve fucked and he’s cum I always have to jerk myself off as he’s done once he’s cum, he’ll still kiss me and stuff while I finish myself but sometimes I’d like him to suck me off after to finish me and have suggested that a few times but he’s like oh I’m too tired now. I also said before I wanted to cum over him but he’s like no you’re the bottom so I want to see you covered in cum not me.

Our relationship overall is great but do other bottoms have it like this?

 

[briacon429]

Wondering how to top and bottom dynamic works in other relationships. I’ve been with my bf now for a year or so, he’s top and I’m bottom. When we have sex we usually start with kissing and stroking each others dicks and then he always wants me to suck his dick for a while before he fucks me which I love so totally happy with that but then after we’ve fucked and he’s cum I always have to jerk myself off as he’s done once he’s cum, he’ll still kiss me and stuff while I finish myself but sometimes I’d like him to suck me off after to finish me and have suggested that a few times but he’s like oh I’m too tired now. I also said before I wanted to cum over him but he’s like no you’re the bottom so I want to see you covered in cum not me.

Our relationship overall is great but do other bottoms have it like this?

If you’re unsatisfied (at least in this department) that’s an issue in its own right! A good lover will always want to satisfy their partner, in whatever form that takes. So he should never say he’s “too tired” after he’s cum and you haven’t.

I’d recommend having a talk with him. If your relationship is good otherwise, then he should be open to whatever you have to say.

 

[Brodie888]

My suggestion would be to alternate who's day it is to be serviced (since he's "too tired" to back up a short period after).

You can get him off one day and he can get you off the next. Even if your service day is a blowjob and a finger up your ass, it's better than what you are getting now.

 

[Tbprivate]

He could jerk you off to orgasm while fucking you

 

[Tomtom10]

I pretty much exclusively bottom with my bf, and it starts off in a similar way - kissing, touching eachothers bodies and dicks. He'll tease my hole with his fingers too. Then we normally suck eachothers dick for a bit, and then he slips inside me. Who cums on who really depends on the position we're in when we orgasm. If i'm riding him, i'll cum on his chest and he usually cums inside me. If we're missionary, he'll either cum inside of we both cum onto my chest.

 

[Southeasterner]

I think you can talk more about this and you can express your feelings and remember that, if you give him pleasure, you also need to receive pleasure and he needs to think more about.

 

[ILoveGames48]

i have been in a role where kiss make out and all--i suck his dick rim his ass he fucks me--i jerk off as he does--then we cum few minutes apart---
if you needing to jerk off after he is done bothers you tell him that youd like to be able to get off withhout jerking off---

my motto when i am with someone--if i wanted to jerk off--ii would stay home pop in a porn and jerk off--you shouldnt have to jerk off when with someone

 

[tps87]

My suggestion would be to alternate who's day it is to be serviced (since he's "too tired" to back up a short period after).

You can get him off one day and he can get you off the next. Even if your service day is a blowjob and a finger up your ass, it's better than what you are getting now.

This is pretty much what my partner and I do 90% of the time. We don't really have a formal plan we have just fallen into that routine of alternating. The other 10% of the time we both get off.

 

[ILoveGames48]

I don’t think sex should be planned .. it be like.. you fucked me last night tonight’s my turn… that would cause more issues than needed

 

[HungBtmVegas]

I'm submissive, so I date guys like your boyfriend. This is less of a top/bottom issue and more of a dom/sub issue, in my opinion. He sounds dom, but you don't seem sub.

 

[Telosx99]

I think everyone needs to be allowed to explore their sexuality to the fullest so that they know what they like and what gets them off. I'm a very submissive bottom, so I don't want to be with a partner long-term that wants to flip. My partner is a strict dominant top and when he lends me out to others they are also tops; but this is because I know what I like not because my needs aren't being met. I hope your bf is receptive to any conversation you bring about wanting to diversify your roles.

 

[Genuinkguy]

I think everyone needs to be allowed to explore their sexuality to the fullest so that they know what they like and what gets them off. I'm a very submissive bottom, so I don't want to be with a partner long-term that wants to flip. My partner is a strict dominant top and when he lends me out to others they are also tops; but this is because I know what I like not because my needs aren't being met. I hope your bf is receptive to any conversation you bring about wanting to diversify your roles.

if you are in a relationship there are limits to your sexual exploration.

 

[BigBobbby]

A question.. just a little intrigued..if you're fucked I'd that enough to make you cum?

 

[bigmanmikey444]

maybe have him on his back ride him and jack off shoot all over his chest.. and get up go shower and say im tired..