Bottoms: Do You Hookup Without Cumming?

[dfw051980]

Curious a few times I’ve hooked up and topped guys and once they ask me to cum, I cum and we are done. Which is fine for me but what does it do for you? Do u go home and cum later, is the thrill from making your top cum?

just hooked up with this dude, was a great session it was suppose to be him just sucking me but he wanted to get fucked. I topped him was great he wanted me to cum so I did. Once we were through he got his clothes on and left and he didn’t really act like he wanted to get off though he did run by resting cock a few times. I usually ask but I was beat, but I usually don’t mind sucking them or beating them off to help them cum.

So do some bottoms only want to fuck til their top cums?

 

[winesthel945]

Many times. Not all sexual encounters need to end in orgasm to be enjoyable and fulfilling. Indeed, they can be a form of edging that makes the eventual orgasm all the more exciting.

In my whoring days, I would often not cum during hookups, preferring to wait in case I might get another hookup later in the day and wanting to save it. When I'm bottoming, the act of cumming would sometimes cause my ass to become too tensed up and difficult to relax again, making sex more painful, so that too was sometimes a factor. And sometimes after orgasm you just aren't in the mood any more, not feeling like dealing with the "post nut" anxiousness that sometimes comes afterwards... so not cumming keeps you in the zone.

If someone seems to have enjoyed themselves but does not cum, you can certainly offer assistance. If they decline, let it go. It's not a comment on you or how much fun they had.

 

[assas1234]

I used to until I realized that as a bottom that I deserve to cum to. So as of lately, I do it and sometimes leave after I'm done, even if the top isn't finished haha. It's empowering

 

[hairybubblebum]

most of the time i try to cum 80% of the time ill only bottom for oral tops who will flip me over and suck me off. But when I was in Vegas i had 6 guys come through in a night and walked in on me doggy and ate my ass, sucked their dick they fucked me and left. i did make sure they were all protected though. Then my last guy was a bottom that would come in and eat my ass and suck me off, he was in the room next to me lol go figure perfect gindr connection.

 

[Brodie888]

In the situation you described, there's two reasons.

1. They're the type who are satisfied just being fucked in the same way some guys are satisfied just sucking cock without reciprocation.

2. They don't want to cum because they have multiple bookings that day. Some guys can cum several times a day but they're never as horny as not cumming the first time.

 

[deleted6209261]

I prefer not to cum as the sensitivity and sensations in my dick are addictive as hell! The feeling like i could cum at any moment if my undies/trousers rub me in the right way is intense and I love it.

I’ll only cum if the top is insistent on me cumming otherwise I’ll just enjoy the sensations throughout the rest of the day

 

[LICNYCgay]

Sometimes if I’ve been fucked long enough and well enough I can’t cum even if I want to. There’s a certain euphoria that happens for me after such a session that I can only compare to a marijuana high. Whether I cum or not, I’m leaving very satisfied.

 

[herbho]

In the situation you described, there's two reasons.

1. They're the type who are satisfied just being fucked in the same way some guys are satisfied just sucking cock without reciprocation.

2. They don't want to cum because they have multiple bookings that day. Some guys can cum several times a day but they're never as horny as not cumming the first time.

I am definitely #1. When I bottom, I do it to provide pleasure to the top. I do everything I can to make sure that his time with me is satisfying. I contract my muscles and milk him when he is inside me, talk dirty if he seems to want it, and assume any position he wants. This, along with the inevitable pleasure it provides my prostate, gives me great satisfaction. Also, when I am getting fucked, I don't feel a great deal of sensation in my cock, just in my other end. So, it is very difficult for me to cum while getting fucked or just after I have been fucked. I prefer to revel in the sensation in my ass and same the orgasm for later, when I can get very hard and get relief. The orgasms are usually huge and the pleasure immense. It's probably more psychological than physical, but it works for me.

 

[uncutwonder v2.0]

I’m not opposed to cumming when I bottom (though it’s an added bonus if it’s hands-free), but I’m usually not interested in having my dick played with and tend to wear a jock.

For me, I’m more interested in my top’s pleasure and the pleasure of him inside me than I am with what’s going on with what’s hanging off of me.

 

[rjvansen99]

For me, when I bottom, it really is all about the top. The sexual high I get from knowing I made him cum, that he came for me, is what I’m after. Enjoy yourself and if they don’t cum it’s cool to ask, but know they enjoyed it just as much as you!

 

[bottom for hung]

I’m not opposed to cumming when I bottom (though it’s an added bonus if it’s hands-free), but I’m usually not interested in having my dick played with and tend to wear a jock.

For me, I’m more interested in my top’s pleasure and the pleasure of him inside me than I am with what’s going on with what’s hanging off of me.

I am the same way. It is more about being taken on the ride than me making sure I get off myself.

 

[dfw051980]

Great replies thanks everyone. For me I’d rather my bottom cum, I want us both to have that moment of ecstasy.
But also even though I’m 80% a top… I love cock too! I love being able to get my cock serviced but service my partners too.
But everyone answers I can understand the reasoning why some bottoms prefer to cum.

 

[size_worshiper]

I'm a submissive total bottom, and for me having sex with a guy is all about getting him off, so I don't need to cum myself to enjoy it. I actually used to meet up with a guy who wouldn't let me make myself cum, he loved fucking me and sending me away with blue balls and it was so hot. I'd love to meet another guy like him.

 

[Brett222]

Im a total sub bottom and I try not to cum. Because when shoot my load I sometimes feel like im done and i dont want fuck anymore. I let my top cum first when were fucking. I do like my uncut penis held by my top too

 

[Jlatinochub]

The chance you take being a bottom. Unless I was being jerked while getting fucked, I was not guaranteeing I was going to cum just from anal. It happens, marvelous, but if not I had a good reason to masturbate later.

 

[deleted896879]

I think that might just be a personality thing? I'm sure some bottoms out there want to cum during sex just as much as they want their tops to, and some only care if their top cums.

Personally I care more about the top cumming than I do myself. If they can get me to cum that's awesome, but if I don't cum during the session, I don't mind. As long as we both had fun.

 

[london_traveller]

I’m very much a bottom and I struggle to cum just wanking. But for me having sex is all about being an outlet for the top, pleasuring him and allowing him to cum. Being instrumental for the top to fuck without inhibition and cum is climax for me.

 

[chrisrobin]

Curious a few times I’ve hooked up and topped guys and once they ask me to cum, I cum and we are done. Which is fine for me but what does it do for you? Do u go home and cum later, is the thrill from making your top cum?

just hooked up with this dude, was a great session it was suppose to be him just sucking me but he wanted to get fucked. I topped him was great he wanted me to cum so I did. Once we were through he got his clothes on and left and he didn’t really act like he wanted to get off though he did run by resting cock a few times. I usually ask but I was beat, but I usually don’t mind sucking them or beating them off to help them cum.

So do some bottoms only want to fuck til their top cums?

When I bottom I try and hold on till the guy fucking me shoots his load then I let go. I always have an erection and can shoot my load hands free from just being fucked, when I guy has his cock in my asshole and I cum the contraction from my asshole send sensations through the guys cock, a bit like the spasms you get in your asshole when he shoots.
When I top I always like to know my bottom has cum, either hand free or with hand stimulation, if they don't want to cum then they usually make it clear but to me having an orgasm is great and if you both orgasm round the same time even better

 

[dfw051980]

When I bottom I try and hold on till the guy fucking me shoots his load then I let go. I always have an erection and can shoot my load hands free from just being fucked, when I guy has his cock in my asshole and I cum the contraction from my asshole send sensations through the guys cock, a bit like the spasms you get in your asshole when he shoots.
When I top I always like to know my bottom has cum, either hand free or with hand stimulation, if they don't want to cum then they usually make it clear but to me having an orgasm is great and if you both orgasm round the same time even better

You’re response turned me on dude . very hot thanks.

 

[harlemboy81]

I am way more interested in making the top cum. Although it is hot if he can make me cum handsfree.