Chubby Chasers

[Ninjabob]

I don't know if this is the right place to post this but I'm looking for some feedback/opinions. I'm a fairly plus sized man with the usual insecurities that you may associate with being fat. It doesn't really get me down generally outside of dating. In my experience I've had many people find me attractive but the vast majority of them seem to fetishise me and my body, which makes me feel weird and gross. I've had people grab my chest and comment about my "tits" during sex, or tell me they wanna cuddle my belly etc which on the surface seems sweet but I can't help feel it's rooted in fetish. Even comments like "I love bigger guys" gives me an uneasy feeling, which I fully appreciate is due to my past experiences.

What I want to know is: what is it about big guys that chasers like?

I want to know how much of my unease is my own problem and how much is warranted due to the behaviours of others.

And do other big guys have experiences like this? Tell me I'm not alone!

 

[yearites]

take what you can get, when they start focusing on your body more than your words id be concerned

 

[lesshake]

take what you can get, when they start focusing on your body more than your words id be concerned

Christ, that's some shit-ass advice.

 

[Ninjabob]

Christ, that's some shit-ass advice.

Right? Considering my problem is that they're literally focusing on my body and not my words

 

[Erikchub]

I don't know if this is the right place to post this but I'm looking for some feedback/opinions. I'm a fairly plus sized man with the usual insecurities that you may associate with being fat. It doesn't really get me down generally outside of dating. In my experience I've had many people find me attractive but the vast majority of them seem to fetishise me and my body, which makes me feel weird and gross. I've had people grab my chest and comment about my "tits" during sex, or tell me they wanna cuddle my belly etc which on the surface seems sweet but I can't help feel it's rooted in fetish. Even comments like "I love bigger guys" gives me an uneasy feeling, which I fully appreciate is due to my past experiences.

What I want to know is: what is it about big guys that chasers like?

I want to know how much of my unease is my own problem and how much is warranted due to the behaviours of others.

And do other big guys have experiences like this? Tell me I'm not alone!

You are definitely not alone with that experience!!! I am having the same when it comes to dating and sex. I am told they are in my breast or when it comes to bisexual guys or even straight guys they are fancying my hips and butt.
I have my insecurities and try not to focus in my thinking on that too much. I guess when it is about dating and our community a lot are focussing on the look more than on personality at first. Especially if it is in the internet. In my experience that changes after we are getting to know eachother more.
In the end isnt that the same what e.g. muscular dudes have to experience as well? I hope only without the insecurities we are carrying in us. And even that must not be the case.

 

[maxdenozo]

it's disappointing that prevalent attitudes toward fat people revolve around either shame or fetishization. they're just people with bodies. anyone can be sexy, regardless of size, and if more people were open about their attraction to fat people (many men will disparage a person, often a woman, for their weight, before going home and wanking to BBW porn), i imagine there'd be fewer "chubby chasers," because the allure of doing something "taboo" would be diminished

all that to say, there are absolutely people who will love you and your body without reducing you to just your body and i'm wishing you luck on more of them entering your life

 

[Ninjabob]

it's disappointing that prevalent attitudes toward fat people revolve around either shame or fetishization. they're just people with bodies. anyone can be sexy, regardless of size, and if more people were open about their attraction to fat people (many men will disparage a person, often a woman, for their weight, before going home and wanking to BBW porn), i imagine there'd be fewer "chubby chasers," because the allure of doing something "taboo" would be diminished

all that to say, there are absolutely people who will love you and your body without reducing you to just your body and i'm wishing you luck on more of them entering your life

That's incredibly sweet. Thank you for saying that.

 

[Bgpolmast]

I don't know if this is the right place to post this but I'm looking for some feedback/opinions. I'm a fairly plus sized man with the usual insecurities that you may associate with being fat. It doesn't really get me down generally outside of dating. In my experience I've had many people find me attractive but the vast majority of them seem to fetishise me and my body, which makes me feel weird and gross. I've had people grab my chest and comment about my "tits" during sex, or tell me they wanna cuddle my belly etc which on the surface seems sweet but I can't help feel it's rooted in fetish. Even comments like "I love bigger guys" gives me an uneasy feeling, which I fully appreciate is due to my past experiences.

What I want to know is: what is it about big guys that chasers like?

I want to know how much of my unease is my own problem and how much is warranted due to the behaviours of others.

And do other big guys have experiences like this? Tell me I'm not alone!

To me is simple, the same reaction that some have to a squared off chest and six pack, I get looking at a belly and thick thighs/body. The personality and chemistry of course have to work, but in terms of physical appearance is boils down to the simple understanding that some people like the color blue, others like red, others like green. We’re all attracted to diff things.

Culture, and stereotyping program the mass on what to want or not, but human nature will eventually get you where you were meant to be. Every human is beautiful to someone, and ugly to others.

Henry Cavill or Matt Bomer can try on my dick for hours and it wont get it hard, they’re not attractive to ME, as they’re to vast majority. However, to see a hot thick guy walking on the street and it’s an instant hard on.

 

[Bgpolmast]

it's disappointing that prevalent attitudes toward fat people revolve around either shame or fetishization. they're just people with bodies. anyone can be sexy, regardless of size, and if more people were open about their attraction to fat people (many men will disparage a person, often a woman, for their weight, before going home and wanking to BBW porn), i imagine there'd be fewer "chubby chasers," because the allure of doing something "taboo" would be diminished

all that to say, there are absolutely people who will love you and your body without reducing you to just your body and i'm wishing you luck on more of them entering your life

Exactly. Fetishization in all forms is awful and it’s worse when people do it secretly. When guys just fuck a big guy in secret, or love BBC but in secret, or trans in secrecy… they don’t date them or admit to their friends and family what they like as if it is a cause for shame or embarrassment.
Since I physically fall in 4 dif fetishized groups, I understand the concept and how it feels to be fetishized, and isn’t good feeling. However, nothing like finding the right one, the people who get torn on not for what you represent, but for who/how you are.

 

[Mr.Eugene]

This is an interesting video. Good looking young guy with a nice body and dick of steel.
His chub is very happy!

Stud chaser fucks and breeds chub - ThisVid.com