Complimentary Kinks: Exhibitionism And Voyeurism

[Ottersuit]

I never, ever thought of myself as a voyeur.

The word never had the right sound to describe my tastes. It wasn't that the word was taboo, it just wasn't me. It had a non-consentual factor that never felt quite right. As soon as I heard the term "consentual voyeur" I immediately knew it was the perfect way to describe this long-time desire of mine. For those of you unfamiliar with the term, a consenting voyeur is someone who truly loves, and relishes in, giving lots of attention to an person who enjoys (and consents to) being watched.

To be honest, realizing I was a voyeur seemed like the more challenging side of the exhibitionist/voyeur coin. From what I understood, almost all people loved to watch someone else show off and get off. Exhibitionists were the amazingly confident (and rare) people on Chaturbate who were in the spotlight....voyeurs were the rest of us who watched.

Finding this site changed my perspective entirely. Reading posts and chatting with others made me understand that not all of the people showing off on Chaturbate identify as exhibitionists, just as not everyone watching them identify as voyeurs. It's a fun, passing experience for many people.

When I met a self-identified exhibitionist for the first time, there was this immediate connection. It was that magnetic "aha" moment I can imagine many exhibitionists and voyeurs experience when they meet each other. A complimentary kink connection.

What made it so awesome? Exhibitionists love the attention a true voyeur can give and, like many voyeurs, I had an almost limitless supply of attention to give.

To be honest, even today, I feel a bit nervous when meeting an exhibitionist. It sort of like meeting a unicorn, I can't believe they exist....someone who loves to be watched as much as I love watching. I often worry that asking them to show off and get nude so often might scare them away.

Apparently not!

Just as I can't believe there are people who love being nude and showing off, this exhibitionist explained they were surprised people like me existed - eager to give this attention so fully and deeply. Talk about a kink win-win!

The exhibitionist, who also happened to be a straight man, added that they loved having a voyeur consistently ask/tell them to get nude. This is because 1) its what they want to do all the time, and 2) it gives them permission to live out their kinky desires without worry of offending anyone, and 3) thet can get more into the experience of being watched, admired, and appreciated because they know their voyeur auduence is always eager to see more!

While having this conversation was incredible, we lost touch over time. I still find exhibitionists to be extremely rare and would welcome new exhibitionist friends if they are out there!

I am curious to hear from other voyeurs and exhibitionists....what is it like for you when you connect with someone with a complimentary kink?

 

[13810261]

I used to go to sex clubs and always had a good time. Sometimes I'd be invited to fuck. Or as I say watch and jerk off. Female for hot and dirty talking to me and another guy. I like watching any sex

 

[goldscorpguy]

I am a self confessed exhibitionist and even talking about it here fills a need. I have options on how I feed this desire. It might just be subtle, like letting my towel flap open in the gym sauna or drying myself off in the locker room with a semi flopping around. I'm always shaved smooth all over and wearing cock rings because I know that will get me noticed.
If I want a stronger hit i'll go on a webcam site and spend a few hours edging. The site I use has different adult rooms so I know I am sometimes being watched by fifty or sixty people. I like to watch their cams too but it's being watched that gives me the most pleasure.
At the top end of the scale I have a choice of two spa companies. One is naturist and mixed sex, one is gay owned and for guys only. Both places have play rooms upstairs where just about anything goes. If I've gone there alone then I might just lay out naked with the door open. If I get viewers then I start stroking. If I've gone with a friend then we'll put on a show, often sucking and sometimes fucking to an audience. Sometimes someone will ask If they can join in, which is fine, so long as they're happy for the door to stay open, which most are. I've had all sorts of adventures there from circle sucks to three and foursomes.
My exhibitionist fantasy is having a wrestling match where we're oiled up, naked or in flimsy jocks. We have a big crowd watching us and egging us on. My opponent eventually overpowers me and we end up sucking and fucking as the audience cheers.
It's weird when I think about it. Ask me to get up in a room full of strangers to make a speech and I would be ultra nervous. Yet tell me I'll be naked and there'll be stroking or fucking and I'll be first in line!I
I've never knowingly connected with someone who identifies as a voyeur but I guess many of those who have watched me over the years would fit into this category. The idea of meeting or even just chatting to a voyeur about our fetish would be interesting to say the least, and exciting.

 

[PhallicApotheosis]

I show at every opportunity. i am straight uncut and a major exhibitionist and show off perpetually on cam and all over the web. Here are options to watch my perfect autoretracting dynamic uncut cock (proclaimed beautiful and perfect independently by thousands of admirers). I am many places, always with a the name PhallicApotheosis like here, for instance tele gr4m (where I maintain my exhibitionism chan nel), discord, whereby, rabb.it and watch2gether (nice because i can play my Japanese porn and show together on my iPhone) and Kik although no videochat. I am PhallicApotheosis@gmail for gchat and hangouts as well as P3RF3CTDICK@gmail and tacit.apotheosis@gmail and hangouts is cool because one can login from multiple devices and provide a discrete feed from each so the viewer may enjoy multiple perspectives. Tacit.apotheosis@gmail is my actual username on stripchat and wire and finally on cam4 it was truncated to phallap and my latest skype is drinkeverylastdropofmymilk@outlook. Most of these I’m rarely on but thought I’d give you the range of options in case something works.

 

[Jake1973]

Yeah I am super into this, either role, and about the only way I want to be a part of it. I mean, it would be hot to watch some hottie innocently giving a show, I am not turned on by risk so streaking, doing dares or flashing someone unsuspecting does not give me any kind of rush.

I agree with you it is not easy to find someone who is the yin to your yang in this situation. A lot of guys claim to be into the scene but then want to either go down on you or take their dick out (I am basically ace when it comes to actual sexual contact, so either one of those things makes me want to bolt) or flat out will be bored if it doesn't lead to sex. I have had a few over the years that have turned into lasting connections because we each scratched each other's itch.

 

[deleted9311661]

I'm not exhibitionistic in public, but last night I was camming with a guy and we were comparing cock sizes. I'm 8" and he was 8.5". Eventually it just became us getting off on the sight of eachother jerking our big cocks with both hands, and I ended up making myself cum right then and there.

 

[DP1989]

Its difficult to find a true exhibitionist couple. I feel like most people are conditioned and/or naturally feel grossed out by the idea of being watched by another or performing for another. I've only played with one couple that seemed to enjoy being watched. The rest were either nervous or didn't get off on being watched.

I've also played the role of exhibitionist, and well, lets just say performance anxiety is a real thing. There has to be comfort and chemistry, otherwise it won't work. When I'm performing, I need to be able to do what I want with her. Otherwise, my dick goes limp, and the show is ruined.

 

[caliburn]

This is one of my and my wife's greatest passions.
It started in the covid era. We were bored, everything was closed and I was still registered on a gay dating app. So from time to time we invited submissive gay men over to watch us.

In the meantime, it got even more intense. My wife works as a dominatrix. And some of her slaves want to watch us, especially when they have cuckold fantasies. We can let our fantasies run wild - and we get paid for it. It's a great, special experience every time. I'm already hard the whole time beforehand when I know it's about to happen again.

So I can also live out my bi side in my marriage. It's fabulous!

 

[x911xxx]

I'm an exhibitionist and absolutely love it. There's something very intoxicating about having others getting off to the sight of your body. My last adventure was showing off my ass off in public for a married man...absolutely loved it and so did he.

 

[HungBtmVegas]

I don't know if I identify as an exhibitionist because I seldom go out of my way to be seen. However, I do enjoy having sex in the open, both in controlled environments like sex parties and in places where there's a palpable risk of being caught.