Crush on new classmate

[rooo003]

Crush on new classmate

hi, i have a problem that i would like to find the solution. first my mother tongue is french, so sorry if i made mistakes. well, i am a 21 year old student, there is this boy who is new in class he arrived on wednesday. he sat right in front of me. i find him rather handsome and i have a bit of a crush on him.

we started to chat about everything and nothing then he asked me if i had a girlfriend i said no and we continued the discussion. i find him a bit effeminate. i took his number since i am the class representative and i had to introduce him to the class forum.

thursday after coming home from school i send him by whatsapp the lessons we had already had to do since he is late, so we start to chat again, our conversation is really fluid and it seems like we knew each other since we have the same vibe and on the same wavelength.

he asks me why I don't have a girlfriend and I tell him that it's simply because I can't find one that I like, from there we start talking only about sex, he tells me that he's a big fuckboy and that he has a bodycount of over 50, then he asks me if he can ask me an indiscreet question, I say yes and I'm already expecting the fateful question. he asks me if I'm attracted to men, I procrastinate (since it's a rather frowned upon subject here) then I end up answering yes and I ask if he is too. he tells me no that he's only straight but that he has no problem with gays since his little brother is gay himself.

so he starts asking me questions about my sex life like if I'm B or T, my flirtations with guys... I remember that we started talking at 7pm and it was already midnight, so I stop the conversation by telling him that I'm sleepy, tomorrow at school and ask him to delete our messages and he says no problem.

now the problem is that I still have a crush on him and I don't believe him when he says he's only straight, when we talk face to face our looks are really deep, I searched his friends list and he follows hot girls as well as hot boys who are definitely gay. after all it's only been three days that we've known each other I could be wrong. how should I behave in front of him at school and by message. He's 24 .

 

[theplayerking]

Crush on new classmate

hi, i have a problem that i would like to find the solution. first my mother tongue is french, so sorry if i made mistakes. well, i am a 21 year old student, there is this boy who is new in class he arrived on wednesday. he sat right in front of me. i find him rather handsome and i have a bit of a crush on him.

we started to chat about everything and nothing then he asked me if i had a girlfriend i said no and we continued the discussion. i find him a bit effeminate. i took his number since i am the class representative and i had to introduce him to the class forum.

thursday after coming home from school i send him by whatsapp the lessons we had already had to do since he is late, so we start to chat again, our conversation is really fluid and it seems like we knew each other since we have the same vibe and on the same wavelength.

he asks me why I don't have a girlfriend and I tell him that it's simply because I can't find one that I like, from there we start talking only about sex, he tells me that he's a big fuckboy and that he has a bodycount of over 50, then he asks me if he can ask me an indiscreet question, I say yes and I'm already expecting the fateful question. he asks me if I'm attracted to men, I procrastinate (since it's a rather frowned upon subject here) then I end up answering yes and I ask if he is too. he tells me no that he's only straight but that he has no problem with gays since his little brother is gay himself.

so he starts asking me questions about my sex life like if I'm B or T, my flirtations with guys... I remember that we started talking at 7pm and it was already midnight, so I stop the conversation by telling him that I'm sleepy, tomorrow at school and ask him to delete our messages and he says no problem.

now the problem is that I still have a crush on him and I don't believe him when he says he's only straight, when we talk face to face our looks are really deep, I searched his friends list and he follows hot girls as well as hot boys who are definitely gay. after all it's only been three days that we've known each other I could be wrong. how should I behave in front of him at school and by message. He's 24 .

You’ve already outed yourself to him, so the next move is his. I suggest being friendly and seeing where it goes, but don’t get your hopes up.

 

[Kaikaiwin]

You cannot expect anything more than a fairly good friendship to evolve from this chance encounter. He has stated he is straight. Your vibes that he is not 100% are your way of holding on to hope that something more than a friendship will develop. Respect his boundaries and he will respect yours.

The most positive thing is that he is an open person with whom to have a good conversation about life. This holds much more value than being horny over a self-confessed 'fuckboy'.

I hope your friendship can become stronger despite your differences in sexuality.

 

[Southeasterner]

If you are gay and he is straight, there is only one option: friendship. Study! You are there to study. Don´t waste time and energy.

 

[rooo003]

If you are gay and he is straight, there is only one option: friendship. Study! You are there to study. Don´t waste time and energy.

Hurts to understand but you're right I definitely won't waste my energy on him. Friendship is already good

 

[Southeasterner]

Hurts to understand but you're right I definitely won't waste my energy on him. Friendship is already good

I had the same experience in College. Fortunately, I had the good sense to understand that it would be impossible. I clearly remember that I cried the day I decided to kill that love inside me, but today I thank God for my wise decision. He never suspected it because I never said a word about it.