I am a versatile top, but recently when my friend with benefits has fucked me I cum very quickly. His dick isn't big at all (5.5 inches tops) and he loves a lot of foreplay and very long, tantric sex sessions. By the time he sticks it in me sometimes I cum in less than a minute. He can be fucked for upwards of an hour, and explodes a geyser of cum all over, but I ejaculate thick, long globs of semen regardless of how hard I try to hold back my orgasm. And for me when I cum (especially when bottoming) I'm done being penetrated for awhile. I'll always try to finish him off (blowing, jerking him, or at the very least, having him pound out a load on me), but I know he would much rather cum while fucking. I've even tried to conceal or hide my orgasm so he can cum while fucking me (in a condom), but when there's a huge puddle of baby batter on on the bed or floor, it's an obvious giveaway. When I fuck him I always make him cum, and then he wants me to keep on pounding away untill I cum inside him. When I fuck him he frequently comes twice, but sometimes 3, even 4 times. By his 4th orgasm his ejaculate was 4 - 5 drops of cum that shot out and the well was literally run dry. His cock was still spasming, and his asshole contracting, but fluid stop coming out. He can do all this without a break and adamantly insists that it's unbelievable to have multiple orgasms. I always try to communicate how close I am to climaxing and if he's close to another orgasm he's even told me to hold off until he comes again. I kind of feel bad when I shoot my wad so early, and pull my ass off his cock before he can finish while pumping me. Does he have a unique aquired "taste" or tolerance for pasting so long with multiple orgasms? Or should I be able to take a longer pounding? Sometimes when the heat blows a huge load and obviously orgasms, and I'm not close to cumming, I'll pull out and beat myself off. e doesn't like that and demands I stick it back in. Maybe if we do different positions when I bottom, I'll be able to control my orgasmic theshold more. He normally does me doggy style and just last night I oozed out a huge load all over his new duvet. He loved it, but I didn't for the simple fact I blew my semen in under a minute and all over his newly made bed taboot. I told him that I was about to cum if he kept fucking me and he said, "Well that's the fucking goal". After I busted my nut he pulled out and said "See when your bottoming it doesn't take long. Take a break till you can plow me."
Cumming too early when i bottom. how can i last longer?
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A bottom isn’t done until the top is done. When I’ve found myself in your situation, I just continue cause moms ain’t raise no bitch.
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My husband is quick on the trigger. He likes it from behind and would always stroke his cock while I fucked him. It takes me a while and he would be done far sooner than I would. I started telling him to keep his hands off his cock. I ended up having to hold his hands behind his back and letting them go when I got close. Otherwise, he would cum way too soon, and then ask me to stop because it wasn't comfortable any longer. It also helped keep him under control because he would thrash sometimes and once I ended up getting slammed into the dresser.
I’m quick at the trigger too but I can cum more than once and even though I might cum quick I continue to give the top my all.
The other option is for you to fuck him first and let you have your turn torwards the end since he's got a very short refractory period. By then he probably doesn't care if you blow in 60 seconds.
In the long term, after a while your brain will get used to the sensation of being fucked and you will have more control.
In the long term, after a while your brain will get used to the sensation of being fucked and you will have more control.
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You don't make it clear whether you are cumming hands-free or with some form of penile stimulation such as rubbing against the bed, so my first thought is try wearing a jockstrap so your dick isn't stimulated, and better yet team it with a good quality silicone cockring which should help you last longer anyway. However if you are cumming hands-free then obviously this doesn't apply.
He is definitely the unusual one in this scenario not you though - most bottoms find it uncomfortable at best and unbearable at worst to keep being pounded after they cum, which is why it's a good idea to try and coordinate orgasm with the guy topping unless you are a true submissive masochistic bottom who doesn't mind discomfort or pain which I think is not you since you're Vers. I don't quite understand why he doesn't grasp that although he might be happy to keep going and cums multiple times, that's just not how you're built and it's not working for you.
To me the key here, as with most good sex, is communication - if you feel like you are getting close to orgasm and he's not, he needs to pull out and you do other things until the urge subsides, then you can resume. Or, if he wants to make you cum and then that's it for you, he has to pull out and accept that you'll finish him off in other ways or he has to wait until you may be ready to take his dick again - which should be on your schedule, not his - your hole/internal muscles should determine this not his urge to plant a load in you.
Of course it may just be that you have a basic sexual incompatibility and the type of sex you both want and expect are not in harmony with each other.
He is definitely the unusual one in this scenario not you though - most bottoms find it uncomfortable at best and unbearable at worst to keep being pounded after they cum, which is why it's a good idea to try and coordinate orgasm with the guy topping unless you are a true submissive masochistic bottom who doesn't mind discomfort or pain which I think is not you since you're Vers. I don't quite understand why he doesn't grasp that although he might be happy to keep going and cums multiple times, that's just not how you're built and it's not working for you.
To me the key here, as with most good sex, is communication - if you feel like you are getting close to orgasm and he's not, he needs to pull out and you do other things until the urge subsides, then you can resume. Or, if he wants to make you cum and then that's it for you, he has to pull out and accept that you'll finish him off in other ways or he has to wait until you may be ready to take his dick again - which should be on your schedule, not his - your hole/internal muscles should determine this not his urge to plant a load in you.
Of course it may just be that you have a basic sexual incompatibility and the type of sex you both want and expect are not in harmony with each other.
You haven’t clarified whether you’re wanking or not when bottoming. If you are self stimulating, stop.
If you aren’t then it sounds like you’ve got a sensitive prostate and he’s hitting it just right. Maybe try and find a different position that doesn’t lead to him hitting your prostate so much?
Also, continuing to get fucked after ogasming has to be the most intense pleasure I’ve experienced in my life! I bloody love it
If you aren’t then it sounds like you’ve got a sensitive prostate and he’s hitting it just right. Maybe try and find a different position that doesn’t lead to him hitting your prostate so much?
Also, continuing to get fucked after ogasming has to be the most intense pleasure I’ve experienced in my life! I bloody love it
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i cum fast too but i make sure my cock is not touched and if i do cum i just tell him to fuck me harder 
1. Get fucked more often. The more you use your ass for pleasure, the longer you will be able to take stimulation without being pushed over the edge.
2. Leave your cock alone. Just enjoy the pleasure the penis in your ass is giving you. You’re going to cum. Don’t rush it.
My 2 cents.
2. Leave your cock alone. Just enjoy the pleasure the penis in your ass is giving you. You’re going to cum. Don’t rush it.
My 2 cents.
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As the others have stated, are you cumming from physical stimulation? Best thing to do, not touch your dick until he is ready. Now if it's from him fucking you, producing a Hands Free explosion. Here is my thoughts on why. If your friend's dick is only 5.5". That's the perfect length for constant stimulation on your prostate. There is barley seconds for you to get past that internal sensation, before he hit that spot again, over and over and over. Making you cum quicker. I do not understand why some bottoms do not enjoy getting fucked after they cum. I find it even more stimulating with a continued fucking after I have came. Which is rare for me, but it has happened. If I want to cum, usually it's after he has finished... Just have fun, if you cum early, take a mini break, continue to play around keeping him stimulated. Then let him fuck you again, allowing him to cum in your butt.... Just a different view point.
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For me, the longer a fuck session goes on, the less likely I will cum at all unless I really work at it. This is a big plus in my book because I will not cum before my top guy and I can keep on enjoying having a cock inside me and concentrate on that form of pleasure. And although sometimes I don’t cum at all, there’s an incredible, deep euphoria that I get after being fucked for a long time. It’s very satisfying on its own, and after that hits I don’t need to cum.
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Premature ejaculation is a problem that many men suffer from. Many of them feel ashamed or uncomfortable about this. Now we probably don't need to tell you that such a thing is not only annoying for yourself, but also for your girlfriend. So why don’t you focus yourself on her? Many women need clitoral stimulation to climax. How convenient: while you keep your own orgasm in check, you make her happy. Win/win.
with me--the first time i ejaculated-i was getting fucked doggystyle next thing i know as he was fucking me my cock was shooting cum onto his sheets--over the years it has happened
you may cum quickly--but i have been fucked by tops to where they cum one time to my three times--i never look at it as a bad thing--that cock is rubbing against your prostate and if it likes that stimulation then its going to make you cum quicker than you like
i actually went to a doctor about it years ago--asking if it was a medical problem-- he tells me to drop my pants and bend over-he puts on a glove lubes it and slid his finger inside me and checking my prostate---i wasnt all the way hard but next thing he and i noticed i was cumming on his floor---
he says my prostate felt fine-- said maybe its learning about control--i tried and tried but to no evail nothing worked for yrs-- now the age i am i last longer before i cum but i am precumming so much it just keeps oozing and oozing
you may cum quickly--but i have been fucked by tops to where they cum one time to my three times--i never look at it as a bad thing--that cock is rubbing against your prostate and if it likes that stimulation then its going to make you cum quicker than you like
i actually went to a doctor about it years ago--asking if it was a medical problem-- he tells me to drop my pants and bend over-he puts on a glove lubes it and slid his finger inside me and checking my prostate---i wasnt all the way hard but next thing he and i noticed i was cumming on his floor---
he says my prostate felt fine-- said maybe its learning about control--i tried and tried but to no evail nothing worked for yrs-- now the age i am i last longer before i cum but i am precumming so much it just keeps oozing and oozing
as a bottom for years i just did whatever the top said for me to do--i saw myself as submissive and the top as dominant--and i was proud to be submissive--- the more a guy fucked me--or guys if there were more than one there to join in--it was my duty to lay there and let them ge their pleasure--and i loved it to so it was a win win situation
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