Curious how tops feel about bottoms..

[ILoveGames48]

I am a versatile guy( I’ll fuck a guy or be fucked ) and I tend to think that a lot of tops do t have the right attitude about bottoms..


Not I know when I top .. I enjoy the bottom and appreciate him for enjoying being that bottom and taking cock in his ass big or small ..

.. but I’ve heard stories not just from guys on here but guys I have topped that the top would just ram his dick into them and fuck without thinking what the bottom wants.. because these tops think they are doing the bottom a favor by fucking them..


So I want to know as a top do you feel like you are doing the bottom a favor when fucking him.. or do you look at his satisfaction is just as important as yours

 

[CuriousKaidon]

I am primarily a bottom in most sexual situations, but there have been a couple of instances where I have been on top, but usually because the person I'm with was more bottom than I was. Hehe

On the few occasions that I have topped, I can tell you that what I felt as I fucked my partner was not a "you're my plaything, and i'll fuck you hard and fast", but a strangely protective and tender desire to pleasure them, and if they wanted it harder I'd pound them harder, if they wanted to go slow I'd go slow.

I remember that all three times I topped, I had this odd rule that I couldn't cum until they were about to, or wanted me to unload inside them. The first time I lost control before I could fulfil that rule, but me suddenly losing it and cumming hard inside them made them cum, so it was okay.

The next couple of times I was able to keep control. One asked me to fuck him hard and fast so he could cum, and I nutted just as he began to cum all over his stomach, and the third wanted me to cum before they did.

In summary, for me on the few occasions I have topped. it was like I cared a lot more for my partners pleasure and experience, and only once they were satisfied or gave me permission, would I let myself go and reach ciimax. I never thought of them as something to throw around, or dominate. If they'd asked for that, I might been a little rougher, but only cause they asked...

I hope that answers the question xP

 

[torched999]

personally i do,
while fucking, i would adjust my trance to their levels of pleasure.

obviously starting slow, then most would really want to go really hard and rough.
Definitely always listen to their instructions, but again, most end up really just wanna get impaled and pounded VERY hard,

lol i can even remember a couple of times where i had to take a break cause neither would cum, and it was just getting physically exhausting

 

[Andrej_u]

When I fuck a guy, I mostly feel grateful and honoured that he decided to share something as intimate as his asshole with me. And that he went through the nuisance of washing the inside of his ass, again for me.
I feel the responsibility to enter gently, to make sure he is feeling comfortable and it doesn't hurt.

If I manage to not let all these thoughts crush me, then I can start pounding him! Always making sure he feels good and appreciated.

 

[FanOfMrMagoo]

Personally I think there is an unhealthy problem of respect between the two in certain cases. Many bottoms tend to devalue themselves and look for alpha males. These top alphas treat them like poop. Even before, I must admit that I was content to have fun and try to beat my own records with each bottom without being interested in his pleasure. I didn't realize that it wasn't right because these bottoms were validating that. Until today there are some who refuse to see me if I don't just plan to use them as a cock hole.

 

[steveh9]

I just want to be used like a female whore when i'm a bottom

 

[swaffel]

I don’t feel that way about the guys I fuck. They are giving me the permission to enter him, to fuck him, and I show my appreciation including by giving him as much physical pleasure as possible. All that said, if he says clearly and unequivocally that he wants to be, and feel, used, well I can do that too.

 

[ILoveGames48]

I just want to be used like a female whore when i'm a bottom

That’s what the topic is totally about .. since you want to be treated that way ( trust me I been fucked by my share of guys ) .. and there’s times the tops would only worry about their pleasure and not the bottoms.. I’ve heard other friends of mine that were bottoms that felt like they had been basicly raped as the top didn’t care to do as they wanted like slow down or do it easier ..

 

[Annatarsauron]

That’s what the topic is totally about .. since you want to be treated that way ( trust me I been fucked by my share of guys ) .. and there’s times the tops would only worry about their pleasure and not the bottoms.. I’ve heard other friends of mine that were bottoms that felt like they had been basicly raped as the top didn’t care to do as they wanted like slow down or do it easier ..

I have certainly heard of such tops.

But I think there also is another side: whether the treatment is real or role play. I’m sure there are bottoms that want to be treated roughly but with the top playing that part even though the top cares about the bottom, his pleasure, and preferences. I think the second part — role play — usually arises between two people in a relationship, situationship, or with other such understanding on what’s real and what’s not.

Maybe I’ll like it rough. But only once I know I’m also being taken care of and that the top knows how to begin.

 

[ILoveGames48]

That’s good comment .. you last sentence.. .. I been with few tops have me on my stomach and they slam their cock inside me.. pushing either middle of back or on my shoulders where couldn’t get up.. ..

I enjoy being fucked rough .. just be nice him to slide it in easy first then begin pounding me


I’ve been I situations like that few times but I’d never do that to someone I was topping /fucking

I enjoy pain.. bondage and so much extreme stuff but even guys that are so that extreme stuff know to begin easy

 

[nixco]

I am primarily a bottom in most sexual situations, but there have been a couple of instances where I have been on top, but usually because the person I'm with was more bottom than I was. Hehe

On the few occasions that I have topped, I can tell you that what I felt as I fucked my partner was not a "you're my plaything, and i'll fuck you hard and fast", but a strangely protective and tender desire to pleasure them, and if they wanted it harder I'd pound them harder, if they wanted to go slow I'd go slow.

I remember that all three times I topped, I had this odd rule that I couldn't cum until they were about to, or wanted me to unload inside them. The first time I lost control before I could fulfil that rule, but me suddenly losing it and cumming hard inside them made them cum, so it was okay.

The next couple of times I was able to keep control. One asked me to fuck him hard and fast so he could cum, and I nutted just as he began to cum all over his stomach, and the third wanted me to cum before they did.

In summary, for me on the few occasions I have topped. it was like I cared a lot more for my partners pleasure and experience, and only once they were satisfied or gave me permission, would I let myself go and reach ciimax. I never thought of them as something to throw around, or dominate. If they'd asked for that, I might been a little rougher, but only cause they asked...

I hope that answers the question xP

So hot! You sound like a fantastic top, TBH.

 

[chrisrobin]

I suppose being versatile gives you a better understanding on what a fuck likes. We've all bent over for the cock rammer who's only thought is to get it in, shoot and leave. There are some guys who like to top who's only thought is to top and while they might not shove it in as far as they can right ay but enjoy that feeling of parting the cheeks they dont spend any time on foreplay. I hope that when I fuck a guy I treat him with respect and imagine what I'd be feeling as I penetrate his hole, shoot my cum and hopefully have him off as well.

 

[ILoveGames48]

Well it’s cool to think that way .. as all tops should.. it should be the bottom telling to top to thrust hard or begin pounding g harder .. it is two people after all not one .. seeking to be satisfied

 

[PeterJoe]

.. but I’ve heard stories not just from guys on here but guys I have topped that the top would just ram his dick into them and fuck without thinking what the bottom wants.. because these tops think they are doing the bottom a favor by fucking them..

I love being treated like that. Love it.

 

[ILoveGames48]

I agree … I’m usually the happiest if my ass is sore when done…

 

[chrisrobin]

I just want to be used like a female whore when i'm a bottom

So you think a female whore wants to be pounded raw?

 

[ILoveGames48]

I don’t think have to be a whore to like it rough.. the first woman I was with.. I was easy at first ( reasons won’t say) .. but each week I went there the more she wanted it rougher so I learned how to be rougher .. and she was far from being a whore

 

[Telosx99]

I agree … I’m usually the happiest if my ass is sore when done…

the sorer the better!

 

[Telosx99]

I'll chime in on the "it is me that wants to be treated roughly" voice. It is not because I'm self loathing and think I'm worthless or beneath anyone. I am a submissive to my core and though I love giving myself to dominant men for their pleasure, I love it even more when they take it. This isn't the same as being forced against my will. This is me liking to feel the force of a powerful man that can toss my body where he wants and forces his cock into me. When I am with someone who seeks a more passionate encounter, I appreciate when my top keeps eye contact and drives himself deeply into me as we create a rhythm together (as long as he buries he seed deeply in me when he's done). And when my top wants to treat me as a plaything, I happily look forward to the abuse my body will take and the brutality of the fucking I'm about to receive (as long as he (they) bury seed deeply in me when done). I prefer not to cum while being fucked unless my top forces me to. My total submission has wired my pleasure to my top's orgasm not my own.

 

[ILoveGames48]

I’ve been fucked by all kinds of cocks big ones small ones skinny ones thick ones.. and even been double penetrated .. and my ass been sore many times — have you ever been ripped / torn and bleeding during g or after it ?

Not to get sick or nasty but wonder if the first time you do number 2 does it hurt .. if so you get hard from it ? Or precum? I have