So I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year now, and I'm really struggling with our sex life. When we first got together, things were great in the bedroom, but now it's down to like once every three or four weeks. Sometimes we go a whole month without anything.
The thing is, I've got a pretty high sex drive. I'd honestly be happy having sex every day, but she just doesn't seem interested anymore. I'm always the one initiating, and I get turned down most of the time. It's starting to make me feel really unwanted and rejected.
What's really confusing is that she grabs my penis a lot throughout the day, but it never leads to anything sexual. It's like she's physically affectionate and playful but it never escalates.
I think there are actually two main issues going on. First, my penis is quite long, so when she gets really aroused and wet, I can go pretty deep, which can be uncomfortable for her. I tried getting these silicone rings called OhNut to limit how deep I can go, and she said that helped and much better, but we're still barely having sex.
The second problem is that I've never been able to cum from sex, so our sessions usually last 20+ minutes. I think she gets pretty sore from that, which probably makes her less eager to do it again.
I've even told her I'd be happy just going down on her (which I actually love doing and can make her finish pretty quickly), but she says no to that too. It's confusing because she seems to enjoy it when we do have sex. We even went on this nice vacation recently where she was super happy and relaxed the whole time, but still no interest in getting intimate.
Everything else between us is actually really good. We get along great, have fun together, all that stuff. But this physical connection is important to me, and I'm starting to wonder if we're just mismatched in this area.
I don't want to give up on us yet, but I'm worried that if things are already like this less than a year in, what's it going to be like in the future? Is this something we can work through, or should I accept that maybe we're just not compatible? How important is sexual compatibility anyway when everything else is good?
TLDR: My girlfriend and I have mismatched sex drives (I want it daily, she's fine with once a month). She grabs my penis throughout the day but rejects my advances. Our physical issues (my size causing discomfort and my inability to finish during sex) make things worse. Everything else is great, but I'm wondering if sexual incompatibility is enough reason to end an otherwise good relationship.
The thing is, I've got a pretty high sex drive. I'd honestly be happy having sex every day, but she just doesn't seem interested anymore. I'm always the one initiating, and I get turned down most of the time. It's starting to make me feel really unwanted and rejected.
What's really confusing is that she grabs my penis a lot throughout the day, but it never leads to anything sexual. It's like she's physically affectionate and playful but it never escalates.
I think there are actually two main issues going on. First, my penis is quite long, so when she gets really aroused and wet, I can go pretty deep, which can be uncomfortable for her. I tried getting these silicone rings called OhNut to limit how deep I can go, and she said that helped and much better, but we're still barely having sex.
The second problem is that I've never been able to cum from sex, so our sessions usually last 20+ minutes. I think she gets pretty sore from that, which probably makes her less eager to do it again.
I've even told her I'd be happy just going down on her (which I actually love doing and can make her finish pretty quickly), but she says no to that too. It's confusing because she seems to enjoy it when we do have sex. We even went on this nice vacation recently where she was super happy and relaxed the whole time, but still no interest in getting intimate.
Everything else between us is actually really good. We get along great, have fun together, all that stuff. But this physical connection is important to me, and I'm starting to wonder if we're just mismatched in this area.
I don't want to give up on us yet, but I'm worried that if things are already like this less than a year in, what's it going to be like in the future? Is this something we can work through, or should I accept that maybe we're just not compatible? How important is sexual compatibility anyway when everything else is good?
TLDR: My girlfriend and I have mismatched sex drives (I want it daily, she's fine with once a month). She grabs my penis throughout the day but rejects my advances. Our physical issues (my size causing discomfort and my inability to finish during sex) make things worse. Everything else is great, but I'm wondering if sexual incompatibility is enough reason to end an otherwise good relationship.
