i never knew such an orientation existed... and to be honest, i would have to say that it is probably rare. by definition, these people do not feel any sexual attraction unless there is a deep or close emotional connection; so that i interpret that as someone who has zero sexual attraction to anyone unless there is a bond of some sort and a strong one at that too. wow...
i'm not sure you will find many people like this who are true to the definition. we're sexual creatures to begin with and i would argue that it's inherent for the sake of procreation but there are the outliers.
thinking back, i would guess that i was a demisexual for about 6-9 months when i was learning and absorbing about the "red pill" as well as studying "mgtow". during this time, the shock of those realities turned me into a hands-off-women person wherein i lost all sexual desire for women but still yearned for the emotion connection that being with a woman would provide and therefore lost all interest to "fuck" and only wanted to "make love", per se. it was a weird state-of-mind looking back.
i'm way over it now and although i don't proclaim to be red-pilled or mgtow by any means, i've certainly learned a lot from these mindsets. as of today, i'm sexually attracted to various women i see however a piece-of-ass is not worth the headache or drama that can potentially come post-booty-call so i've practiced plenty of personal restraint. besides, i've already found my wife and we give each other plenty of sex to cure any curiosity out there. we both just don't want to deal with the baggage of other people anymore especially when it comes to sex.
thanks for the topic post; made me learn something new and a little more about myself too.
Thank YOU
for replying and also for making me realize maybe I wasn't clear enough with my question:
I recently realized I was demisexual. Didn't know the way I felt had a name: I always felt there was something odd/wrong about me. I used to think maybe a was too picky, maybe I was sexually repressed, maybe I'm only attracted to big muscular guys, maybe I just wasn't a very sexual person, maybe I'm too scared to being caught by my parents in a gay relationship, maybe being in love with my best friend made it impossible to notice other guys, and so on. I've thought some many things all these years trying to make sense.
I may look at other guys in the street/ internet and think "he's good looking" by analyzing their face, facial features, weight, height, butt, legs, overall harmony, etc. But never get sexually aroused nor attracted in any way. And the same applies to women.
I just don't feel the urge to be sexual with anyone. However, I've noticed a pattern: I've developed really strong sexual attraction towards some guys (a quite limited amount) , and 1. It's only once we developed some kind of friendship /mutual trust. 2. At first, I didn't think of them sexually. 3. Then I may get to a point where I could get a boner just by talking to them or staring at them. I go crazy and I'm open to everything, sexually speaking.
Some - stranger- guys flirt with/ wanna have sex but I just can't. I'm never sexually attracted right away. I usually feel nothing at all.
So, I'm trying to figure things out, cause eventually I'd want to put myself out there on the search of a partner, who understands the way I feel. Even if it's challenging.
