Do you like dirty talk?

[Wave85]

I thought for sure this would have been covered ad nauseam - and maybe my searching skills just suck (I am sure Fade or TG will point me in the right direction if I just can't search)... but...

How important is dirty talk to you with your partner? Coming from you? Coming from your partner? And what dirty talk turns you on the most?

 

[nailz]

Yes. During sex is great obviously, but there's nothing hotter than when it's totally unexpected in a totally inappropriate place, like a whisper in my ear during Christmas dinner with his family, or a text while I'm in a meeting at work

 

[AlteredEgo]

I like risque banter at any time, and surprise raunchy messages, particularly when I cannot reasonably respond in kind. The right words can send me into orbit during sex. Some older cultures treat words like magic wands; words really are powerful tools.

 

[Mercurygirl]

Sometimes. Sometimes I just want him to shut up.

 

[EllieP]

I guess we had been dating for a couple of months when I let loose with a string of raunchy phrases telling him what I wanted him to do with me. We were listening to some studio head drone on and on, and I was bored to tears. He choked, laughed and excused ourselves.

 

[JulieInNaplesFL]

Yes and both.

 

[rtg]

I think all my ex's have just been so freaking vanilla. I love dirty talk but haven't really experienced it. I'll do it a bit but if I get nothing back I'll stop

 

[693987]

How important is dirty talk to you with your partner? Coming from you? Coming from your partner? And what dirty talk turns you on the most?

I am actually not a fan. Giving or receiving. Similar to how I feel about role play, I tend to just find it silly and over the top. I'm okay with laughing before, during, and after sex, but combined with feeling over the top, it's not sexy to me.

 

[950483]

It depends who is doing it, and what exactly they're saying, but for the most part I would agree with @Fade on this one. With this kind of thing, in a worst case scenario it's just going to be comical, which is okay, so there's nothing to lose, and I would still really like to know what they're thinking.

 

[C41ara]

Some nasty words can be ok during sex (or before to get in the mood) but i'm not a big fan: maybe depends by the words: nothing over the top, no kind of insults at all.

 

[Wave85]

I like risque banter at any time, and surprise raunchy messages, particularly when I cannot reasonably respond in kind. The right words can send me into orbit during sex. Some older cultures treat words like magic wands; words really are powerful tools.

I love all your varied answers. My last relationship really did not like it except in a limited context and was in the @Fade @swoon and maybe even more so @C41ara camp. But my current relationship is just like @AlteredEgo, @nailz, @rtg and @EllieP camp - the words are "magic wands" - I really like that from
@AlteredEgo.

For those of you who like it, what narratives really turn you on? What do you really want your partner to say, and do you guide your partner ("Tell me that...")?

 

[AlteredEgo]

My partner knows my fantasies and my fetish and if he wants to run his mouth while we do our thing he knows he should be speaking to that.

 

[950483]

I love all your varied answers. My last relationship really did not like it except in a limited context and was in the @Fade @swoon and maybe even more so @C41ara camp. But my current relationship is just like @AlteredEgo, @nailz, @rtg and @EllieP camp - the words are "magic wands" - I really like that from
@AlteredEgo.

For those of you who like it, what narratives really turn you on? What do you really want your partner to say, and do you guide your partner ("Tell me that...")?

Or I have a better idea; why don't you give us some examples of your repertoire? I'll try not to laugh, promise.

 

[rtg]

For those of you who like it, what narratives really turn you on? What do you really want your partner to say, and do you guide your partner ("Tell me that...")?

Nothing nasty or too over the top... then I think it's just ridiculous and comical and a turn off. And not the shit you'd hear in porn like "you like that you dirty slut?". And not throughout the whole act either.

I've never guided someone either, nor my style.

 

[Wave85]

Or I have a better idea; why don't you give us some examples of your repertoire? I'll try not to laugh, promise.

@swoon and @rtg - that is very fair. I am not looking for you guys to provide me with some turn on here, I am just curious. Here goes, themes are as follows: (1) Dominating - "I didn't tell you you were allowed to get wet... now look what you have done you bad little girl, you have gotten wet all over my fingers/tongue... no you're not allowed to cum yet"... (2) Loving and complimentary - "you have the most amazing little pussy... I love how its little lips suck on my cock when you take me all the way in and out of you... "breath into my mouth, I need your breath inside me"... and of course "I adore you my love..." (3) Hard imagery (usually in some public place and whispered in the ear) "I am going to pull down your panties in front of every one here, push you down over this table and f*ck you from behind"... (4) Supportive "Its ok... take your time... work me inside of you... I am not going anywhere... you can be in complete control..." Laughter? Your turn...

 

[950483]

you bad little girl,

*cringe* That's a nodad. . (Though I am sure there are people who would like it.)

 

[950483]

Your turn...

I'll have to get back to you on this one.

 

[Wave85]

I'll have to get back to you on this one.

Ha - you don't have to get back @swoon- funny I didn't think of the "little girl" as daddy - that actually would creep me out and now I don't think I can go there any more - I meant physically little - yikes

 

[rtg]

Ick none of those examples appeal to me at all.

 

[693987]

Nothing against what gets any of you going with dirty talk, but the examples given would just have me cracking up with giggles and kill my lady boner. No sex would be had by anyone XD