does my friend like me?

[kazuhaslash]

I posted this on Reddit before but didn't have much traction. Decided to share my story here.

This event took place since October. I was studying abroad in my final year. One day, I had to attend an event that was two hours away from where I lived. I reached out to a friend and asked if I could stay at his place, to which he agreed. He had a roommate who I recognized and met a few years ago, though we had only exchanged brief greetings and had very little interaction over the past four years. For context, we all come from the same country so we kinda know each other from meeting through several events with other students from the same country.

Now for convenience, let's refer to this roommate as Z. My friend's room was small and could not accommodate another person, so Z kindly offered me his room for the night. Later at night, I was preparing to sleep on the floor with a pillow, but Z insisted that I sleep on the bed with him. The bed was a single, so it would have been a tight fit for both of us. At the time, I didn't think much of it. I assumed he was just being considerate and didn’t want me to sleep on the floor in the cold. It was winter.

We both fell asleep and I woke up in the middle of the night. TBH I could not sleep well that night. I'm closeted and sleeping next to a guy, a very attractive guy that is (he is very good looking to me) was nerve wrecking. Plus Z was basically a stranger at that point. We had a few small talks before falling asleep but that's pretty much it. I didn't know what went on with my head at the time but it was impure thoughts. Imagine we were sleeping so close next to each other, using the same blanket. My hand kinda went to his dick. Just out of curiosity. I rubbed his dick for a like a min or two. Until I felt that it wasn't right. As I was about to put my hand away, he suddenly grabbed my hand and went "Do you want it?". One thing led to another. We didn't have sex but I did end up jerking/sucking him off. When we were done, he asked if I was okay with everything. I appreciated that he made sure it was consensual between the both of us. But he did say he kinda regretted what we did. He didn't say directly but he implied that we should stay quiet and forget what happened. Post-nut clarity? But it was all a lie because it did not stop there lol.

At first, I thought it was just a one-time thing, like a one-night stand? We'd go back to strangers after that one night. But Z and I started interacting more and hanging out which started feeling like actual friendship. Almost every week, he'd invite me over to stay at his place. During the day, we'd do typical friend things—going to cafes, having meals together, watching movies, even karaoke. When we're away, we'd text daily, send random memes/funny videos. It was the kind of relationship you’d expect between friends. We basically went from strangers to actually best friends since that day.

However, things take a different turn at night when we're together. Sometimes we'd hook up, but other times, we’d just cuddle and fall asleep together. And when we do hook up, it was always Z who did the first move. Like saying he was horny, or he has a boner, or asking me if he could hug me cuz it was too cold. He also got increasingly daring. From just asking if I could jerk him off, to blow him off, to even asking me when can we have sex. He'd ask if there are other things I'd like to experiment with him too.

I of course don't mind it. In fact, I love when he kinda begs for it. But eventually, the lines between friendship and something more intimate became blurry, and the more we hung out, the more I felt conflicted. What's especially confusing is that we’ve never really talked about the nature of our relationship. Like we would hook up on one night and then act like nothing happen the next day and hang out like normal friends. Ask ourselves if we're hungry and up to breakfast or for a coffee.

To make things even more complicated, he’s been in an active relationship with his girlfriend for over a year. Not sure if they are sexually active, but his girlfriend comes for a sleepover sometimes when I'm also sleeping at his house, and whenever she comes, they'd sleep together and I would sleep in another room. I feel a sense of guilt about what's happening between us, and I kinda feel terrible whenever i think of his girlfriend, but I think I'm becoming more attached to him.

The most confusing and unexpected part happened about a month ago. We were just cuddling, like we usually do, when in the middle of the night, I woke up to him kissing me. It was the first time we’d kissed, and it was so intense, so passionate. Before this we only ever mutually jerked each other off or give BJs but never a kiss. And to me, a kiss is something very intimate. We ended up hooking up again that night, but that kiss—it felt like a turning point. Ever since that day, I haven't been able to forget about the kiss.

For the last few months, I convinced myself that we were just friends with benefits, but now, I find myself questioning everything. Does he like me? Is he gay or bi? Or is he just using me for pleasure? As time goes on, I only ever really think about him. On top of that, I'm closeted, and I don't know if I'm ready to come out yet. I'm torn between my feelings for him and my own uncertainty about my identity, which makes it even harder to understand what I truly want or what this relationship means.

We graduated some time after and went back to our home. His house is about 6 hours drive from mine so we haven't met since graduation. But we still talk daily or every other day like usual. Replying each others' Instagram stories, or sending funny Tiktok videos, memes. I miss him though and I wished I had made my feelings clearer before we parted ways. That I actually think I love him. I wonder if he feels the same...

 

[theplayerking]

I posted this on Reddit before but didn't have much traction. Decided to share my story here.

This event took place since October. I was studying abroad in my final year. One day, I had to attend an event that was two hours away from where I lived. I reached out to a friend and asked if I could stay at his place, to which he agreed. He had a roommate who I recognized and met a few years ago, though we had only exchanged brief greetings and had very little interaction over the past four years. For context, we all come from the same country so we kinda know each other from meeting through several events with other students from the same country.

Now for convenience, let's refer to this roommate as Z. My friend's room was small and could not accommodate another person, so Z kindly offered me his room for the night. Later at night, I was preparing to sleep on the floor with a pillow, but Z insisted that I sleep on the bed with him. The bed was a single, so it would have been a tight fit for both of us. At the time, I didn't think much of it. I assumed he was just being considerate and didn’t want me to sleep on the floor in the cold. It was winter.

We both fell asleep and I woke up in the middle of the night. TBH I could not sleep well that night. I'm closeted and sleeping next to a guy, a very attractive guy that is (he is very good looking to me) was nerve wrecking. Plus Z was basically a stranger at that point. We had a few small talks before falling asleep but that's pretty much it. I didn't know what went on with my head at the time but it was impure thoughts. Imagine we were sleeping so close next to each other, using the same blanket. My hand kinda went to his dick. Just out of curiosity. I rubbed his dick for a like a min or two. Until I felt that it wasn't right. As I was about to put my hand away, he suddenly grabbed my hand and went "Do you want it?". One thing led to another. We didn't have sex but I did end up jerking/sucking him off. When we were done, he asked if I was okay with everything. I appreciated that he made sure it was consensual between the both of us. But he did say he kinda regretted what we did. He didn't say directly but he implied that we should stay quiet and forget what happened. Post-nut clarity? But it was all a lie because it did not stop there lol.

At first, I thought it was just a one-time thing, like a one-night stand? We'd go back to strangers after that one night. But Z and I started interacting more and hanging out which started feeling like actual friendship. Almost every week, he'd invite me over to stay at his place. During the day, we'd do typical friend things—going to cafes, having meals together, watching movies, even karaoke. When we're away, we'd text daily, send random memes/funny videos. It was the kind of relationship you’d expect between friends. We basically went from strangers to actually best friends since that day.

However, things take a different turn at night when we're together. Sometimes we'd hook up, but other times, we’d just cuddle and fall asleep together. And when we do hook up, it was always Z who did the first move. Like saying he was horny, or he has a boner, or asking me if he could hug me cuz it was too cold. He also got increasingly daring. From just asking if I could jerk him off, to blow him off, to even asking me when can we have sex. He'd ask if there are other things I'd like to experiment with him too.

I of course don't mind it. In fact, I love when he kinda begs for it. But eventually, the lines between friendship and something more intimate became blurry, and the more we hung out, the more I felt conflicted. What's especially confusing is that we’ve never really talked about the nature of our relationship. Like we would hook up on one night and then act like nothing happen the next day and hang out like normal friends. Ask ourselves if we're hungry and up to breakfast or for a coffee.

To make things even more complicated, he’s been in an active relationship with his girlfriend for over a year. Not sure if they are sexually active, but his girlfriend comes for a sleepover sometimes when I'm also sleeping at his house, and whenever she comes, they'd sleep together and I would sleep in another room. I feel a sense of guilt about what's happening between us, and I kinda feel terrible whenever i think of his girlfriend, but I think I'm becoming more attached to him.

The most confusing and unexpected part happened about a month ago. We were just cuddling, like we usually do, when in the middle of the night, I woke up to him kissing me. It was the first time we’d kissed, and it was so intense, so passionate. Before this we only ever mutually jerked each other off or give BJs but never a kiss. And to me, a kiss is something very intimate. We ended up hooking up again that night, but that kiss—it felt like a turning point. Ever since that day, I haven't been able to forget about the kiss.

For the last few months, I convinced myself that we were just friends with benefits, but now, I find myself questioning everything. Does he like me? Is he gay or bi? Or is he just using me for pleasure? As time goes on, I only ever really think about him. On top of that, I'm closeted, and I don't know if I'm ready to come out yet. I'm torn between my feelings for him and my own uncertainty about my identity, which makes it even harder to understand what I truly want or what this relationship means.

We graduated some time after and went back to our home. His house is about 6 hours drive from mine so we haven't met since graduation. But we still talk daily or every other day like usual. Replying each others' Instagram stories, or sending funny Tiktok videos, memes. I miss him though and I wished I had made my feelings clearer before we parted ways. That I actually think I love him. I wonder if he feels the same...

He definitely sounds bi at the very least, but may not be in an emotional position to deal with it. It seems like you have enough of a connection to discuss it. Probably best to talk sooner rather than later. Long distance relationships are hard and ambiguous long distance relationships are almost impossible outside of movies.

 

[kazuhaslash]

He definitely sounds bi at the very least, but may not be in an emotional position to deal with it. It seems like you have enough of a connection to discuss it. Probably best to talk sooner rather than later. Long distance relationships are hard and ambiguous long distance relationships are almost impossible outside of movies.

I would have talked and made things clearer when we were living nearby had he wasn't in a relationship. Don't want to make things awkward between us. I liked what we had/have

 

[ProudlyHung]

I posted this on Reddit before but didn't have much traction. Decided to share my story here.

This event took place since October. I was studying abroad in my final year. One day, I had to attend an event that was two hours away from where I lived. I reached out to a friend and asked if I could stay at his place, to which he agreed. He had a roommate who I recognized and met a few years ago, though we had only exchanged brief greetings and had very little interaction over the past four years. For context, we all come from the same country so we kinda know each other from meeting through several events with other students from the same country.

Now for convenience, let's refer to this roommate as Z. My friend's room was small and could not accommodate another person, so Z kindly offered me his room for the night. Later at night, I was preparing to sleep on the floor with a pillow, but Z insisted that I sleep on the bed with him. The bed was a single, so it would have been a tight fit for both of us. At the time, I didn't think much of it. I assumed he was just being considerate and didn’t want me to sleep on the floor in the cold. It was winter.

We both fell asleep and I woke up in the middle of the night. TBH I could not sleep well that night. I'm closeted and sleeping next to a guy, a very attractive guy that is (he is very good looking to me) was nerve wrecking. Plus Z was basically a stranger at that point. We had a few small talks before falling asleep but that's pretty much it. I didn't know what went on with my head at the time but it was impure thoughts. Imagine we were sleeping so close next to each other, using the same blanket. My hand kinda went to his dick. Just out of curiosity. I rubbed his dick for a like a min or two. Until I felt that it wasn't right. As I was about to put my hand away, he suddenly grabbed my hand and went "Do you want it?". One thing led to another. We didn't have sex but I did end up jerking/sucking him off. When we were done, he asked if I was okay with everything. I appreciated that he made sure it was consensual between the both of us. But he did say he kinda regretted what we did. He didn't say directly but he implied that we should stay quiet and forget what happened. Post-nut clarity? But it was all a lie because it did not stop there lol.

At first, I thought it was just a one-time thing, like a one-night stand? We'd go back to strangers after that one night. But Z and I started interacting more and hanging out which started feeling like actual friendship. Almost every week, he'd invite me over to stay at his place. During the day, we'd do typical friend things—going to cafes, having meals together, watching movies, even karaoke. When we're away, we'd text daily, send random memes/funny videos. It was the kind of relationship you’d expect between friends. We basically went from strangers to actually best friends since that day.

However, things take a different turn at night when we're together. Sometimes we'd hook up, but other times, we’d just cuddle and fall asleep together. And when we do hook up, it was always Z who did the first move. Like saying he was horny, or he has a boner, or asking me if he could hug me cuz it was too cold. He also got increasingly daring. From just asking if I could jerk him off, to blow him off, to even asking me when can we have sex. He'd ask if there are other things I'd like to experiment with him too.

I of course don't mind it. In fact, I love when he kinda begs for it. But eventually, the lines between friendship and something more intimate became blurry, and the more we hung out, the more I felt conflicted. What's especially confusing is that we’ve never really talked about the nature of our relationship. Like we would hook up on one night and then act like nothing happen the next day and hang out like normal friends. Ask ourselves if we're hungry and up to breakfast or for a coffee.

To make things even more complicated, he’s been in an active relationship with his girlfriend for over a year. Not sure if they are sexually active, but his girlfriend comes for a sleepover sometimes when I'm also sleeping at his house, and whenever she comes, they'd sleep together and I would sleep in another room. I feel a sense of guilt about what's happening between us, and I kinda feel terrible whenever i think of his girlfriend, but I think I'm becoming more attached to him.

The most confusing and unexpected part happened about a month ago. We were just cuddling, like we usually do, when in the middle of the night, I woke up to him kissing me. It was the first time we’d kissed, and it was so intense, so passionate. Before this we only ever mutually jerked each other off or give BJs but never a kiss. And to me, a kiss is something very intimate. We ended up hooking up again that night, but that kiss—it felt like a turning point. Ever since that day, I haven't been able to forget about the kiss.

For the last few months, I convinced myself that we were just friends with benefits, but now, I find myself questioning everything. Does he like me? Is he gay or bi? Or is he just using me for pleasure? As time goes on, I only ever really think about him. On top of that, I'm closeted, and I don't know if I'm ready to come out yet. I'm torn between my feelings for him and my own uncertainty about my identity, which makes it even harder to understand what I truly want or what this relationship means.

We graduated some time after and went back to our home. His house is about 6 hours drive from mine so we haven't met since graduation. But we still talk daily or every other day like usual. Replying each others' Instagram stories, or sending funny Tiktok videos, memes. I miss him though and I wished I had made my feelings clearer before we parted ways. That I actually think I love him. I wonder if he feels the same...

Did I miss something ? What happened to your original friend ??

 

[kazuhaslash]

Did I miss something ? What happened to your original friend ??

Still friends wth him like usual. I didn't talk anything in regards to him cuz there's nothing much

 

[stringcheeseisgood]

it depends what you want. to him, it sounds like he was horny, which explains the post nut clarity.

did he cheat? yes. but it doesn’t sound like an affair. or maybe he and gf are poly.

it really sounds like it was just him hooking up with a friend. and he kept you as a friend. i think if you want clarity, you should ask him what that was.

 

[kazuhaslash]

it depends what you want. to him, it sounds like he was horny, which explains the post nut clarity.

did he cheat? yes. but it doesn’t sound like an affair. or maybe he and gf are poly.

it really sounds like it was just him hooking up with a friend. and he kept you as a friend. i think if you want clarity, you should ask him what that was.

If it was a 1-2 time thing that never happened again afterwards I would be fine tbh. Would've brushed it off as a messing around. But the fact that we constantly did it (at least once a week) really started making me feel stuff and questioning what am I and him really are.

It's also the fact that during those days, we went to sleep while cuddling, holding hands. There was even a time where he kissed my forehead while I was pretending to already falling asleep. Those days felt intimate even when there was no sex involved.

 

[stringcheeseisgood]

If it was a 1-2 time thing that never happened again afterwards I would be fine tbh. Would've brushed it off as a messing around. But the fact that we constantly did it (at least once a week) really started making me feel stuff and questioning what am I and him really are.

It's also the fact that during those days, we went to sleep while cuddling, holding hands. There was even a time where he kissed my forehead while I was pretending to already falling asleep. Those days felt intimate even when there was no sex involved.

maybe he feels the same way? maybe he felt it was a one time thing since he wouldn’t see you again.

if you want to test it, post on your ig story saying you’ll be in town if anyone wants to hang. let him reach out or you reach out after he watches your story.

have lunch or dinner, and ask him what that was. it seems like you want some closure

 

[kazuhaslash]

maybe he feels the same way? maybe he felt it was a one time thing since he wouldn’t see you again.

if you want to test it, post on your ig story saying you’ll be in town if anyone wants to hang. let him reach out or you reach out after he watches your story.

have lunch or dinner, and ask him what that was. it seems like you want some closure

Well recently he told me he got a full-time job near where I live but he doesn't have a place to stay since he's from far away. So I offered him to stay at mine (at least temporarily while he search for a place if he wants) to which he agreed. So he's actually moving to my house soon.

I'm hoping to talk about it soon but I kinda am hesitating cuz what if it makes it awkward between us once we become roommates.

 

[stringcheeseisgood]

Well recently he told me he got a full-time job near where I live but he doesn't have a place to stay since he's from far away. So I offered him to stay at mine (at least temporarily while he search for a place if he wants) to which he agreed. So he's actually moving to my house soon.

I'm hoping to talk about it soon but I kinda am hesitating cuz what if it makes it awkward between us once we become roommates.

ooh, definitely talk about it. but it sounds temporary, so if it’s awkward, at least it won’t be for long.

try not to initiate anything. if he wants you, he’ll do something. and if something like before happens, discuss it afterwards to avoid a similar situation

 

[ndamood4sum]

I posted this on Reddit before but didn't have much traction. Decided to share my story here.

This event took place since October. I was studying abroad in my final year. One day, I had to attend an event that was two hours away from where I lived. I reached out to a friend and asked if I could stay at his place, to which he agreed. He had a roommate who I recognized and met a few years ago, though we had only exchanged brief greetings and had very little interaction over the past four years. For context, we all come from the same country so we kinda know each other from meeting through several events with other students from the same country.

Now for convenience, let's refer to this roommate as Z. My friend's room was small and could not accommodate another person, so Z kindly offered me his room for the night. Later at night, I was preparing to sleep on the floor with a pillow, but Z insisted that I sleep on the bed with him. The bed was a single, so it would have been a tight fit for both of us. At the time, I didn't think much of it. I assumed he was just being considerate and didn’t want me to sleep on the floor in the cold. It was winter.

We both fell asleep and I woke up in the middle of the night. TBH I could not sleep well that night. I'm closeted and sleeping next to a guy, a very attractive guy that is (he is very good looking to me) was nerve wrecking. Plus Z was basically a stranger at that point. We had a few small talks before falling asleep but that's pretty much it. I didn't know what went on with my head at the time but it was impure thoughts. Imagine we were sleeping so close next to each other, using the same blanket. My hand kinda went to his dick. Just out of curiosity. I rubbed his dick for a like a min or two. Until I felt that it wasn't right. As I was about to put my hand away, he suddenly grabbed my hand and went "Do you want it?". One thing led to another. We didn't have sex but I did end up jerking/sucking him off. When we were done, he asked if I was okay with everything. I appreciated that he made sure it was consensual between the both of us. But he did say he kinda regretted what we did. He didn't say directly but he implied that we should stay quiet and forget what happened. Post-nut clarity? But it was all a lie because it did not stop there lol.

At first, I thought it was just a one-time thing, like a one-night stand? We'd go back to strangers after that one night. But Z and I started interacting more and hanging out which started feeling like actual friendship. Almost every week, he'd invite me over to stay at his place. During the day, we'd do typical friend things—going to cafes, having meals together, watching movies, even karaoke. When we're away, we'd text daily, send random memes/funny videos. It was the kind of relationship you’d expect between friends. We basically went from strangers to actually best friends since that day.

However, things take a different turn at night when we're together. Sometimes we'd hook up, but other times, we’d just cuddle and fall asleep together. And when we do hook up, it was always Z who did the first move. Like saying he was horny, or he has a boner, or asking me if he could hug me cuz it was too cold. He also got increasingly daring. From just asking if I could jerk him off, to blow him off, to even asking me when can we have sex. He'd ask if there are other things I'd like to experiment with him too.

I of course don't mind it. In fact, I love when he kinda begs for it. But eventually, the lines between friendship and something more intimate became blurry, and the more we hung out, the more I felt conflicted. What's especially confusing is that we’ve never really talked about the nature of our relationship. Like we would hook up on one night and then act like nothing happen the next day and hang out like normal friends. Ask ourselves if we're hungry and up to breakfast or for a coffee.

To make things even more complicated, he’s been in an active relationship with his girlfriend for over a year. Not sure if they are sexually active, but his girlfriend comes for a sleepover sometimes when I'm also sleeping at his house, and whenever she comes, they'd sleep together and I would sleep in another room. I feel a sense of guilt about what's happening between us, and I kinda feel terrible whenever i think of his girlfriend, but I think I'm becoming more attached to him.

The most confusing and unexpected part happened about a month ago. We were just cuddling, like we usually do, when in the middle of the night, I woke up to him kissing me. It was the first time we’d kissed, and it was so intense, so passionate. Before this we only ever mutually jerked each other off or give BJs but never a kiss. And to me, a kiss is something very intimate. We ended up hooking up again that night, but that kiss—it felt like a turning point. Ever since that day, I haven't been able to forget about the kiss.

For the last few months, I convinced myself that we were just friends with benefits, but now, I find myself questioning everything. Does he like me? Is he gay or bi? Or is he just using me for pleasure? As time goes on, I only ever really think about him. On top of that, I'm closeted, and I don't know if I'm ready to come out yet. I'm torn between my feelings for him and my own uncertainty about my identity, which makes it even harder to understand what I truly want or what this relationship means.

We graduated some time after and went back to our home. His house is about 6 hours drive from mine so we haven't met since graduation. But we still talk daily or every other day like usual. Replying each others' Instagram stories, or sending funny Tiktok videos, memes. I miss him though and I wished I had made my feelings clearer before we parted ways. That I actually think I love him. I wonder if he feels the same...

What does your friend (the guy you initially called to ask if you could stay at their place) think about all of this? He must think something is up, right? You said you never really knew him and after one night of sleeping there, you guys suddenly start hanging out more. One more question, how did you and his girlfriend end up sleeping over on the same nights?

 

[kazuhaslash]

What does your friend (the guy you initially called to ask if you could stay at their place) think about all of this? He must think something is up, right? You said you never really knew him and after one night of sleeping there, you guys suddenly start hanging out more. One more question, how did you and his girlfriend end up sleeping over on the same nights?

I do think my friend at least suspects something. But tbh not just him. Me and Z have a lot of mutual friends in our circle and a lot of them have pointed out that we've been hanging out a lot all of a sudden. Or like how we became so close so fast. But when some people started saying stuff, he would start to hang out with his girlfriend and post Instagram stories together. Like trying to prove a point that he's in a steady relationship. But when we go to cafe or eat out at a fancy restaurant, watch movies or go to cute at museums together, he rarely ever post one. Is he trying to keep a secret or is he just tired of people speculating about us?

That is what kinda make me doubt about our relationship. He'd post some cute stories together but then on other days have sex with me behind her back. He likes me enough to still keep me as a friend and keep in touch (almost daily), now even as far as willing to stay at my house now that he's working full time near where i live. But I wonder if what he feels only stops at platonic or if he at least has tiny bit of feelings towards me.


When his girlfriend comes over to sleep, they'd sleep together in the same room and I would sleep in my friend's room. It is also kinda coincidental that by the time his girlfriend likes to comes over, it was semester break and my friend went to his hometown for the break. So his room was empty for a couple months.

 

[stringcheeseisgood]

I do think my friend at least suspects something. But tbh not just him. Me and Z have a lot of mutual friends in our circle and a lot of them have pointed out that we've been hanging out a lot all of a sudden. Or like how we became so close so fast. But when some people started saying stuff, he would start to hang out with his girlfriend and post Instagram stories together. Like trying to prove a point that he's in a steady relationship. But when we go to cafe or eat out at a fancy restaurant, watch movies or go to cute at museums together, he rarely ever post one. Is he trying to keep a secret or is he just tired of people speculating about us?

That is what kinda make me doubt about our relationship. He'd post some cute stories together but then on other days have sex with me behind her back. He likes me enough to still keep me as a friend and keep in touch (almost daily), now even as far as willing to stay at my house now that he's working full time near where i live. But I wonder if what he feels only stops at platonic or if he at least has tiny bit of feelings towards me.


When his girlfriend comes over to sleep, they'd sleep together in the same room and I would sleep in my friend's room. It is also kinda coincidental that by the time his girlfriend likes to comes over, it was semester break and my friend went to his hometown for the break. So his room was empty for a couple months.

are you still trying to confirm if he’s bi? clearly, he is. he’s hooked up with you and still does it.

are you trying to figure out if he likes you? he does. he hooks up with you and “hangs out” with you. if you didn’t mention his gf, i would assume you are dating.

are you trying to see if it will turn into a long-term relationship? here’s where it gets tricky. couple of options:

1. you’re assuming it’s behind his gf’s back. they might be an open relationship. if that’s the case, he probably sees you as friends with benefits. open relationships are still stigmatized.
2. if the above is not the case, then he’s cheating and “figuring out” his sexuality. if you’re still closeted, he sees you as a safe way to experiment.

has he topped or bottomed you? you could use that to test the waters. depending on what he says, it could reveal his stance.

ultimately, i think he wants to be friends with benefits until he figures out his next step. he’s gotten too comfortable with the status quo of you being his sneaky link.

keep us updated. i’m invested and kinda jealous lol.

 

[kazuhaslash]

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are you still trying to confirm if he’s bi? clearly, he is. he’s hooked up with you and still does it.

are you trying to figure out if he likes you? he does. he hooks up with you and “hangs out” with you. if you didn’t mention his gf, i would assume you are dating.

are you trying to see if it will turn into a long-term relationship? here’s where it gets tricky. couple of options:

1. you’re assuming it’s behind his gf’s back. they might be an open relationship. if that’s the case, he probably sees you as friends with benefits. open relationships are still stigmatized.
2. if the above is not the case, then he’s cheating and “figuring out” his sexuality. if you’re still closeted, he sees you as a safe way to experiment.

has he topped or bottomed you? you could use that to test the waters. depending on what he says, it could reveal his stance.

ultimately, i think he wants to be friends with benefits until he figures out his next step. he’s gotten too comfortable with the status quo of you being his sneaky link.

keep us updated. i’m invested and kinda jealous lol.

I think I should put more context on why I think his gf has no clue what's going on. I'm from a conservative country and LGBT is already frowned upon, much more so than an open relationship.

So yeah I'm also closeted and hides it very well. I have never came out. Majority of people who knows me also thinks that I'm straight, even my close friends and families. That's why it's also hard for me to confirm the status of what's going on between us lol.

So far, he has only topped me. But when we're together, he did ask me multiple times before to play with his anus. He really enjoyed it. When I recall back those moments, I swear it screams that he's a bottom lmao.

He's coming next week and I'll be sure to keep updated. I live alone and have a spare room but the first thing he comes is I'll ask if he wants to sleep in the empty room or wants to sleep in mine. That'll be the first hint for me to see whe this is going.

 

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I think I should put more context on why I think his gf has no clue what's going on. I'm from a conservative country and LGBT is already frowned upon, much more so than an open relationship.

So yeah I'm also closeted and hides it very well. I have never came out. Majority of people who knows me also thinks that I'm straight, even my close friends and families. That's why it's also hard for me to confirm the status of what's going on between us lol.

So far, he has only topped me. But when we're together, he did ask me multiple times before to play with his anus. He really enjoyed it. When I recall back those moments, I swear it screams that he's a bottom lmao.

He's coming next week and I'll be sure to keep updated. I live alone and have a spare room but the first thing he comes is I'll ask if he wants to sleep in the empty room or wants to sleep in mine. That'll be the first hint for me to see whe this is going.

ohh, that makes things different. now regarding his orientation:
1) if he’s bi, he is cheating on gf.
2) if he’s gay, he is using his gf as a beard, either with consent or without.

he has to clarify what he identifies as, and then you’ll have an idea of what he sees you as.

if he’s bi, it still just be friends with benefits.

if he’s gay, he might be interested in a relationship. however, given your country, i’m not sure if that is what deters him.

i think you have a solid plan for next week.