Erectile dysfunction due to porn

[chulix69]

Hello,

I've been watching porn since I remember, my brain must be so fucked because of that.

The problem is when I try to have a real sexual relation, even when I really like the guy, I can't hold an erection if I'm not constantly estimulating/touching myself and sometimes not even that is efective as I start to be very uncomfortable...

I realized the problem was my porn addicting since I was very young, I'm 26 now.

I cannot even think of having a constant erection without touching myself... I don't think I ever experienced that in my life.

I'm starting to reduce the porn I watch and also masturbating less but I feel so hopeless, I'm not sure if that will change anything...

Have any of you guys experienced something similar? Is it possible that stopping regular masturbation and watching porn will change that?

I know I should ask a doctor but I feel its 100% psycological and I know what the problem is so just wanted to know any of you guys experiences.

Thanks for reading all that and have a good day!

 

[chulix69]

I was not sure in which subforum to post this topic, sorry if it is so wrong here.

 

[jumbo747jet]

I think you could well be right about why you are experiencing this.
You should still go and speak with your doctor about it though.
Even if it's all "psychological", your doctor can temporarily prescribe you E.D. pills to help you break the psychological block.

 

[ViewingPleasure]

Hello,

I've been watching porn since I remember, my brain must be so fucked because of that.

The problem is when I try to have a real sexual relation, even when I really like the guy, I can't hold an erection if I'm not constantly estimulating/touching myself and sometimes not even that is efective as I start to be very uncomfortable...

I realized the problem was my porn addicting since I was very young, I'm 26 now.

I cannot even think of having a constant erection without touching myself... I don't think I ever experienced that in my life.

I'm starting to reduce the porn I watch and also masturbating less but I feel so hopeless, I'm not sure if that will change anything...

Have any of you guys experienced something similar? Is it possible that stopping regular masturbation and watching porn will change that?

I know I should ask a doctor but I feel its 100% psycological and I know what the problem is so just wanted to know any of you guys experiences.

Thanks for reading all that and have a good day!

It may be psychological but it doesn't hurt to get tested for things that may be causing it. ED can be a sign of other medical complications, too, so make an appointment today.

 

[nygayguy1]

You may want to seek out a sex therapist, for a professional opinion on how to approach this. I'm sure a lot of us can suggest things, but a professional might do the best for you. Since you have so much life ahead and want to be able to have better sexual interactions, I think it would be worth it.

 

[TDJ6]

Hello,

I've been watching porn since I remember, my brain must be so fucked because of that.

The problem is when I try to have a real sexual relation, even when I really like the guy, I can't hold an erection if I'm not constantly estimulating/touching myself and sometimes not even that is efective as I start to be very uncomfortable...

I realized the problem was my porn addicting since I was very young, I'm 26 now.

I cannot even think of having a constant erection without touching myself... I don't think I ever experienced that in my life.

I'm starting to reduce the porn I watch and also masturbating less but I feel so hopeless, I'm not sure if that will change anything...

Have any of you guys experienced something similar? Is it possible that stopping regular masturbation and watching porn will change that?

I know I should ask a doctor but I feel its 100% psycological and I know what the problem is so just wanted to know any of you guys experiences.

Thanks for reading all that and have a good day!

Yes ... have experienced this. Although my ED issues didn't start until late 20's like 29 I want to say.
and I did realize that I'm too used to my own touch and I think your body (your dick) gets used to that and doesn't know how to stay hard or cum without your hand.
Also, Porn allows us to not use our imagination (especially with the tube sites and stuff) so we can't even get excited sometimes without seeing a video or image.

** another thing though, sometimes these issues have to deal with stress and diet so make sure those are all in check as well.

You are doing the right thing with reducing watching porn.
I would also suggest maybe trying to masturbate without porn...

If the issues persist definitely talk to somebody... but I think it's good that you identified what the problem might be and so you can take the steps to change them.

 

[chulix69]

Yes ... have experienced this. Although my ED issues didn't start until late 20's like 29 I want to say.
and I did realize that I'm too used to my own touch and I think your body (your dick) gets used to that and doesn't know how to stay hard or cum without your hand.
Also, Porn allows us to not use our imagination (especially with the tube sites and stuff) so we can't even get excited sometimes without seeing a video or image.

** another thing though, sometimes these issues have to deal with stress and diet so make sure those are all in check as well.

You are doing the right thing with reducing watching porn.
I would also suggest maybe trying to masturbate without porn...

If the issues persist definitely talk to somebody... but I think it's good that you identified what the problem might be and so you can take the steps to change them.

thank you so much, this is what I'm doing, I've been making my research about the topic in the last days and I'm definitely stopping porn forever, if I ever NEED to masturbate I'll do it without watching anything, but I'm reducing that too (also im exercising and eating better now too)

Ofc if in some months I don't get the results/changes I want I'll make an appointment with a doctor, I'm not in a hurry just happy that I finally found this out.

 

[techpump]

Cut out porn it will help trust me I know personally.
I had crippling ED for a few months early in 2021. No idea what was going on. Couldn't get hard for my wife when she was at her sexiest and seducing me like she was someone I've never met before. So hot. So wanting. My cock was a limp wet noodle. Left me crying and sobbing until my face hurt most nights.

Then I suddenly couldn't cum unless porn was on. Then I couldn't get hard unless it was on. I thought of my behavior and actions the last couple years and realized that porn made me hard and cum, and when it wasn't on I couldn't do either.

Bye bye porn! Cold turkey. Cancel all subscriptions. Delete all your website porno personas and memberships. Cut it off completely.

It took a month or two, but suddenly my boners came back but it was like "new boner" like my cock was harder and just better than I had ever known it. I didn't grow up on porn and actually didn't even own any (one single VHS tape with 5 scenes on it) until I was 18. Porn slowly worked on me, it went from maybe using it only once or twice a month (due to sex with my wife I jerked off way less) to several times a month to watching it all the time for almost no reason, with my clothes on even. Why?

Dopamine!! Man it feels good to unite brain, porn, cock and dopamine together. How can we beat that? Answer: BEAT IT EVEN HARDER!!!

My cock stayed hard when I didn't touch it. Like OP I lost wood within seconds of no touching it. Like moving from my back to my knees would bring me to flaccid fast. Off porn my cock stays hard for a while, not like minutes, but like a whole minute or more, which is pretty good , when its just standing out there all alone lol

My glans became more red and pink in color, it became warm all the time, it was fuller and plumper and it finally was getting completely solid and rigid during erections, which it never really ever did. I actually didn't know I have such a big glans before I quit porn, now my dick seems to be slightly bigger at least my wife has much harder time with my glans now than in the last 25 years.

I get hard sometimes for no reason now. I'm 46. I get boners in my pants at any time of the day now. They just spring up. My mind says "my cock feels good" and I start to get hard. And those erections last for minutes sometimes and they don't go down unless I like get up to drink water or pee or eat, do a chore, etc.. I get extremely hard with my wife, she compliments how hard I am and how it doesn't slightly deflate a little and then get super hard over and over like it used to, now it just stays completely rigid regardless of the time spent, what we're doing together, what the stimulation is, my body position, anything--my dick is just harder and harder more often now.

And know for a fucking fact it was the porn. As soon as I quit it things just changed. I felt better, my days had more life to them, I wasn't wasting time on porn anymore, I took better care of myself and started to focus harder on my life goals. No kidding. It was like going to a therapist.

Mental health = penis health.
Porn does not equal mental health.
Therefore, porn hurts penis health.

 

[techpump]

thank you so much, this is what I'm doing, I've been making my research about the topic in the last days and I'm definitely stopping porn forever, if I ever NEED to masturbate I'll do it without watching anything, but I'm reducing that too (also im exercising and eating better now too)

Ofc if in some months I don't get the results/changes I want I'll make an appointment with a doctor, I'm not in a hurry just happy that I finally found this out.

Please masturbate (I say "self pleasure" because masturbation translates to "self pollution" and that goes counter to the love we are supposed to give to ourselves through self pleasuring...) as much as you can realistically so that it does not interfere with your life. Fall in love with your penis, your body, and your sexual response. Your natural response. Explore sensations through stimulation and be mindful of the signals and charges that traverse your body as you touch yourself. Grow awareness of how good it feels to be with just you, and appreciate how wonderful sexual pleasure feels when its coming from only inside of you, not an outside source. You will become more sexualized inside which will translate to more healthy sex with other people. The problem with NoFap is it cuts out the self pleasuring too. Men need to learn how to be alone with their penis and bring it to orgasm naturally. If you aren't doing that, you're still kind of trapped in that old zone. Dude you got this, just give it time, you've been on porn your whole life and are still very very young sexually. If I "cured" my porn-induced ED in like two months (actually one month but after 2 months I really noticed the change) at age 44 you can easily cure it better than I can at your age!!!

 

[techpump]

Yes ... have experienced this. Although my ED issues didn't start until late 20's like 29 I want to say.
and I did realize that I'm too used to my own touch and I think your body (your dick) gets used to that and doesn't know how to stay hard or cum without your hand.
Also, Porn allows us to not use our imagination (especially with the tube sites and stuff) so we can't even get excited sometimes without seeing a video or image.

** another thing though, sometimes these issues have to deal with stress and diet so make sure those are all in check as well.

You are doing the right thing with reducing watching porn.
I would also suggest maybe trying to masturbate without porn...

If the issues persist definitely talk to somebody... but I think it's good that you identified what the problem might be and so you can take the steps to change them.

Dr. Manhattan knows what's up!! Do it without porn, its the way to evolve and move ahead

 

[friendsarehardtofind]

Dude, I'm in a similar situation. It's pretty difficult for me to get hard without porn. I use porn to masturbate almost every morning. I feel like I need the release and it's a means to an end. Usually, I'm up and done within a minute or two. So now, I've got severe premature ejaculation on the rare occasion my wife and I attempt to have sex. It's not a good situation.

Sadly, this board is part of my porn regiment, so I might have to give it up. Difficult to give up any addiction but especially after almost 30 years.

Just talking about it and seeking help and advice is a great start. Keep us updated.

 

[chulix69]

Dude, I'm in a similar situation. It's pretty difficult for me to get hard without porn. I use porn to masturbate almost every morning. I feel like I need the release and it's a means to an end. Usually, I'm up and done within a minute or two. So now, I've got severe premature ejaculation on the rare occasion my wife and I attempt to have sex. It's not a good situation.

Sadly, this board is part of my porn regiment, so I might have to give it up. Difficult to give up any addiction but especially after almost 30 years.

Just talking about it and seeking help and advice is a great start. Keep us updated.

I havent watched porn since I wrote this thread and I havent had any remorse, the problem in my case is not really a porn adiction, its the inability to get hard without touching myself, even if I'm horny 99% of the times I cannot get hard without stimulating myself (or being stimulated) but as soon as the stimulation stops the erection is gone.

I think porn and masturbation really fucked up my mind, I'm still not sure if its because of the unrealistic sexual approach I'm expecting (due to porn) or just that I'm so used to "get horny" stimulating my penis that it cannot be done any other way. Or maybe both...

 

[techpump]

I havent watched porn since I wrote this thread and I havent had any remorse, the problem in my case is not really a porn adiction, its the inability to get hard without touching myself, even if I'm horny 99% of the times I cannot get hard without stimulating myself (or being stimulated) but as soon as the stimulation stops the erection is gone.

I think porn and masturbation really fucked up my mind, I'm still not sure if its because of the unrealistic sexual approach I'm expecting (due to porn) or just that I'm so used to "get horny" stimulating my penis that it cannot be done any other way. Or maybe both...

This is normal though, it takes something special for me to get hard without touching myself, usually only with my wife. Sometimes just a look from her or what I'm looking at makes me get hard in my pants. Or kissing her makes me get hard sometimes. But if I'm alone, and not on supplements or meds that make my dick hard super easy, I have to touch myself to get hard. I know a guy who thought taking Viagra would just make him get hard with no stimulation, like a "it will make my dick happen the way its SUPPOSED to happen" but that's stupid way of thinking about it because we men have to first be aroused to get hard. Like the feelings and emotions, arousal, it has to be going on. Viagra has to be paired with the want and desire to be hard; it just doesn't work on its own (maybe for someone under 25 maybe). Second is pleasurable stimulation. That helps make us hard. So if you can't "get hard" without stimulation that is totally okay!! If you can't stay hard at all without stimulation that can change the longer you are off porn. It changed for me. I stay hard without touching it now when I move from my back on the floor to standing, or standing to kneeling, or anything. I stay hard at least 30 or so seconds which I think is pretty good for my age at almost 47.

I think ED and EQ problems abound in young men today because of some "gold industry standard" they believe is to occur due to what porn looks like. In POV scenes, isn't the guy already hard most of the time? Like the camera starts and he's hard with some chick under him ready to suck? Illusion!!! Porn is an illusion. Ever notice how in scenes you watch online, that the people fucking are also watching porn? He needs it to get and stay hard, obviously. Who watches porn while fucking a real person, in real life??? My wife and I have tried it in the past...20+ years ago when we first started dating and fucking.

Stop believing that porn and masturbation fucked your mind up. That's in the past, that statement is depression talking to you. Focus on your cock now. Imagination, fantasy, and yourself and your penis. Just go all in for yourself and stop worrying about what you think you've done to yourself. The brain is powerful, time to reprogram that fucker!!

 

[aozhouren]

have u tried Chinese medicine? I think we have the perfect solution for your condition. but U need find a good one.

 

[chulix69]

have u tried Chinese medicine? I think we have the perfect solution for your condition. but U need find a good one.

I'd rather start this process fully natural, I'm not against medicines and such but I feel that may be cheating considering my mental.

 

[aozhouren]

I'd rather start this process fully natural, I'm not against medicines and such but I feel that may be cheating considering my mental.

There are many non-medicinal treatments in Chinese medicine. Hope you succeeded

 

[techpump]

There are many non-medicinal treatments in Chinese medicine. Hope you succeeded

Dodder seed or cuscuta is pretty good
Jujube fruits
There are others, I take more Ayurveda related supplements now but they have correlates in Chinese use too (mucuna pruriens to name just one of several)

While not totally "natural" they are natural and naturally derived, and are not pharma or psychotropic to the point of being an SSRI/N or anything like that. My list of daily supplements for libido, vitality, strength, stamina/endurance, sperm health, and just overall mood assistance is an extensive list of things.

 

[introvert_shlut]

intereting thread, very educational. i had no idea there were this kind of spaces in this site. thought it was only porn lol

im gonna leave this video i saw the other here here, i think it might be beneficial regarding this topic

"responsive desire" and other concepts she mentions there sounds a lot like what's being said here

 

[techpump]

intereting thread, very educational. i had no idea there were this kind of spaces in this site. thought it was only porn lol

im gonna leave this video i saw the other here here, i think it might be beneficial regarding this topic

"responsive desire" and other concepts she mentions there sounds a lot like what's being said here

This is quite brilliant actually, I'm a huge supporter of her approach to all of this!! "Turning off the offs" is key to a man's erection quality and other issues surrounding what we can hold in our hands. If a man can "Turn on the ons" within his mind then what he holds in his hands is secondary to what he's trying to achieve sexually.