Feel inadequate for hetero sex, but as a submissive bi bottom I feel so empowered!

[Scott8361]

When I am engaging in sex as a bi bottom I feel so enthusiastic and capable. I love to offer myself up and submit myself to the pleasure of my partners. I have such confidence in being able to please and make my partner satisfied and happy.

My body, my ass, my oral skills have received praise and leave them coming back craving more... and even them giving referrals to others!

On the hetero side I feel insecure and inadequate.... worry my cock's not big enough, not enough stamina, pitiful cumshot, body not powerful or masculine enough....

I wonder if I should give it up all together and just be a bottom for guys?

How does your confidence differ in your bi sex vs. hetero sex?

 

[WilliamG]

Never any issues on the hetero side for me. But... I feel like I'm getting the better end of the bargain when a guy offers his dick to me. The problem at least in my neck of the woods is finding pure tops. The world is FULL of bottoms. It's so bad that most of us bottoms list "versatile" just to get the attention.

 

[goldscorpguy]

I'm in the same dilemma over confidence when faced with straight sex, though the opportunity to fuck a pussy happens pretty rarely for me. A masseur friend holds this bi sex party twice a month, but it's mostly guys and I really enjoy bottoming for them or sucking cock. A few weeks ago a women was there with her cuck hubby. Guys were fucking her but I got kind of anxious about it and ended up passing on the opportunity. In the end I just sucked him off as she watched.

 

[halcyondays]

I didn't start bottoming until I was forty and learned it's easier to submit, be passive and let a penetrator have at me.

Do you feel inadequate when topping guys?

IMO a good way to get past performance anxiety is to communicate more.

 

[Scott8361]

I didn't start bottoming until I was forty and learned it's easier to submit, be passive and let a penetrator have at me.

Do you feel inadequate when topping guys?

IMO a good way to get past performance anxiety is to communicate more.

I don't even attempt to top guys because I feel it's not my role. I don't want to have to use my cock for fucking. It's only a little clitty for me to receive some secondary stimulation. I don't want to deal with it having to stay hard and perform, because I do feel inadequate.