Feel too uncomfortable being intimate with a woman

Growing123

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I was raised to respect women by my strict mom. I could never f*** them as it brought too much guilt and a feeling of shame. How did you get over this? I struggle to feel free with a chick now and just finger her, jizz on her and other stuff. Did all straight guys feel this way and what did you do to get over it. I see the lady as the madonna and not the whore but I wanna change that.
 
I was raised to respect women by my strict mom. I could never f*** them as it brought too much guilt and a feeling of shame. How did you get over this? I struggle to feel free with a chick now and just finger her, jizz on her and other stuff. Did all straight guys feel this way and what did you do to get over it. I see the lady as the madonna and not the whore but I wanna change that.
I'm guessing you are Italian and you ment the mother of god by Madonna.

Perhaps a shrink could clarify your relationship with your mother your girlfriend isn't your mother.

People needs sex even the sweetest grandmother had sex to produce his offspring and probably still does, no one is a whore for having sex.

Drop the gilt if you are not harming her on any way or doing her something that she didn't consent you are ok.
 
Absolutely not. I know the amount of pleasure their orgasms will give them.

If anything, you are required to pleasure women.
 
I get what you are saying. My wife is my queen, and the greatest human I’ve known. But a queen deserves a king. And most women want their partner to find them sexually attractive and treat them so.

It’s like this, and my wife agrees, I treat her like a queen in life and a toy in the bedroom. Not all women feel that way, and not all men want that. The point is, they are sexual too.

Your feelings might be more about how you view sex than how you view women. If you view I’ve as demeaning, then I totally understand why you would not want a woman to care for to be treated that way.
 
As a personal rule, I feel: one should never call anyone else a whore ever; not even a legit prostitute. Them even less so in fact.

Instead, I think: we ought to treat everyone as though they were sacred, ultimately--because they are!

Indeed, any woman that is so merciful as to make love to me--whatever the conditions--is truly God's gift. So, worship your woman most sincerely always; and express your gratitude.

Either we're all whores, or none of us are.
 
I was raised to respect women by my strict mom. I could never f*** them as it brought too much guilt and a feeling of shame. How did you get over this? I struggle to feel free with a chick now and just finger her, jizz on her and other stuff. Did all straight guys feel this way and what did you do to get over it. I see the lady as the madonna and not the whore but I wanna change that.
I’m going to come at this from a different angle than others.

You have to let the guilt go and no one else can do this for you. Is it wrong to call a consenting partner a whore, slut, cunt, cum hole or any other degrading word that might turn you on? No. Don’t let anyone reinforce that dangerous teaching you’re already trying to eradicate. If the woman consents to playing with degradation then it will be fun and healthy for the both of you.

You’re running from yourself. Stop it because you’ll never outrun who you truly are. Embrace yourself in full and pursue the sexual relationship you actually want.
 
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I was raised to respect women by my strict mom. I could never f*** them as it brought too much guilt and a feeling of shame. How did you get over this? I struggle to feel free with a chick now and just finger her, jizz on her and other stuff. Did all straight guys feel this way and what did you do to get over it. I see the lady as the madonna and not the whore but I wanna change that.
I want to add something else to my post above. I’m speaking as a man who was once in similar shoes as yours. I’m a Sadist in every sense of the word, but I would not accept that for years because of the negative connotations I learned growing up. I was raised to be a gentleman and I am to this day. I had to reconcile being a gentleman with also enjoying watching her kneel before me to willingly accept being pissed on. Once I accepted me I was able to find partners who also wanted the very same treatment I want to give.

You have to embrace yourself first. Just know it’s not a one time thing. It’ll be repeated everytime those old thoughts arise.
 
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