AlteredEgo
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If I leave to do a ponytail I have realized I am uncomfortable, and decided I either have no need/desire to impress you, and choose comfort over my usual, fabulous style, or I caught sight of myself and realized my hair is doing its own thing, and not the thing I asked it to do, and because I NEVER walk around looking busted, I reined that shit in and got it under control. What I do with my hair is always about me. It is either about my comfort, or my sense of style. It is not a hint for you.There were times I'd chill with a women and she would leave one min come back and her hair would be in a ponytail and I'm thinking damn is she trying to look good for me?
You are ignoring what you've been told by @Betty_Cocker . She is trying, seemingly failing, to convey to you the following: Forget about clues. Your instincts will tell you what you need to know. If someone habitually mistreats you, or is always drunk, you don't need to know if she likes you or not. You need to leave her alone. If someone insists on only ever dropping vague, subtle hints, forget her. She doesn't deserve to have what she wants, because she is unwilling to make her intentions clear.
You are also ignoring something I have tried to tell you. Stop worrying about what someone else is thinking. Just worry about what YOU are thinking. You want to fuck her? Kiss her. If she let's you, you can probably move it forward organically from there. If she balks or stops you, apologize. You've barked up the wrong tree. It happens.
As I see it, you have two serious problems. And I say serious because these problems will fuck up not just your social life, but all aspects of life if you cannot overcome them. Problem the first: You are weighted down by an unnatural level of passivity, instigated by an intense fear of failure. Embrace potential failure as a learning opportunity, and remember that he who attempts to protect himself from every possibility of pain or failure succeeds in protecting himself from happiness and fulfilment. Cut it out. Problem the second: You are so busy being stuck in your head over-analyzing everything that you fail to pick up on obvious, plainly expressed, frank statements that are made to you. This is a symptom of attention disorder. I highly recommend amphetamines. Talk to a doctor and get that shit under control. A mental hygiene professional can work with you to develop coping strategies for the long term, and get you medicine to help you focus better for the short term. I also suffer from an attention disorder, so I know what I'm talking about. Anytime you find yourself constantly having to confess to your disorder just to get through a conversation, you need help. Help is available.