Seeking advice on my personal situation involving a findom daddy.
Putting aside for one moment the discussion about findom, the ethics of it, etc... I have been chatting online to a man for about 2 years now. Throughout that time the nature of our discussions has increased and decreased over time, due to various factors, but the past 4-5 months or so it has increased in frequency and intensity. He acts like a findom alpha, and I am his sub. Of course this involves me paying for his meals sometimes and sending cash during some role plays.
But, over time, the amount of money spent by me to him, and the frequency of cash being spent, has reduced significantly. We are now at the point where I spend basically nothing in cash, and we maintain some element of the dom/sub relationship, but on the whole we have entered a new type of relationship. This is where I need the help!
We are now messaging one another every day, at least two sessions a day. He sends me voice messages about his day, asks me about my day, etc. Occasionally our conversations will get personal, but just for a moment or so, before he re-adjusts and backs off a bit.
I feel like we've entered a very precarious situation. At least during the peak of our findom fantasy stage, there was a level of logic about it - he flirted with me, I sent money or gifts to him, he appreciated it in a flirty way, the transaction concluded, we both got off - yay.
Now - it almost feels like it's more a friendship or dare I say it, something 'else'. I am very cautious that I don't want to over-think this, given our previous findom status. HOWEVER, it's getting to the point where the amount of time I spent engaging with him per day is reaching the level where I need to decide if it's worth it or not. Like... what's the deal?
He does the 'good morning' and 'good night' messages to me like someone I am dating would. He checks in on me when he knows something is up. But he'd never admit to being another more than my findom alpha. And that's fine, but how do I check my assumptions, protect myself, and just figure out what the hell this is morphing into?
Putting aside for one moment the discussion about findom, the ethics of it, etc... I have been chatting online to a man for about 2 years now. Throughout that time the nature of our discussions has increased and decreased over time, due to various factors, but the past 4-5 months or so it has increased in frequency and intensity. He acts like a findom alpha, and I am his sub. Of course this involves me paying for his meals sometimes and sending cash during some role plays.
But, over time, the amount of money spent by me to him, and the frequency of cash being spent, has reduced significantly. We are now at the point where I spend basically nothing in cash, and we maintain some element of the dom/sub relationship, but on the whole we have entered a new type of relationship. This is where I need the help!
We are now messaging one another every day, at least two sessions a day. He sends me voice messages about his day, asks me about my day, etc. Occasionally our conversations will get personal, but just for a moment or so, before he re-adjusts and backs off a bit.
I feel like we've entered a very precarious situation. At least during the peak of our findom fantasy stage, there was a level of logic about it - he flirted with me, I sent money or gifts to him, he appreciated it in a flirty way, the transaction concluded, we both got off - yay.
Now - it almost feels like it's more a friendship or dare I say it, something 'else'. I am very cautious that I don't want to over-think this, given our previous findom status. HOWEVER, it's getting to the point where the amount of time I spent engaging with him per day is reaching the level where I need to decide if it's worth it or not. Like... what's the deal?
He does the 'good morning' and 'good night' messages to me like someone I am dating would. He checks in on me when he knows something is up. But he'd never admit to being another more than my findom alpha. And that's fine, but how do I check my assumptions, protect myself, and just figure out what the hell this is morphing into?