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[Poseidon666]

Hi,

Been straight my whole life (I’m 53), but sexually confident and very inquisitive about the whole bi/gay thing.

Happy accident working in Brazil 20 something years ago where I met a girl, went back to hers and mid fumble found she had, quite a considerable, cock. I freaked. She cried. I felt bad (but still weird). We talked and she persuaded me to try a few “harmless” things. Resulted in one of the best long weekends of my life and I still chat to her from time to time. On reflection once back home, I felt a bit odd and have confined trans women to wanking and dreaming since.

As I get older I’m getting more and more interested in trying lots of new sexual things - maybe a sense of there isn’t that much time left. I’m in OK shape for my age, scrub up well if tall, broad, rugged is your thing (no pretty boy) and helpfully a pretty fine cock (ask if you’re interested).

Anyway, one of my thoughts is about being intimate with guys. Nothing crazy, oral, bit of cum and (I think) me getting fucked. Question for you guys is, how do I go about finding a guy to fuck me or make love to me??? There’s bi and gay swingers sites like fab/grindr, escorts (some have amazing looking cocks!) and the traditional finding someone in a bar (might be too nerve wracking). I’m guessing there’s all sorts of other ways that I don’t know. I’m not just thinking about actually making it happen but also things like safety, am I more likely to have a better experience using a certain way etc.?

While we’re here, I’m a bit interested to hear what you think of me trying? I actually think I’d like to try a lot with guys but I’m obviously nervous about opening the cliched and offensive “does it make me gay” - think I’m concerned I will enjoy it and it will ask some difficult questions of me. What else?

Be gentle please. I can take a good pi$$ take but try not to be an evil c*nt.

Thanks for taking the time to read.

 

[theplayerking]

Hi,

Been straight my whole life (I’m 53), but sexually confident and very inquisitive about the whole bi/gay thing.

Happy accident working in Brazil 20 something years ago where I met a girl, went back to hers and mid fumble found she had, quite a considerable, cock. I freaked. She cried. I felt bad (but still weird). We talked and she persuaded me to try a few “harmless” things. Resulted in one of the best long weekends of my life and I still chat to her from time to time. On reflection once back home, I felt a bit odd and have confined trans women to wanking and dreaming since.

As I get older I’m getting more and more interested in trying lots of new sexual things - maybe a sense of there isn’t that much time left. I’m in OK shape for my age, scrub up well if tall, broad, rugged is your thing (no pretty boy) and helpfully a pretty fine cock (ask if you’re interested).

Anyway, one of my thoughts is about being intimate with guys. Nothing crazy, oral, bit of cum and (I think) me getting fucked. Question for you guys is, how do I go about finding a guy to fuck me or make love to me??? There’s bi and gay swingers sites like fab/grindr, escorts (some have amazing looking cocks!) and the traditional finding someone in a bar (might be too nerve wracking). I’m guessing there’s all sorts of other ways that I don’t know. I’m not just thinking about actually making it happen but also things like safety, am I more likely to have a better experience using a certain way etc.?

While we’re here, I’m a bit interested to hear what you think of me trying? I actually think I’d like to try a lot with guys but I’m obviously nervous about opening the cliched and offensive “does it make me gay” - think I’m concerned I will enjoy it and it will ask some difficult questions of me. What else?

Be gentle please. I can take a good pi$$ take but try not to be an evil c*nt.

Thanks for taking the time to read.

Here are a couple of tips. Be honest and upfront about your level of experience and expectations with any potential hookup. The more details you are willing to share (including photos) the better the likely outcome.

Assume that most guys online are flakes. It’s not you (or only you), it’s us. Don’t get discouraged when guys flake or disappear. It’s inevitable.

An escort might be a good option in your situation. Here are some tips I’ve posted elsewhere. Some guys are straight and want to get you off and out as soon as possible (which I avoid, no matter how hot they look), some are broke gay boys that have no technique and just need the cash (you can usually spot them as having recent profiles without a lot of reviews), many are professionals that do a good job as they want repeat customers, and a few are highly sexualized and do it part time because they enjoy making a little extra money being around naked men.

I find the initial txts can be a good indicator of how the session is likely to go. If his replies are short and blunt, like ordering a sandwich, he’s most likely just doing it for the cash and it’s not going to be a great experience. Good escorts ask questions so they know how to prepare for your time together.

Take your time and enjoy your exploration. No judgement. No labels. Have fun.