First M2m Encounter, Should I?

[tannerman67]

I am 52 and have been bi-curious a lot more over last few years. I have never had any non-hetero sex, only been with women. But I havent been involved with a woman for a good 10 years now and i dont know if I am just lonely. And knowing I cant deal with a woman anymore, I am wondering if this chance at having an encounter is more me wanting physical companionship in a sexual way, or am I really bicurious and it is not some fantasy that comes to mind from time to time.

As I mentioned, it has been way more evident lately, but I used to have thoughts about a m2m experience probably starting 20 or so years ago. But they'd be maybe once or twice a year usually while jacking off of course. But since summer this year, the thoughts have been waaaay more prevalent! So much so, that a forum I am on that I decided to post some thoughts for a change, instead of just reading, has now led to where I can basically say let's do it to the person who approached me and I would no longer be bicurious.

I see this site has a ton of messages, so i figure my situation has probably been covered before. But I am curious what others who have experienced a m2m how they felt before their first time. Like what actually helped you say fuck the curiosity, I need to do it!

Hope above not too long, I am happy to provide more involved details if it helps. Hope this is worthy of your time to have read and will see what others hopefully have to say.

 

[Cecil56]

I would start with mutual handjob's, but that is my preference. I'm kinda a "minor" gay or bisexual player. YMMY

I have no desire to suck, be sucked or anal. Handjobs though, I am into.

 

[Capers]

Well this is a first, I'm a few hours away from you, lol.

Why haven't you been involved with a woman for so long?

Why can't you deal with women anymore?

 

[beginner63]

If your curious you should just go for it. I thought about sucking a guy for years. Finally after watching tons of porn and finding silverdaddies web site I decided to go for it. I met an older guy that was a great teacher

 

[RedScrotum]

Give it a try. You'll like it, or you won't.

 

[4321121]

You only live once so try everything twice, you can usually tell by the second time if you like something or not.

 

[Bittydrew]

52 might as well try it I know I was nervous at first but after starting and doing things little by little love it now ...

 

[tannerman67]

Thanks much for the replies everyone, i appreciate them!

I would start with mutual handjob's, but that is my preference. I'm kinda a "minor" gay or bisexual player. YMMY

I have no desire to suck, be sucked or anal. Handjobs though, I am into.

Yeah, I guess the whole thing with being hesitant to make this leap is I lead a fairly laidback existence. Work hard, but basically just enjoy not having someone else to deal with. I have an adult child too, so again, its not something I would want known to the kid. I am sure my child has their own weird sex kinks or proclivities, we all do I suppose, but I think I'd have a hard time having my kid know I potential like cock! HAHA

But yes, same, I don't think I am too worried now about being nude with the guy or feeling each other up, oral I don't think I'd ever be down for, but I guess that would remain to be seen if I would progress to that level. Anal, I'd probably be down to try with protection, both pitching and catching. But since only things have exited my ass my entire life, I am not quite sure about shoving something up it. Protected and wasn't fucking ripping my anus and felt ok, then yeah I'd try it just to know if that would be enjoyable or not. But touching, feeling up etc that I would be totally at ease with. Thanks for commenting.

Well this is a first, I'm a few hours away from you, lol.
Why haven't you been involved with a woman for so long?
Why can't you deal with women anymore?

Yeah, see you are in NS too! Neat. Welll, to keep it brief, split up with last GF and realized I was having more fun without having to keep someone else happy mainly. At that point I was stressed with job and stuff and just didnt have mental capacity for relationship. As time passed I found I enjoyed freedom of doing whatever and whenever. I wasnt in to any type of one nighter thing so just lived without the sex really. Been there done that, no huge loss.

If your curious you should just go for it. I thought about sucking a guy for years. Finally after watching tons of porn and finding silverdaddies web site I decided to go for it. I met an older guy that was a great teacher

Yeah, see I don't know if I am curious totally, or its just a fantasy in my head, much like a guy might fantasize about fucking a celebrity or something.

That really is the crux of why i am so hesitant. Suppose I get there, and then start thinking oh shit, this aint me, yeah I like to fantasize about a m2m experience, but the real thing isnt for me. Then what? Stammer and look like an idiot I suppose. Also, I think the person is thinking that if this goes down, then there is some relationship going to form, when again due to my uncertainty, it might just be that one time.

Give it a try. You'll like it, or you won't.

Yeah, I hear ya man. My OP covers my backstory. I think there are certain aspects I would enjoy, but potential awkwardness or embarrassment if suddenly the guy wants his cock sucked and I am like no way and they get all huffy or something. I think I need to have a talk and kind of set my boundaries with him and tell him if I am going to take his cock in my mouth, I will, but dont expect it, dont ask for it and dont cry if I dont.

You only live once so try everything twice, you can usually tell by the second time if you like something or not.

Totally agree. I attempted to set out why I have so much hesitancy above. Like I am not afraid or anything, but just a fucking noob I guess so shy or whatever.

52 might as well try it I know I was nervous at first but after starting and doing things little by little love it now ...

Yeah, thats the deal really isn't it? I obviously wouldnt be posting here if these thoughts were not being more and more frequent, so recognize its a shit or get off the pot type of sad tale indeed.

I appreciate all the thoughts. I guess more to follow as I have semi-committed to him so decision will have to be made. He realizes I have trepidation, but he has been great for most part about it, which is good.

 

[kcdave]

I don’t believe you’re alone with that thought. I was married for 30 years. But perhaps I’ve known that I was bisexual or perhaps gay since age 13. Back in the late 70s it was not easy to except sexuality. Today it’s common. There is still the stigma but it’s a lot easier. At my age. It’s hard to find a relationship with another guy. Like you I really yearn for that physical touch the two men can share together. Now that I’m divorced and after Covid I’m going to go look for that sexual relationship I want it all my life.

I am 52 and have been bi-curious a lot more over last few years. I have never had any non-hetero sex, only been with women. But I havent been involved with a woman for a good 10 years now and i dont know if I am just lonely. And knowing I cant deal with a woman anymore, I am wondering if this chance at having an encounter is more me wanting physical companionship in a sexual way, or am I really bicurious and it is not some fantasy that comes to mind from time to time.

As I mentioned, it has been way more evident lately, but I used to have thoughts about a m2m experience probably starting 20 or so years ago. But they'd be maybe once or twice a year usually while jacking off of course. But since summer this year, the thoughts have been waaaay more prevalent! So much so, that a forum I am on that I decided to post some thoughts for a change, instead of just reading, has now led to where I can basically say let's do it to the person who approached me and I would no longer be bicurious.

I see this site has a ton of messages, so i figure my situation has probably been covered before. But I am curious what others who have experienced a m2m how they felt before their first time. Like what actually helped you say fuck the curiosity, I need to do it!

Hope above not too long, I am happy to provide more involved details if it helps. Hope this is worthy of your time to have read and will see what others hopefully have to say.

 

[kcdave]

I’ve been a member of Silver daddies for many years. But never really have quite been up with anybody off that site. Perhaps I’m too picky. But I want to be safe and careful so I don’t get any diseases.

If your curious you should just go for it. I thought about sucking a guy for years. Finally after watching tons of porn and finding silverdaddies web site I decided to go for it. I met an older guy that was a great teacher

 

[Cecil56]

[/QUOTE]
Now that I’m divorced and after Covid I’m going to go look for that sexual relationship I want it all my life.[/QUOTE]

Covid has me spooked out as well. I've not so much as shook hands with a male or female since March. Sucks, however I value my health more than one orgasm! LOL. I'll just keep jerking alone at this point.

 

[beginner63]

I’ve been a member of Silver daddies for many years. But never really have quite been up with anybody off that site. Perhaps I’m too picky. But I want to be safe and careful so I don’t get any diseases.

I’ve been lucky. I usually meet older married guys so it’s been pretty safe

 

[bd30]

But yes, same, I don't think I am too worried now about being nude with the guy or feeling each other up, oral I don't think I'd ever be down for, but I guess that would remain to be seen if I would progress to that level. Anal, I'd probably be down to try with protection, both pitching and catching.
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Didn't think I was down for oral either but once I had a dick in my hands next thing I know I was getting my mouth fucked lol. You only live once

 

[fuckyeah]

Didn't think I was down for oral either but once I had a dick in my hands next thing I know I was getting my mouth fucked lol. You only live once

So I sucked my first cock ever last week. It was as natural as sucking tits or fingers or what have you. It was so good. The dude wasn’t very big, but what struck me most is how velvety it felt in my mouth. Seemed so fragile, yet so familiar as I sucked. I’ve jerked my cock for many many years. Sucking a cock is much different than handling your cock with your own hands. That said, I felt a great sense of honor (yes, honor!) that another dude let me suck his pride and joy. And once I felt that, my lust for his dick skyrocketed. Once he moaned, I was hooked.

 

[Tommypa94303]

So I sucked my first cock ever last week. It was as natural as sucking tits or fingers or what have you. It was so good. The dude wasn’t very big, but what struck me most is how velvety it felt in my mouth. Seemed so fragile, yet so familiar as I sucked. I’ve jerked my cock for many many years. Sucking a cock is much different than handling your cock with your own hands. That said, I felt a great sense of honor (yes, honor!) that another dude let me suck his pride and joy. And once I felt that, my lust for his dick skyrocketed. Once he moaned, I was hooked.

couldn’t agree with you more. The first time I had a guy in my mouth it felt so delicate yet powerful. He was a married masculine guy. It was turning me on knowing how I was pleasuring him. We switched and I tell you it was one of the best blow jobs wver. Since then I’ve had other guys suck me. I’m kinda thick and it’s a challenge but admit that guys get the best head.
Start out with a buddy kinda situation where you watch porn with your dicks out, then trade hands, and then more. Make sure you both know your limits. Maybe tell him up front you may stop at some point.
Have fun and keep us posted ;-)

 

[HorseHung40's]

Please let me add my piece. Life is short. You are here only once.

You note that you are not involved with anyone; therefore, you would not have to lie to anyone.

If you want to try man-to-man sex, than do so. If you are unfamiliar with everything, which I suspect that you are, then look at different acts on the internet, and, decide for yourself, which ones are right for you.

Move at your own pace. Ignore the calls of others to do something that will either make you uncomfortable or does not interest you.

Good luck!

 

[samandtham]

If I can echo what @HorseHung40's said: You're single and it doesn't seem like you have anything to lose. Go for it.

You don't have to dive right in with hooking up and the apps especially if you're not even sure how much you're comfortable with.

You can start with something as simple as getting a sensual or erotic massage—let another guy do all of the hands-on (pun intended haha) work while you just enjoy the sensations.

I have no experience with escorts but you could consider one that specializes in easing guys into sex with another man.

There's a lot of avenues you can explore. Just remember that your mileage will vary with all of these options—some would carry emotional weight (not drama necessarily) while others won't go beyond carnal desires.

 

[Stephenmass]

Please let me add my piece. Life is short. You are here only once.

You note that you are not involved with anyone; therefore, you would not have to lie to anyone.

If you want to try man-to-man sex, than do so. If you are unfamiliar with everything, which I suspect that you are, then look at different acts on the internet, and, decide for yourself, which ones are right for you.

Move at your own pace. Ignore the calls of others to do something that will either make you uncomfortable or does not interest you.

Good luck!

agreed. It's easy to make clear what you are interested in. J/O only, oral, f'g, etc.

 

[Mister2101]

I am 52 and have been bi-curious a lot more over last few years. I have never had any non-hetero sex, only been with women. But I havent been involved with a woman for a good 10 years now and i dont know if I am just lonely. And knowing I cant deal with a woman anymore, I am wondering if this chance at having an encounter is more me wanting physical companionship in a sexual way, or am I really bicurious and it is not some fantasy that comes to mind from time to time.

As I mentioned, it has been way more evident lately, but I used to have thoughts about a m2m experience probably starting 20 or so years ago. But they'd be maybe once or twice a year usually while jacking off of course. But since summer this year, the thoughts have been waaaay more prevalent! So much so, that a forum I am on that I decided to post some thoughts for a change, instead of just reading, has now led to where I can basically say let's do it to the person who approached me and I would no longer be bicurious.

I see this site has a ton of messages, so i figure my situation has probably been covered before. But I am curious what others who have experienced a m2m how they felt before their first time. Like what actually helped you say fuck the curiosity, I need to do it!

Hope above not too long, I am happy to provide more involved details if it helps. Hope this is worthy of your time to have read and will see what others hopefully have to say.

Short answer my friend....yes, you should give it a chance. Life is too short.......and the sexual intimacy, sexual pleasure and sexual satisfaction you may or will experience is worth the effort. MM sex is very good my friend. Very good indeed. Find a decent, considerate man who is experienced and willing to take his time with you....allow you to try and "experiment" with all that you are interested in or curious to try. Be open and honest. If he can't be the same with you, then move on to finding another willing man. It's a journey worth taking in my opinion. Good luck to you!!

 

[fuckyeah]

Short answer my friend....yes, you should give it a chance. Life is too short.......and the sexual intimacy, sexual pleasure and sexual satisfaction you may or will experience is worth the effort. MM sex is very good my friend. Very good indeed. Find a decent, considerate man who is experienced and willing to take his time with you....allow you to try and "experiment" with all that you are interested in or curious to try. Be open and honest. If he can't be the same with you, then move on to finding another willing man. It's a journey worth taking in my opinion. Good luck to you!!

I couldn’t agree more. There is a masculine intimacy that is really hard to explain. I feel love for a dude in a very different way I feel love for a woman. It’s more of a “I understand you” kind of love. That we both know the male condition. That we share a common bond that women will never understand. To give another man pleasure with those feelings in mind makes it even more powerful. I know exactly what will make a dude feel good. And while that certainly takes away from some of the mystery (if you’ve made love to a woman you know what I mean), it also frees me to focus less on the mechanics of lovemaking and more on the lovemaking.