Was it straight to the sex or some drink and chat to break the ice first? Did you and your partner enjoy it equally or regret afterward because the guy is into one more than the other? How was the conversation vibe after the guy left? Me and my partner been together for a long time and only recently talked about having a 3way but have no idea how to go about making it happens..
First Threesome Exp With Your Partner?
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Been wondering the same lately. My partner and I like to fantasize about foursomes with another couple.
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Our first 3 way was several years back - the result of a Craigslist ad. The guy came over and we chatted for a bit - some small talk, etc. He was a married guy and really nervous so we all had a beer together. Then the clothes came off. The guy left pretty quickly after we all got off and my guy and I chatted for a bit about the experience. We both really liked it an agreed that we should do it again. We usually have a handful of 3 ways each year. Sometimes it's straight to the sex and other times there's some small talk. I think that communication is key - talk about what you like, what you don't, your expectations, and be direct and open if one of you feels a stronger connection to the third than other. This helps prevent any jealousy, etc.
My partner and I have had a number of threesomes. It is our preference to meet for coffee or a drink to determine that the three of us are comfortable with each other. As long as you trust each other and are clear about limitations it can be very pleasurable. Repeat visitors are preferred.
I actually didn't like 3some that much. It was so hot in my head tho, was a real fantasy for sure but when I first did it with my ex, I didn't really get a hard on. It was probably a mixture of jealousy, shyness and control. We did it a few more times but the fantasy was better than the reality 
I don't regret it at all but I only do it being single, never in a relationship again.
I don't regret it at all but I only do it being single, never in a relationship again.
I've been in A LOT of threesomes within relationships, but this last time it was brought to me by my partner bc his best friend was coming here from Belgium for the first time and wanted to show him a good time and he knows I love European guys like him. He was here for 6 days and we had a 3some maybe 4 times, not to mention me blowing him a few times while my partner was at work
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I had many 3somes (or moresomes) with my 1st and 3rd boyfriends. My 1st boyfriend and I would head over to the adult bookstore (this place was a very popular place at the time) after we left the bar and would pick up a 3rd. We had a few bad 3somes but we also had some great 3somes. I don't think we ever sat and talked with the 3rd before we had sex. Pretty sure we just jumped into it each time.
I met my 3rd boyfriend at an adult bookstore and we would usually go to an adult bookstore or bathhouse once or twice a week. In those cases, I don't think there was very much chat before hand. In the cases were we would go online and find a 3rd, I think most of the chat was done online before they came over. When they did arrive, we would get right to the sex part. A few times we would chat with them when the sex was over. But usually they would just leave.
There were a couple of times that I remember we chatted and relaxed before jumping into sex. One of those times was when we invited a couple over for some play time. They were friends from out-of-town and we had hinted about having a 4some next time we got together. When they did come over, we chatted for a while, had a few drinks and then headed down to our "play room". We played around for a few hours and then we went back upstairs and hung out for a while before we had dinner. After dinner, they went back home. We did this a few times with them. And while it was a 4some, it always ended up with me being with the top of that couple and my ex being with the bottom of that couple.
The other times that come to mind were the 2 times we hosted an orgy at our house. The first time there was around 10 guys that showed up. (The second time it was closer to 15 guys.) But as the guys would arrive, we would hang around, have a drink, watch some porn and chat with the guys. After everybody arrived, most of the guys would have another drink and get comfortable being naked (or in their underwear) with the other guys. We would show everybody the different areas we had set up for sex and then we would introduce everybody to each other and made sure everybody was comfortable. And then the fun would begin. I think the chill time and introducing everybody to each other really helped make it a great evening.
I met my 3rd boyfriend at an adult bookstore and we would usually go to an adult bookstore or bathhouse once or twice a week. In those cases, I don't think there was very much chat before hand. In the cases were we would go online and find a 3rd, I think most of the chat was done online before they came over. When they did arrive, we would get right to the sex part. A few times we would chat with them when the sex was over. But usually they would just leave.
There were a couple of times that I remember we chatted and relaxed before jumping into sex. One of those times was when we invited a couple over for some play time. They were friends from out-of-town and we had hinted about having a 4some next time we got together. When they did come over, we chatted for a while, had a few drinks and then headed down to our "play room". We played around for a few hours and then we went back upstairs and hung out for a while before we had dinner. After dinner, they went back home. We did this a few times with them. And while it was a 4some, it always ended up with me being with the top of that couple and my ex being with the bottom of that couple.
The other times that come to mind were the 2 times we hosted an orgy at our house. The first time there was around 10 guys that showed up. (The second time it was closer to 15 guys.) But as the guys would arrive, we would hang around, have a drink, watch some porn and chat with the guys. After everybody arrived, most of the guys would have another drink and get comfortable being naked (or in their underwear) with the other guys. We would show everybody the different areas we had set up for sex and then we would introduce everybody to each other and made sure everybody was comfortable. And then the fun would begin. I think the chill time and introducing everybody to each other really helped make it a great evening.
I love threesomes. Unfortunately my BF isn’t into them. With casual sex, I always think it’s best to strip down and go at it right away. If you chat too much it’s easy to start over thinking and one of the parties to lose interest.
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From personal experience I have found 4somes to work better than 3somes. Too often 3ways result in a lonely and unhappy cock or hole. With 4 partners it’s easier to make everybody happy. If you do go for 3 picking a dedicated bottom for the session has worked the best for me.
The first group action I had with my now husband was with somebody from his soccer team and his partner. If youre not luck enough to have a bf who’s a jock I’ve found JO clubs are the best place to meet potential targets. You also get an idea of your potential partner(s) in action.
A lot of your planning depends on what your ultimate goal is. If you are in a long term stable relationship and trying to improve your sex lives I agree that repeat customers are the best bet. If you want something more casual, most men are somewhat obsessed with the idea of a threeway. So much so that they will probably prioritize the group experience over you or bf fitting their hotness profile. Just remember, porn is not real life and the fantasy is usually better than the reality.
To prove I’m not a ‘Debbie Downer’ - for the last 2 years we’ve been playing with a really hot bottom boy we met a NY Jacks. Sadly the relationship is on COVID hold.
The first group action I had with my now husband was with somebody from his soccer team and his partner. If youre not luck enough to have a bf who’s a jock I’ve found JO clubs are the best place to meet potential targets. You also get an idea of your potential partner(s) in action.
A lot of your planning depends on what your ultimate goal is. If you are in a long term stable relationship and trying to improve your sex lives I agree that repeat customers are the best bet. If you want something more casual, most men are somewhat obsessed with the idea of a threeway. So much so that they will probably prioritize the group experience over you or bf fitting their hotness profile. Just remember, porn is not real life and the fantasy is usually better than the reality.
To prove I’m not a ‘Debbie Downer’ - for the last 2 years we’ve been playing with a really hot bottom boy we met a NY Jacks. Sadly the relationship is on COVID hold.
I’m not trying to be judgemental here or trying to make any assumptions about you or your partner because I don’t know you.
But from based on all the conversations that I had with partnered folks who got into threesomes/sex with other people/open relationships. It’s usually the last leg of the relationship. I’m not basing this on anything but on what I’ve seen and heard throughout life experience.
I’m just throwing it out there (not specifically directed at OP). Molly, you’re in danger gurl!
Nope, I totally get it. We are fine, actually bought a house together but wanna spice up our sex life
I have chatted with a lot of guys who like thirds for the fun of it. I am sure it goes both ways, but I don't think it's always a death knell.
That is how I met my partner— in a way,,. Was at a sex party (didn’t know he was there)... Saw me fuckin a bottom and came up behind with a very deep voice “u going home with me”.. I ignored him and says again “ I said you going home with me”. I turned around to see a 6’2 muscular man with a big ass fuckin dick.... I said “uh ok”. Took a bottom to his place and we fucked him all night... My partner is also a total top ( like I am)...Been at it for 10 years...All the threesomes cum dumps we have had never gets old..
I was actually the third and it was kind of unexpected.
I had a friend at work. One day we were at the kitchen and he sat by my side. We were kind of close and it was cold, so he laid his head on my shoulder. Suddenly he put my hand on his hard dick. I was surprised at the moment but then got horny and we sucked each other's dick that day. It kept happening sometimes after that.
Later I found out he was married to another guy. He told.me they'd often get a threesome and his partner was ok with it. One day I had to leave something at his place and he invited me in because it was hot and offered some water. I sat on the couch and met his partner then. They sat by both my sides.
We were small talking and when things went silent, they started to get closer to me and I figured out they were in the mood. So was I after that. We started with some kissing and went straight to blowjobs. We took that to the bedroom and I fucked both of them for two hours. It was great.
They seemed cool with that and confessed they asked me to hand in something personally at their house so they could have a round of three. I gladly offered more and we would have it sometimes. Sad thing they had to move to a different city later.
I had a friend at work. One day we were at the kitchen and he sat by my side. We were kind of close and it was cold, so he laid his head on my shoulder. Suddenly he put my hand on his hard dick. I was surprised at the moment but then got horny and we sucked each other's dick that day. It kept happening sometimes after that.
Later I found out he was married to another guy. He told.me they'd often get a threesome and his partner was ok with it. One day I had to leave something at his place and he invited me in because it was hot and offered some water. I sat on the couch and met his partner then. They sat by both my sides.
We were small talking and when things went silent, they started to get closer to me and I figured out they were in the mood. So was I after that. We started with some kissing and went straight to blowjobs. We took that to the bedroom and I fucked both of them for two hours. It was great.
They seemed cool with that and confessed they asked me to hand in something personally at their house so they could have a round of three. I gladly offered more and we would have it sometimes. Sad thing they had to move to a different city later.
