Gay Guys Who Don't Like Penetration

[loveagrower2]

I was curious if there was anyone else out there who is not turned on by penetration, including oral. I've been reading some of the other discussions like "Why do guys like to suck cock", and just cannot relate to any of the desire people are describing. Similarly, with some of the other threads that post solo videos, the response of some people saying things like "I hope there's a video of him fucking/getting fucked" kind of catch me off guard (in an emotional sense, I obviously can predict that response and not be surprised, it happens all the time!). I usually have to search long and hard for good solo videos, or mutual masturbation, etc. so much of gay porn seems to be centered around penetration, sometimes I feel like I'm out of place, even have gone through phases of questioning my identity, like "if that's what gay guys like, maybe I'm something other than gay"? Yet so far, that still seems to be the best way to describe my identity in other aspects, just not sexual desire.

Does this resonate with anyone? How do you communicate this with new dates/prospective partners?

 

[tnman]

So exactly what do you like seually, noting you are 100% Gay?

 

[cedarizzo]

So I am guessing that you are only interested in masturbation?

 

[deleted1074483]

hiya

not personally but certainly with people I've known or been in contact with - several that I dated before they told me they weren't into penetration, which for me stopped those progressing.

There are a lot of guys out there who like guys, so are gay, but aren't into penetration, but like cuddling, kissing, wanking, frottage etc, sometimes its been a religious reason (I dated a muslim guy for a while), sometimes just because as you said, penetration does nothing for them .

As a top who has tried bottoming, that does nothing for me either, I get no pleasure from it, so I do get part of what you're saying.

just be assured its not just you.

 

[fellatio4ever]

I am a huge cocksucker. I love a man to fuck my mouth then cum in me, on me, or just cover me with his load.
As for fucking me...penetration, I love a hard rough deep pounding but not every man gets to do that to me and I don't do it as often. I have to really be into the man and be in the mood for it.

 

[loveagrower2]

Thanks for the replies, these are all helpful. For me, masturbation, frottage, and other forms of outercourse are generally enjoyable.

 

[bkmuscledad]

I completely understand, because as much as I enjoy penetration, there are times when all I want to do is cuddle, frot and enjoy feeling the other person's body. Most guys I've been with have been the same, actually. The key is trying to make our moods sync up. I don't think you need to worry about how you feel about it. It's a matter of finding someone who understands, and feels the same way. I wish you luck finding him. If you're on any apps or sites for meeting, perhaps make that clear in your profile, and you may be surprised at the responses you get. The key is presenting it as a positive thing about yourself, and not being apologetic for not wanting penetration. Just own it. Being sure of yourself is very sexy.