So this is my first post, I wanted to ask a question. Before I transitioned I would love to cruise and look at VPLs or guys that freeball. Now that I’ve transitioned when I attempt to go to the areas for cursing or where guys freeball I feel unwanted or the guys seem uneasy. Of course, the straight guys don’t mind but honestly, gays are more kink and have more fun. Are they fun days over for me since I’m a trans woman now? I still have a “lady stick” that gets hard but there's now double D’s Involved.
Gay Men Don’t Like Trans Women Around
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I didn't realize there were areas set aside where men freeball........
If you are outwardly presenting as a female it shouldn’t be a surprise that you’re now an “outsider” at freeballing events for men.
However, I will admit complete ignorance of these gatherings and how they work.
However, I will admit complete ignorance of these gatherings and how they work.
Trans women are women. I think it's fair to say most gay men are not attracted to women. I don't think it's much more complicated than that. I too am unsure of the dynamic of freeball meetups, but I'm guessing if they're organized by and for gay men or men attracted to the male form, a woman in the midst is confusing and not what they signed up for. If the organizers made it more clear that all who enjoy VPLs etc are welcome, the attendees might be more willing to expect diversity. And maybe they should expect it without an explicit statement. But I think a woman cruising in such a place would not be what a lot of guys were expecting or anticipating. That sucks for you, and it's part of a larger question of expectations and acceptance. But its not entirely surprising.
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I am one of the gay men that is not interested in women sexually. I've done 3ways with married couples, but my interest was always in the other guy. But when if comes to just me and a woman (cis or trans), I've lost all interest.
There are 2 instances where I tried to have sex with a guy who was dressed in women's clothing and I couldn't do it. The first guy used to come into the adult bookstore that I worked at. He was a very good looking guy, nice body. He would get quarters and go into a booth with a gloryhole. He would put all of the quarters into the machine and then he would put lipstick on his face, take his shirt and pants off to reveal that he was wearing women's panties and a bra. He would sit there and jack off. If somebody came into the other booth, he would mess around with them through the gloryhole. When he presented as a man, I thought he was very hot. The first time I saw him through the gloryhole, he just had his dick out and it was very nice. But when he dropped his pants and showed what he was wearing underneath, I lost interest. My mind was hardwired that I now saw him as a woman.
The other time was a guy that used to come to the gloryhole at my house. He was my age and usually showed up wearing just sandals, baggy shorts and a t-shirt. He came over many times, I would suck his dick, he might fuck me, and he would leave. One night, he invited me over to his house. I was horny, so I got the address and told him I would be there in 30 minutes. When I pulled up to this house, he was sitting outside but it was very dark and I couldn't see him very well. When we walked into his house, I saw that he had on a wig, makeup and women's clothing. My dick had been hard on the trip to his house, but when I saw him, it immediately went soft. He tried to suck my dick to make it hard, but I never did get hard after that. I sucked his dick for a little bit, but I finally told him this wasn't working for me and I left. I felt bad, but I just couldn't do it.
The first guy was about 15 years ago. The second guy was maybe 5 years ago. Both of them were good looking guys, but when I saw them in women's clothing, my mind saw them as women and I had no interest. In the last few years, I have watched some porn videos of FTM guys having sex. They present as men, they've had breast reduction surgery but they still have a vagina. I find them pretty hot. Something about them really turns me on, and I have jacked off to many of their videos. I think their masculinity is what I find hot. I haven't tried to have sex with a FTM yet, but I wouldn't rule it out.
There are 2 instances where I tried to have sex with a guy who was dressed in women's clothing and I couldn't do it. The first guy used to come into the adult bookstore that I worked at. He was a very good looking guy, nice body. He would get quarters and go into a booth with a gloryhole. He would put all of the quarters into the machine and then he would put lipstick on his face, take his shirt and pants off to reveal that he was wearing women's panties and a bra. He would sit there and jack off. If somebody came into the other booth, he would mess around with them through the gloryhole. When he presented as a man, I thought he was very hot. The first time I saw him through the gloryhole, he just had his dick out and it was very nice. But when he dropped his pants and showed what he was wearing underneath, I lost interest. My mind was hardwired that I now saw him as a woman.
The other time was a guy that used to come to the gloryhole at my house. He was my age and usually showed up wearing just sandals, baggy shorts and a t-shirt. He came over many times, I would suck his dick, he might fuck me, and he would leave. One night, he invited me over to his house. I was horny, so I got the address and told him I would be there in 30 minutes. When I pulled up to this house, he was sitting outside but it was very dark and I couldn't see him very well. When we walked into his house, I saw that he had on a wig, makeup and women's clothing. My dick had been hard on the trip to his house, but when I saw him, it immediately went soft. He tried to suck my dick to make it hard, but I never did get hard after that. I sucked his dick for a little bit, but I finally told him this wasn't working for me and I left. I felt bad, but I just couldn't do it.
The first guy was about 15 years ago. The second guy was maybe 5 years ago. Both of them were good looking guys, but when I saw them in women's clothing, my mind saw them as women and I had no interest. In the last few years, I have watched some porn videos of FTM guys having sex. They present as men, they've had breast reduction surgery but they still have a vagina. I find them pretty hot. Something about them really turns me on, and I have jacked off to many of their videos. I think their masculinity is what I find hot. I haven't tried to have sex with a FTM yet, but I wouldn't rule it out.
I have to agree, women do not sexually turn me on. My friend who’s a nurse at the hospital I work at she has had both lots of surgery and is a women, she’s happy and so pleased for her. She likes men, doesn’t find women sexually attractive. As she frequently tells us “I’m straight,” which she is. I couldn’t have sex with someone who is a women, end of. I think it’s inherently wrong to assume that response equals transphobia or that I must find that individual attractive. Same if a lady is undergoing treatment to become male. If they have a female body then no, but if he/they had a male body fine. But going dressed as a lady to an event for gay men, will not go down well.
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