gay men, please tell me, how can i feel more anal pleasure?

[harukin]

hello everybody
i have a ltr with a guy i truly love, we are both vers but he likes a lot to be bottom with me, although, sometimes i wish i could switch places with him and give him the pleasure of being the top. but sadly, i feel too much pain when i am being penetrated. maybe i have bottomed for him 10 times, but only 4 times i really had felt pleasure. it happened when we did some specific position or after i used a anal plug for a long time. how can i enjoy it more? how i can feel less pain? for example, i can't stand if he tries to go fast or very deep, and i wish i could do it because i know it would be pleasant for him, because i know the feeling, but i just can't!
please give me tips.

 

[CreamEggOmlette]

Those 4 times you experienced it are the key. What about those times sets them out as different? You said it was the position or after using a plug, was there anything else?

I would suggest getting a toy, not a plug, if you don't already have one. Something close to his size and use it to pleasure yourself during alone time and with him. This will help you to relax and adjust to his girth. If that size proves to be too much, step it down to something smaller and work your way back up.

Talk to him about going slow when you are taking him. You are in control of the situation and if he is going too fast, tell him to slow down. If he is pushing to hard, tell him to ease up. You have just as much right to experience pleasure as he does.

Warm up to it. Fingers and tongues can both be used to help open you up. I once had a guy practically fist me with how well and completely he opened me up.

This might be controversial, but get poppers. Poppers work by short-circuiting your brain and slowing down reaction time. It also causes the "smooth muscles" of the anus to relax. Poppers was the only thing getting me through taking some of the dick I've taken.

Lastly, use the positions that work until you are comfortable moving to another one. I generally hate being fucked doggie on my hands and knees. So I usually start on my belly, side, or back because it's more comfortable to begin with. We may get to me being on all fours, but that's after the other positions.

Hope all of this helps.

 

[harukin]

Those 4 times you experienced it are the key. What about those times sets them out as different? You said it was the position or after using a plug, was there anything else?

I would suggest getting a toy, not a plug, if you don't already have one. Something close to his size and use it to pleasure yourself during alone time and with him. This will help you to relax and adjust to his girth. If that size proves to be too much, step it down to something smaller and work your way back up.

Talk to him about going slow when you are taking him. You are in control of the situation and if he is going too fast, tell him to slow down. If he is pushing to hard, tell him to ease up. You have just as much right to experience pleasure as he does.

Warm up to it. Fingers and tongues can both be used to help open you up. I once had a guy practically fist me with how well and completely he opened me up.

This might be controversial, but get poppers. Poppers work by short-circuiting your brain and slowing down reaction time. It also causes the "smooth muscles" of the anus to relax. Poppers was the only thing getting me through taking some of the dick I've taken.

Lastly, use the positions that work until you are comfortable moving to another one. I generally hate being fucked doggie on my hands and knees. So I usually start on my belly, side, or back because it's more comfortable to begin with. We may get to me being on all fours, but that's after the other positions.

Hope all of this helps.

thank you so much! thanks a lot!

 

[rockmusl1]

hello everybody
i have a ltr with a guy i truly love, we are both vers but he likes a lot to be bottom with me, although, sometimes i wish i could switch places with him and give him the pleasure of being the top. but sadly, i feel too much pain when i am being penetrated. maybe i have bottomed for him 10 times, but only 4 times i really had felt pleasure. it happened when we did some specific position or after i used a anal plug for a long time. how can i enjoy it more? how i can feel less pain? for example, i can't stand if he tries to go fast or very deep, and i wish i could do it because i know it would be pleasant for him, because i know the feeling, but i just can't!
please give me tips.

Also, get your ass looked at by a doctor. I once had horrible pain when getting fucked and a doctor discovered I had an anal fissure. Once I got the fissure treated, I was good to go! Good luck!

 

[submonster]

anal foreplay and stretching(fingering or buttplug) prevents you from getting that sharp pulled muscle pain from unprepared anal sex with a hung partner( i am a bottom and if i dont play with my ass for a few days sometimes it hurts during sex because my anus get like a cramp from rapid stretching)

 

[Stesker]

anal foreplay and stretching(fingering or buttplug) prevents you from getting that sharp pulled muscle pain from unprepared anal sex with a hung partner( i am a bottom and if i dont play with my ass for a few days sometimes it hurts during sex because my anus get like a cramp from rapid stretching)

Yes. The same here. I train with butt plugs. It keeps me ready should he ask for sex.