Gay Youtuber, Disappeared...do You Know His Name?

[Moodley]

I am looking for the name or atleast a photo of a gay youtuber who came out around 2014 or 2015. He came out in a video whereby he had these charts/cards and it had messages and he turned each one till it read the message that he was gay. He was had an ex wife and a child and he was verrrry cute... Towards the end of his channel, he was saying how hard it was to meet and date men and the last thing I remember before he stop posting was that he made a mistake and that he wasnt actually gay....

I know its a reach to find this particular person but hey worth a try...Plus his coming out video was a viral video at the time.

 

[coldsilencehas]

I think you are talking about Ben Hobson

 

[lc8045]

Yup. That’s him. Poor guy. He must’ve been going through a lot.

 

[Thickshafted]

Yeah, Ben Hobson. He's actually a really nice guy. We used to message each other back and forth (nothing nsfw before anyone asks!) and he was surprisingly down to earth and a really genuine person. I felt so bad for him regarding the confusion he felt and the mental health issues he faced afterward. The last I heard, he had things under control and was doing well. I think being in the spotlight was just too fucking much for him, as I know it would be for me (and a lot of other people too). I haven't heard anything about him in a while, but I hope staying out of the public eye has done him some good. Last I heard, he was living the good life on a beautiful island, and I hope he's still that kind of happy.

 

[pogwoff1066]

Yeah, Ben Hobson. He's actually a really nice guy. We used to message each other back and forth (nothing nsfw before anyone asks!) and he was surprisingly down to earth and a really genuine person. I felt so bad for him regarding the confusion he felt and the mental health issues he faced afterward. The last I heard, he had things under control and was doing well. I think being in the spotlight was just too fucking much for him, as I know it would be for me (and a lot of other people too). I haven't heard anything about him in a while, but I hope staying out of the public eye has done him some good. Last I heard, he was living the good life on a beautiful island, and I hope he's still that kind of happy.

Someone on Youtube said he killed himself. I looked it up and came across this obituary

I have really bad face blindness, so I hope someone can confirm or deny. But I believe it's him right?

If it is how horribly tragic.

 

[Thickshafted]

Someone on Youtube said he killed himself. I looked it up and came across this obituary

I have really bad face blindness, so I hope someone can confirm or deny. But I believe it's him right?

If it is how horribly tragic.

That is him. That's so fucking sad. I'm shocked. He was such a nice dude. Ugh.

 

[pogwoff1066]

That is him. That's so fucking sad. I'm shocked. He was such a nice dude. Ugh.

Thanks for the confirmation.

Seems like he was a very sweet person, albeit with a very complicated and tragic private life.
Thank God he's at peace now.

 

[Thickshafted]

Thanks for the confirmation.

Seems like he was a very sweet person, albeit with a very complicated and tragic private life.
Thank God he's at peace now.

Absolutely. He was an incredibly sweet dude. And his life was very complicated. He struggled and fought hard for years battling mental health issues. I'm so fucking sad he's gone, but I do hope he's at peace. I'm still kind of in shock. The last I had heard from him, he was doing so well. I was hoping that things were still moving in that direction for him.

 

[Thickshafted]

God, this one hit me hard. I still miss him so much. He was such a genuine, authentic person. A good friend. Despite what everyone was saying about him because he had said he was a gay dad, then said he might not be gay. He was exploring his sexuality, but he was doing it under a microscope from the media looking at his every move, and trying to throw labels on him so they could fit him in a little box and easily categorize him. The friendship that he and I struck up was largely due to the fact that I said "Look, Ben. I don't really give a shit what you are. Gay, straight, bi, somewhere in between." It doesn't matter. What matters is I know your story and some of your history, and we connected based on having had similar experiences. If he ultimately ended up straight? More power to him. Him being gay or bi was not the basis upon which our friendship sat. We bonded over being confused about sexuality, messing around with a friend who we had trusted, only to have that friend turn around and stab us in the back, and dealing with the hurt that came from that. That was kind of our bond. That, and he had kids. And I loved kids. So when he told me that he was back to dating women and exploring that? I was happy for him! I encouraged him to do what made him feel right in his heart. I just wanted him to figure out what his path to happiness would look like, and go pursue it, and find a way to tune out all of the online haters. I had lost touch with him around the time he had gone missing up in the mountain in South Dakota. I was reaching out, trying desperately to let him know he had so many of us who cared about him who just wanted him to come down safely. I don't know if he ever got any of those messages from me. I heard he did make it back, and was Ok for a while. Until he wasn't. And tragedy struck. So fucking heartbreaking. I'm pissed, I'm deeply saddened, and I'm just kind of in shock. If anyone has contact info for Ben's widow, or even his ex wife so that I could set up a fund to put money away for his children's college funds, please put me in touch with them.