Girlfriend admitted her fantasy and it involves someone close to me

[matt1027]

hey all. Been a member here for a while and it's been a great experience. I have a very healthy sex life with my girlfriend, but a few weeks ago when she was a bit drunk, she admitted a fantasy she's apparently had for years. She said she's always wanted to be shared by 2 guys who are very close, and she's masturbated thinking about me and a guy in my life fucking her at the same time. I don't want to get into the details on the forum, but it was a shock. At first I was not at all interested, but as the days went on, I couldn't get it out of my head. I can't stop thinking about it. I've jerked off thinking about it countless times. Has this ever happened to anyone? Happy to talk more in PMs or on Skype (mattlovesbrazil).

For reference, I'm straight and we've been dating for about a year. I've never done any group sex or anything like that before.

 

[philsdragon]

hey all. Been a member here for a while and it's been a great experience. I have a very healthy sex life with my girlfriend, but a few weeks ago when she was a bit drunk, she admitted a fantasy she's apparently had for years. She said she's always wanted to be shared by 2 guys who are very close, and she's masturbated thinking about me and a guy in my life fucking her at the same time. I don't want to get into the details on the forum, but it was a shock. At first I was not at all interested, but as the days went on, I couldn't get it out of my head. I can't stop thinking about it. I've jerked off thinking about it countless times. Has this ever happened to anyone? Happy to talk more in PMs or on Skype (mattlovesbrazil).

For reference, I'm straight and we've been dating for about a year. I've never done any group sex or anything like that before.

Time to find a new girlfriend mate. She's out to replace you.

 

[Sagittarius84]

Time to find a new girlfriend mate. She's out to replace you.

Right? Like, I don't think OP realizes this girl literally just let him know who she is going to cheat on him with, if that should happen.
I'd cast side eye in general if any woman I was with volunteered her fantasy of getting Eifel Towered, but to name the desired third party as a close friend/acquaintance/family implies that much more.
Stats already show that about half of women already have a backup partner picked out for when they most likely leave(monkeybranching), and there's a very high likelihood that you are aware of who he is or she has facilitated some sort of interaction between you two.
I think if OP is serious about this woman, he needs to quickly prioritize what would be more important over the long run, because just because something gets you off so readily doesn't mean it's good for you, nor a long term relationship....but if getting your friends sloppy seconds doesn't bother you on a short term basis, then have at it.

 

[matt1027]

Right? Like, I don't think OP realizes this girl literally just let him know who she is going to cheat on him with, if that should happen.
I'd cast side eye in general if any woman I was with volunteered her fantasy of getting Eifel Towered, but to name the desired third party as a close friend/acquaintance/family implies that much more.
Stats already show that about half of women already have a backup partner picked out for when they most likely leave(monkeybranching), and there's a very high likelihood that you are aware of who he is or she has facilitated some sort of interaction between you two.
I think if OP is serious about this woman, he needs to quickly prioritize what would be more important over the long run, because just because something gets you off so readily doesn't mean it's good for you, nor a long term relationship....but if getting your friends sloppy seconds doesn't bother you on a short term basis, then have at it.

I don't have any intention of making her fantasy a reality, what I'm struggling with is being extremely turned on by the idea... I didn't think I'd be into it but I can't stop thinking about it. She didn't ask to do it, she just told me it's her biggest fantasy.

 

[Bifininsocal]

I think you guys are too negative. This could be the start of a very hot, somewhat open relationship, or at least some mind-blowing sex between you. My wife admitted something similar to me about 20 years ago, and we’ve been together ever since. We have been swingers on/off ever since.

 

[amazzzed2]

Doesn’t sound to me like she’s wanting to cheat, or necessarily Even actually follow through with this. She said it’s a Fantasy and maybe you could just at least start with using the Fantasy to spice up your sex life.
See where it goes from there.

 

[sfarugby]

I absolutely agree trying to do something like this with my boyfriend right now and he is very negative about it

Negativity can destroy so much potential

 

[sfarugby]

Yeah he is getting a lot better now and I know secretly it turns them on to think about me with someone else LOL

Ironically I'm experiencing something very similar at the moment

 

[sfarugby]

It took awile to understand why seeing my wife takinganother big cock inside her made me so turned on I could barely control myself

 

[Sagittarius84]

I don't have any intention of making her fantasy a reality, what I'm struggling with is being extremely turned on by the idea...

You don't struggle with not drinking antifreeze, despite how good it tastes. Separate how good of an orgasm you might get from it from say, having to introduce this woman to your family and friends and them knowing your relationship construct, or trying to bond with and effectively father a child you've purportedly sired with her...If you can't reconcile these things, there's a good reason why you're struggling with being turned on by it, because other more rational aspects of you see the red flags.

 

[Sagittarius84]

I absolutely agree trying to do something like this with my boyfriend right now and he is very negative about it

Because reality is a thing, and women have a bad habit of acting as if their collective habits don't exist, aren't recorded, and that men in general will gain no benefit from paying attention to the patterns they reveal.
I think you know exactly why your bf is negative about it, and though I know you're just going to leverage your sexuality to soften him up to get your way, the much more benevolent thing as the one most in control of the sexual aspect of your relationship, would be to facilitate and secure his openness and optionality, before indulging in that which is always available to you.
The sexual power dynamic says to me a lot more men would be much more open to opening their relationships if the women preemptively and periodically checked their privileges in the front end.

 

[Sagittarius84]

Doesn’t sound to me like she’s wanting to cheat

Just out of curiosity, what could a woman say to you that would not be overtly obvious, but that you would still deduce shes wanting to/prone to cheat?

 

[Kinglmao]

hey all. Been a member here for a while and it's been a great experience. I have a very healthy sex life with my girlfriend, but a few weeks ago when she was a bit drunk, she admitted a fantasy she's apparently had for years. She said she's always wanted to be shared by 2 guys who are very close, and she's masturbated thinking about me and a guy in my life fucking her at the same time. I don't want to get into the details on the forum, but it was a shock. At first I was not at all interested, but as the days went on, I couldn't get it out of my head. I can't stop thinking about it. I've jerked off thinking about it countless times. Has this ever happened to anyone? Happy to talk more in PMs or on Skype (mattlovesbrazil).

For reference, I'm straight and we've been dating for about a year. I've never done any group sex or anything like that before.

Sounds like your into it too so just see if you can do it .

 

[D2xx]

hey all. Been a member here for a while and it's been a great experience. I have a very healthy sex life with my girlfriend, but a few weeks ago when she was a bit drunk, she admitted a fantasy she's apparently had for years. She said she's always wanted to be shared by 2 guys who are very close, and she's masturbated thinking about me and a guy in my life fucking her at the same time. I don't want to get into the details on the forum, but it was a shock. At first I was not at all interested, but as the days went on, I couldn't get it out of my head. I can't stop thinking about it. I've jerked off thinking about it countless times. Has this ever happened to anyone? Happy to talk more in PMs or on Skype (mattlovesbrazil).

For reference, I'm straight and we've been dating for about a year. I've never done any group sex or anything like that before.

She trusted you enough to share the fantasy about it with you and if it stays a fantasy and you trust her back no problem, or if it something you want to try as well, no problem. If you are insecure about it, or she acts on it without your consent, then its a problem. Lots of things can permanently remain a fantasy and spice things up just as an idea without ever being acted on. Try it with extra toys first. The fact that she trusted you and was comfortable enough to share a fantasy that she would know could be a relationship deal breaker is important, the way you trust her back and honestly communicate how you feel about it is what matters next. Then both deciding together what you want to do, then enjoying it together or accepting the consequences if it doesn't work out.

 

[WilliamG]

So let's reverse the roles here...

You tell your GF that you fantasize about a 3some with her and another one of her close girlfriends... How would she feel about it (assuming she's never brought it up)? See now the narrative flips negative? That's why it's a cautionary tale.

 

[Rooker]

Cut her loose.

 

[Sagittarius84]

So let's reverse the roles here...

You tell your GF that you fantasize about a 3some with her and another one of her close girlfriends... How would she feel about it (assuming she's never brought it up)? See now the narrative flips negative? That's why it's a cautionary tale.

Thank you for this, because a lot of times I think guys are so semen laden, and opportunistic to get into kinky stuff, they overlook red flags. There is not a woman in this forum that would earnestly tell another woman her male partner exposing his fantasy for a 3some with her and a close female friend/relative is a good thing or a great opportunity to look into poly relationships.
I know a lot of possible simps and white knights are obsessed with making "safe spaces" for women to espouse sexual fantasies; under the auspices they may be able to take part in/or fulfill them for for her, but we have to stop sending men as lemmings to the cliff just because we may get off on whatever reconciliation is gleaned.
OP, a woman talking about her sexual fantasies that may involve multiple men is somewhat of a beige flag...the fact she feels comfortable telling you she wants it to be between two men whom are very close, and she has already eyed your friend, means she either just outright doesn't respect you, and is pushing the boundaries to see what shit she can pull over you, or she sees you as a possible cuck, and is laying the groundwork to place you in the position you don't know you want yet.

 

[Tight_End_SC]

@WilliamG sums it up nicely.

 

[CUBE]

Sounds like she is just sharing a sexy fantasy. Doesn’t mean she actually wants to do it. Maybe she’d like you to get a little verbal fantasy going for her enjoyment and you should just enjoy it.

 

[elklindoxxx]

hey all. Been a member here for a while and it's been a great experience. I have a very healthy sex life with my girlfriend, but a few weeks ago when she was a bit drunk, she admitted a fantasy she's apparently had for years. She said she's always wanted to be shared by 2 guys who are very close, and she's masturbated thinking about me and a guy in my life fucking her at the same time. I don't want to get into the details on the forum, but it was a shock. At first I was not at all interested, but as the days went on, I couldn't get it out of my head. I can't stop thinking about it. I've jerked off thinking about it countless times. Has this ever happened to anyone? Happy to talk more in PMs or on Skype (mattlovesbrazil).

For reference, I'm straight and we've been dating for about a year. I've never done any group sex or anything like that before.

My partner and I go with other couples. So ask your girlfriend if she would like to go to a couples event. Where you meet and greet other like minded people. So you find out what your interest levels are in having group sex. I'll tell you that it has supercharged our sex lives.