Girlfriend admitted her fantasy and it involves someone close to me

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hey all. Been a member here for a while and it's been a great experience. I have a very healthy sex life with my girlfriend, but a few weeks ago when she was a bit drunk, she admitted a fantasy she's apparently had for years. She said she's always wanted to be shared by 2 guys who are very close, and she's masturbated thinking about me and a guy in my life fucking her at the same time. I don't want to get into the details on the forum, but it was a shock. At first I was not at all interested, but as the days went on, I couldn't get it out of my head. I can't stop thinking about it. I've jerked off thinking about it countless times. Has this ever happened to anyone? Happy to talk more in PMs or on Skype (mattlovesbrazil).

For reference, I'm straight and we've been dating for about a year. I've never done any group sex or anything like that before.
 
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hey all. Been a member here for a while and it's been a great experience. I have a very healthy sex life with my girlfriend, but a few weeks ago when she was a bit drunk, she admitted a fantasy she's apparently had for years. She said she's always wanted to be shared by 2 guys who are very close, and she's masturbated thinking about me and a guy in my life fucking her at the same time. I don't want to get into the details on the forum, but it was a shock. At first I was not at all interested, but as the days went on, I couldn't get it out of my head. I can't stop thinking about it. I've jerked off thinking about it countless times. Has this ever happened to anyone? Happy to talk more in PMs or on Skype (mattlovesbrazil).

For reference, I'm straight and we've been dating for about a year. I've never done any group sex or anything like that before.
Time to find a new girlfriend mate. She's out to replace you.
 
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Time to find a new girlfriend mate. She's out to replace you.
Right? Like, I don't think OP realizes this girl literally just let him know who she is going to cheat on him with, if that should happen.
I'd cast side eye in general if any woman I was with volunteered her fantasy of getting Eifel Towered, but to name the desired third party as a close friend/acquaintance/family implies that much more.
Stats already show that about half of women already have a backup partner picked out for when they most likely leave(monkeybranching), and there's a very high likelihood that you are aware of who he is or she has facilitated some sort of interaction between you two.
I think if OP is serious about this woman, he needs to quickly prioritize what would be more important over the long run, because just because something gets you off so readily doesn't mean it's good for you, nor a long term relationship....but if getting your friends sloppy seconds doesn't bother you on a short term basis, then have at it.
 
Right? Like, I don't think OP realizes this girl literally just let him know who she is going to cheat on him with, if that should happen.
I'd cast side eye in general if any woman I was with volunteered her fantasy of getting Eifel Towered, but to name the desired third party as a close friend/acquaintance/family implies that much more.
Stats already show that about half of women already have a backup partner picked out for when they most likely leave(monkeybranching), and there's a very high likelihood that you are aware of who he is or she has facilitated some sort of interaction between you two.
I think if OP is serious about this woman, he needs to quickly prioritize what would be more important over the long run, because just because something gets you off so readily doesn't mean it's good for you, nor a long term relationship....but if getting your friends sloppy seconds doesn't bother you on a short term basis, then have at it.
I don't have any intention of making her fantasy a reality, what I'm struggling with is being extremely turned on by the idea... I didn't think I'd be into it but I can't stop thinking about it. She didn't ask to do it, she just told me it's her biggest fantasy.
 
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Doesn’t sound to me like she’s wanting to cheat, or necessarily Even actually follow through with this. She said it’s a Fantasy and maybe you could just at least start with using the Fantasy to spice up your sex life.
See where it goes from there.
 
I think you guys are too negative. This could be the start of a very hot, somewhat open relationship, or at least some mind-blowing sex between you. My wife admitted something similar to me about 20 years ago, and we’ve been together ever since. We have been swingers on/off ever since.
I absolutely agree trying to do something like this with my boyfriend right now and he is very negative about it
 
I don't have any intention of making her fantasy a reality, what I'm struggling with is being extremely turned on by the idea...
You don't struggle with not drinking antifreeze, despite how good it tastes. Separate how good of an orgasm you might get from it from say, having to introduce this woman to your family and friends and them knowing your relationship construct, or trying to bond with and effectively father a child you've purportedly sired with her...If you can't reconcile these things, there's a good reason why you're struggling with being turned on by it, because other more rational aspects of you see the red flags.
 
I absolutely agree trying to do something like this with my boyfriend right now and he is very negative about it
Because reality is a thing, and women have a bad habit of acting as if their collective habits don't exist, aren't recorded, and that men in general will gain no benefit from paying attention to the patterns they reveal.
I think you know exactly why your bf is negative about it, and though I know you're just going to leverage your sexuality to soften him up to get your way, the much more benevolent thing as the one most in control of the sexual aspect of your relationship, would be to facilitate and secure his openness and optionality, before indulging in that which is always available to you.
The sexual power dynamic says to me a lot more men would be much more open to opening their relationships if the women preemptively and periodically checked their privileges in the front end.
 
hey all. Been a member here for a while and it's been a great experience. I have a very healthy sex life with my girlfriend, but a few weeks ago when she was a bit drunk, she admitted a fantasy she's apparently had for years. She said she's always wanted to be shared by 2 guys who are very close, and she's masturbated thinking about me and a guy in my life fucking her at the same time. I don't want to get into the details on the forum, but it was a shock. At first I was not at all interested, but as the days went on, I couldn't get it out of my head. I can't stop thinking about it. I've jerked off thinking about it countless times. Has this ever happened to anyone? Happy to talk more in PMs or on Skype (mattlovesbrazil).

For reference, I'm straight and we've been dating for about a year. I've never done any group sex or anything like that before.
Sounds like your into it too so just see if you can do it .