Girth virgins: getting a female accustomed to girth

[canadianwhiskey]

now there are the three key elemenets (let me know if there are more):
1. LOTS of foreplay
2. Lube!
3. Going slow and being gentle

what i want to know is what works for each individual in terms of techniques. amount of lube and how long does each "phase" take in one session on average. also how beneficial and crucial is her "bearing down"?

For EXAMPLE.
1. Foreplay - lots of pussy eating, fingering and kissing (25 minutes)
2. Lube - i apply about "so and so" amount of lube to her (name the specific area/s) (5 minutes) and then continue foreplay (eg. stretch her open with fingers) for about "so and so" minutes OR try to enter her immediately
3. Entering and passing the 'first wall' when stretching her open - i often put the tip in the entrance and gently see saw with VERY shallow strokes for about 5 minutes. then i try to push a further "so and so" inches inside and repeat the process until i'm completely filling her up (or if your too lengthy, as far in as you intend to go)

and then about how long after full insertion (if that long) until she starts "enjoying" it and if she doesn't start, how long before you stop and/or give up on that session (at least penetrative sex wise)

please elaborate as much as you want/can. of course every woman will react differently but i just wanted some ideas of the 'math and science' behind getting a woman who has never experienced your thickness/girth

COME ON ALL YOU FAT COCKS, chime in . Ladies also please let us know what works well for you in getting prepared to take a really thick piece of man meat
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[canadianwhiskey]

Lastly, what instructions do you give her to help her better be able to minimize the burning sensation and feeling unusually stretched?

 

[Ifuckwives]

A lot of wives I fuck that have never had a cock in them as big as mine is have their husband fuck them first and cum in them. That way they have natural lube in them already and they are already ready for me. Although I stretch them, they are already in the mood and wanting it. I usually have the husband eat his wife first them fuck her, then I get in between her legs and rub my cock around some and then push the head of my cock in her. By this time she is really wanting me in her. Then I slowly slide it in and her eyes roll back and the rest is pure pleasure for both of us, and for her husband who is watching us.

 

[deleted716371]

I am usually considered thick but most women have been able to accomodate my cock as long as I make sure she is ready and don't force penetration. Ordinary foreplay and going a bit slow when initially penetrating her is normally enough.

 

[EquusAZ]

I take my time. Every lover (male or female) get my absolute undivided attention. I'm there to make THEM feel good - my feeling good comes from them feeling good and if they DON'T feel good - I go soft. Nuff said on that.

Plenty of eating out, fingering, and hell, just kissing. Always reminds me of that scene from Monty Python Meaning of Life.

Watson: R - rubbing the clitoris, sir?

Humphrey: What's wrong with a kiss, boy? Hmm? Why not start her off with a nice kiss? You don't have to go leaping straight for the clitoris like a bull at a gate. Give her a kiss, boy.


And its good advice ;-) Nothing gets me harder than a kiss ;-)

 

[BillM]

I feel with proper foreplay you should have no problem penetrating a well lubed up vagina in 15 minutes. Bill

 

[shortymike]

It helps if the woman enjoys large dicks or at least wants to try. Sometimes I lie about my thickness (to the downside), saying it is 7 or 7.5 inch girth, since a lot of the woman will have had prior experience with one that thick, or at least a toy they have. A lot of it is psychological. I've discovered that if they can handle their big 7-8 girth toys, they can probably stretch just fine to 9 inch girth. I chased one self confessed size queen off by telling her my true girth. She then compared it to objects she found and decided she couldn't handle it.

I've always had lube available, since I was very young. I don't leave home without it. When I was a virgin I didn't know better, but we found some adhoc lube in the bathroom to continue. I've had to adjust my technique for many women, using short strokes for the upper part of my dick where it's only 8 inch girth. I hear a hissing gasp if I go too far and a back off, otherwise risking them "tapping out."

 

[jeff_infl]

I eat my wife to orgasm every time before we fuck or I just don't fit. Same as with some previous GFs.

Being good at oral and loosening her up with oral + fingers to her first orgasm is key.

 

[AlteredEgo]

how beneficial and crucial is her "bearing down"

Bearing down pushes out whatever is in. I assume bearing down reduces available space. Sounds counterintuitive to do such a thing if his erection is already too thick.

 

[blarg999]

So, I already followed the general advice for my gf and after a while she got used to it and everything was amazing. I recently had an injury that prevented me from having sex, and since we haven't been active I've had to start this process all over again. I didn't think she would have to get used to it again, but it's bad enough that I've considered lube as well in addition to foreplay and having her cum first. But it's frustrating having problems again after over a year of being sexually active.

 

[JulieInNaplesFL]

Isn't imagination wonderful?

 

[need2bsexy2]

Oral on her to orgasm after 10 minutes of hot kissing and groping with fingers. Then I enter only as far as it will go and pull back out, go in again a little bit farther as far as it will go and back out, repeat about 8 times until I am in all the way.

 

[TinyPrincess]

Miss the option to vote 'just go for it'

 

[jeff_infl]

Oral on her to orgasm after 10 minutes of hot kissing and groping with fingers. Then I enter only as far as it will go and pull back out, go in again a little bit farther as far as it will go and back out, repeat about 8 times until I am in all the way.

This is spot on. I shouldve mentioned this.

You get resistance, back out slowly, push in a bit more, repeat.

Sometimes even after a minute I pull entirely out, give her a second THEN when i go back in she's far more receptive.

 

[canadianwhiskey]

Bearing down pushes out whatever is in. I assume bearing down reduces available space. Sounds counterintuitive to do such a thing if his erection is already too thick.

interesting. i've seen some suggest 'bearing down' because the force of trying to 'push out' will help get the lips to push PAST and aroudn the thickness therefore helping it to slide in easier. but i do see your point of it probably backfiring and being counter-intuitive.

This is spot on. I shouldve mentioned this.

You get resistance, back out slowly, push in a bit more, repeat.

Sometimes even after a minute I pull entirely out, give her a second THEN when i go back in she's far more receptive.

Oral on her to orgasm after 10 minutes of hot kissing and groping with fingers. Then I enter only as far as it will go and pull back out, go in again a little bit farther as far as it will go and back out, repeat about 8 times until I am in all the way.

in the event that she doesn't start loosening up after 10 minutes and still feels too tight, what do you do, try another method?

 

[AlteredEgo]

interesting. i've seen some suggest 'bearing down' because the force of trying to 'push out' will help get the lips to push PAST and aroudn the thickness therefore helping it to slide in easier. but i do see your point of it probably backfiring and being counter-intuitive.

My inner labia are almost non-existent. I wouldn't know anything about that. Seems to me it would be more effective to hold larger lips out of the way to keep them from getting pushed in with the shaft.

 

[canadianwhiskey]

My inner labia are almost non-existent. I wouldn't know anything about that. Seems to me it would be more effective to hold larger lips out of the way to keep them from getting pushed in with the shaft.

i've always understood the 'bearing down' technique to apply to 'inner lips' where your basically at the main entrance of the vagina and pushing in.

 

[AlteredEgo]

i've always understood the 'bearing down' technique to apply to 'inner lips' where your basically at the main entrance of the vagina and pushing in.

You need muscle to bear down. You've misunderstood. It's the vagina, not the vulva.

 

[canadianwhiskey]

You need muscle to bear down. You've misunderstood. It's the vagina, not the vulva.

thanks for clearing that up for me