Guy I’m into is on bumble

[croconiil]

So there’s this guy that I’ve been into for a long time. He moved away for a year and just recently came back. When he was away, he would keep in touch here and there, would respond to stories on IG and would like a lot of them too (more than any of my other followers did)

When I saw him last weekend, he was continuously teasing me and we were being super playful (roasting/banter) and some of my friends noticed as well that our vibes were very fun. He even did small things such as fix my collar and split a shot with me because there wasn’t much left. We did a “cheers” randomly just him and I and in a joking way said “that was a little gay” and smiled

However, a few days later one of my female friends saw him on a dating app. I’m super confused and not sure on how to approach this situation. I really thought there was something there because whenever we are together he’s more fixated on me than anyone else in the room and is super playful. Any suggestions on what to do?

Like why would a straight guy be acting this way?

 

[thickcockjames]

If you’re not actively dating and have had a conversation with someone about dating exclusively then you can expect him to just give up on dating apps.

Get in touch with him, go on some dates with him and see where it goes.

 

[nclstud]

So there’s this guy that I’ve been into for a long time. He moved away for a year and just recently came back. When he was away, he would keep in touch here and there, would respond to stories on IG and would like a lot of them too (more than any of my other followers did)

When I saw him last weekend, he was continuously teasing me and we were being super playful (roasting/banter) and some of my friends noticed as well that our vibes were very fun. He even did small things such as fix my collar and split a shot with me because there wasn’t much left. We did a “cheers” randomly just him and I and in a joking way said “that was a little gay” and smiled

However, a few days later one of my female friends saw him on a dating app. I’m super confused and not sure on how to approach this situation. I really thought there was something there because whenever we are together he’s more fixated on me than anyone else in the room and is super playful. Any suggestions on what to do?

Like why would a straight guy be acting this way?

Straight guys like IG stories and have male friends. It’s possible that’s all it is to him

 

[Nacksendora]

So there’s this guy that I’ve been into for a long time. He moved away for a year and just recently came back. When he was away, he would keep in touch here and there, would respond to stories on IG and would like a lot of them too (more than any of my other followers did)

When I saw him last weekend, he was continuously teasing me and we were being super playful (roasting/banter) and some of my friends noticed as well that our vibes were very fun. He even did small things such as fix my collar and split a shot with me because there wasn’t much left. We did a “cheers” randomly just him and I and in a joking way said “that was a little gay” and smiled

However, a few days later one of my female friends saw him on a dating app. I’m super confused and not sure on how to approach this situation. I really thought there was something there because whenever we are together he’s more fixated on me than anyone else in the room and is super playful. Any suggestions on what to do?

Like why would a straight guy be acting this way?

Acting how?
Also, remember the existence of bi guys

 

[CockMySuck]

So there’s this guy that I’ve been into for a long time. He moved away for a year and just recently came back. When he was away, he would keep in touch here and there, would respond to stories on IG and would like a lot of them too (more than any of my other followers did)

When I saw him last weekend, he was continuously teasing me and we were being super playful (roasting/banter) and some of my friends noticed as well that our vibes were very fun. He even did small things such as fix my collar and split a shot with me because there wasn’t much left. We did a “cheers” randomly just him and I and in a joking way said “that was a little gay” and smiled

However, a few days later one of my female friends saw him on a dating app. I’m super confused and not sure on how to approach this situation. I really thought there was something there because whenever we are together he’s more fixated on me than anyone else in the room and is super playful. Any suggestions on what to do?

Like why would a straight guy be acting this way?

There was nothing here that made me think that he's romantically interested in you or men (though, of course, he could be bi). It sounds to me that, at the very least, he really just likes you as a friend. I have had a number of straight friends doing what you described, though I also understand how it can feel like something more.

 

[croconiil]

There was nothing here that made me think that he's romantically interested in you or men (though, of course, he could be bi). It sounds to me that, at the very least, he really just likes you as a friend. I have had a number of straight friends doing what you described, though I also understand how it can feel like something more.

While I completely understand that and agree as well, but there is just something different with the way he is with me than any other of our male or female friends. Like he’s always around me whenever we go out and is constantly teasing and making playful jokes with me. I’ve never really experienced these aspects with any other guy. It could be that he’s just being friendly but even the people around us sense that our vibes together are just different idk

 

[CockMySuck]

While I completely understand that and agree as well, but there is just something different with the way he is with me than any other of our male or female friends. Like he’s always around me whenever we go out and is constantly teasing and making playful jokes with me. I’ve never really experienced these aspects with any other guy. It could be that he’s just being friendly but even the people around us sense that our vibes together are just different idk

I respect that. Do you think you gently can bring up what you're thinking with him? I feel like that's one of the solid ways to find out what he's feeling for sure.

I've been in your situation before with certain guys and I've found myself (for better or worse) drinking to get up the nerves to say something. I had one close friend who I drunkenly told I'd love to blow him while we were out getting drinks (and I told him how I didn't want things to get weird, etc but I wanted to be honest with him), and he received it very well. He was super loving and understanding and, while we didn't hook up at the time (we would later), our friendship wasn't hurt and, honestly, we were closer together because of my honesty with him.

Unless he's homophobic, I don't see it hurting your friendship if you tell him you're into him. A lot of guys love knowing they're attractive to other people – whether or not they reciprocate the feelings.

 

[Aphradight]

So there’s this guy that I’ve been into for a long time. He moved away for a year and just recently came back. When he was away, he would keep in touch here and there, would respond to stories on IG and would like a lot of them too (more than any of my other followers did)

When I saw him last weekend, he was continuously teasing me and we were being super playful (roasting/banter) and some of my friends noticed as well that our vibes were very fun. He even did small things such as fix my collar and split a shot with me because there wasn’t much left. We did a “cheers” randomly just him and I and in a joking way said “that was a little gay” and smiled

However, a few days later one of my female friends saw him on a dating app. I’m super confused and not sure on how to approach this situation. I really thought there was something there because whenever we are together he’s more fixated on me than anyone else in the room and is super playful. Any suggestions on what to do?

Like why would a straight guy be acting this way?

Some dudes are by, some dudes are closeted, and some people just want what they want. He may also just really like you as a person.

 

[MarioGolden]

some straight guys like attention

 

[FrankieGuile]

You have three possibilities: 1) he is not straight and he is attracted to you sexually; 2) he is not straight and he is not attracted to you sexually; or, 3) he is straight and you are interpreting his behavior with a bias toward a hope he is the first possibility mentioned. However, one would think that if he is the first possibility, you two would have already acted on it, so logically it is not the first possibility. More likely and logically, it is the second or third possibility. In either case, it is easy to determine by simply asking him. You may burst a fantasy, but you will gain clarity.