When I was 20 I had sex with 2 friends at different times. I had already come out to them years before and both made the first move. Neither experience was great but, since both were not getting any female action, a beer or two made me a viable option. I don’t remember much but we all agreed it was a disaster so we never repeated it. This was the mid 80s and popular culture was full of gays and androgyny, misfits like use found community among the new wavers and punk rockers that hung out in Denver at the time. At the time I never felt any pushback about being gay as it appeared to be commonplace, however - the vast majority of people who looked gay by modern standards were just emo before it was a label.