I'm having a difficult time with anal. Is there something you can use to relax the anal muscles? I mean, this guy really likes anal but the last time when I got home my ass was bleeding and it hurts. Any tips? Or is there a dildo that you'd recommend from Amazon for me to loosen things up before we actually went at it? When I was in my 20's it used to feel good but now every time he puts it in my butt my ass squeezes tight even though I be trying to stay relaxed.