Hi, can you answer me?

[Ophelius]

Can somebody explain me Why being bi as a men its taked as a joke?

I have a lot of things with Girls and have dates and attention from Boys, have some lot of introspection and take the decision to come out as a bi, since then nobodys ever taken my serious (Not in the relationship and love theme, I dont know if this is the place, but in fact I dont have a single person to talk about, bc 90 percent of my friends are straight.

 

[friskydawg]

Can somebody explain me Why being bi as a men its taked as a joke?

I have a lot of things with Girls and have dates and attention from Boys, have some lot of introspection and take the decision to come out as a bi, since then nobodys ever taken my serious (Not in the relationship and love theme, I dont know if this is the place, but in fact I dont have a single person to talk about, bc 90 percent of my friends are straight.

I wouldn't say "taken as a joke" is how most men take it but speaking for myself, most men, both gay and straight just don't relate. They are either gay or straight and don't relate to an equal attraction of both. It doesn't mean they don't believe you they just don't get it.

 

[Ophelius]

Thanks, but I've already have on mind this point of view, as a really romantic person it's hard to assimilate that since I start being open about my sexuality everything in the romantic theme goes down, it should be the opposite, this society of masks really hates to see someone real and open and honest.

I wouldn't say "taken as a joke" is how most men take it but speaking for myself, most men, both gay and straight just don't relate. They are either gay or straight and don't relate to an equal attraction of both. It doesn't mean they don't believe you they just don't get it.

 

[halcyondays]

Multiple reasons.

Some people think in black or white. You're either this or that. One thing or another. No gray areas. For many of these folks it's a function of their personality type and they will adamantly express opinions with absolute certainty... until some knowledge or experience comes along to change it, if at all, after which they may have NEW absolute certainties, lol.

Some (I would say most) people know they're not all straight or all gay but will claim to be out of fear of being labeled and pigeonholed which could lead to them being ostracized, stereotyped or even losing a relationship. Toe-the-liners.

Who can really change outwardly without acceptance of a social group? It can be difficult.

Fear. Insecurity. Self-esteem. Ego. Family. Culture. Religion.

I hope you find someone with whom you can talk about it.

 

[Ophelius]

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Multiple reasons.

Some people think in black or white. You're either this or that. One thing or another. No gray areas. For many of these folks it's a function of their personality type and they will adamantly express opinions with absolute certainty... until some knowledge or experience comes along to change it, if at all, after which they may have NEW absolute certainties, lol.

Some (I would say most) people know they're not all straight or all gay but will claim to be out of fear of being labeled and pigeonholed which could lead to them being ostracized, stereotyped or even losing a relationship. Toe-the-liners.

Who can really change outwardly without acceptance of a social group? It can be difficult.

Fear. Insecurity. Self-esteem. Ego. Family. Culture. Religion.

I hope you find someone with whom you can talk about it.

Thanks dude, deep point of view, I hope that happen too.

 

[dickthrobbing]

Can somebody explain me Why being bi as a men its taked as a joke?

I have a lot of things with Girls and have dates and attention from Boys, have some lot of introspection and take the decision to come out as a bi, since then nobodys ever taken my serious (Not in the relationship and love theme, I dont know if this is the place, but in fact I dont have a single person to talk about, bc 90 percent of my friends are straight.

Its not seeing it as a joke more around trust; in trying to form a relationship with someone most people are likely to want a 100% loyalty in that relationship; by stating you are bi maybe sending the message to that man or woman that you could look for "fun" with someone else.

There are folks who have partners who are happy having an open relationship,

 

[Ophelius]

Its not seeing it as a joke more around trust; in trying to form a relationship with someone most people are likely to want a 100% loyalty in that relationship; by stating you are bi maybe sending the message to that man or woman that you could look for "fun" with someone else.

There are folks who have partners who are happy having an open relationship,

That's other point of view that I studied before, but I'm really honest when I want something serious and when I'm not, I guess that's the most logical way that my problem it's seemed, thanks for answering dude .

 

[goldscorpguy]

Perhaps I've just been lucky, but a good many of my male partners over the years have been gay and, so far, I've never experienced any negativity when I tell them I'm bi. There seems to be this stereotypical thing that gay men hate bi men, but in fact many have told me that they find a bi, married man the biggest turn on ever.

I think a lot of so- called bi or bi curious guys on hook up sites give themselves a bad name because they are considered to be unreliable.

Anyone taking the decision to come out as bi among friends shows bravery and confidence. I'm sure, given time, you'll navigate your way successfully through these early setbacks.

 

[Ophelius]

Perhaps I've just been lucky, but a good many of my male partners over the years have been gay and, so far, I've never experienced any negativity when I tell them I'm bi. There seems to be this stereotypical thing that gay men hate bi men, but in fact many have told me that they find a bi, married man the biggest turn on ever.

I think a lot of so- called bi or bi curious guys on hook up sites give themselves a bad name because they are considered to be unreliable.

Anyone taking the decision to come out as bi among friends shows bravery and confidence. I'm sure, given time, you'll navigate your way successfully through these early setbacks.

Thanks for aswering, your response give me hope, I expect that someday I get there someday