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I have observed that men recently in military service often have a different interpretation of personal space.
For example I was on a flight next to a serviceman in uniform who was heading home after an overseas tour. We had a casual conversation during the meal. He wasn't particularly animated, but he was touching me constantly. Legs together, arm on mine, leaning on me while he reached for something or changed position. I didn't interpret it as sexual at all. He was just completely comfortable with physical contact. I was left with the thought that it was a more natural behavior for that small space, if we weren't all so uptight.
Yup I love platonically handsy friends. I had a buddy who could not leave me alone when we were talking... he would turn my ball cap around, slap my ass, poke me when making a joke, etc. And I'd wait for him to pass out and use him as a pillow. Miss those days!
 

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When I was in graduate school I used to go to the campus gym 3x a week with another guy from my research group. We always went from 1-2:30 and would shower after our workouts. We both had classes in the morning followed by research in the lab during the afternoon so we didn’t want to smell all afternoon. The gym was busy in the afternoons and it became a pattern that there was a wait to shower. After a few weeks he said we should just shower together it’s no big deal that’s what he’d done in his fraternity to bond with his brothers. I was not out and I don’t think he had any idea I was bi. After that visit we started showering together every time. Showering together led to washing each other’s backs including ass and legs. Our showers were at times playful but never did they cross the line into something else. There were lots of ass slaps and grabs, some accidental dick touches and playful hugs while naked but that’s it. I can understand why a fraternity would encourage this behavior because I felt really bonded and protective of him quickly.

The closest the showers ever came to being sexual was once when I’d fucked my girlfriend all morning instead of attending classes and then met up with him to workout. He kept sniffing me and told me I reeked of pussy and it was making him horny. I joked he could probably still taste her pussy on my dick and he said don’t tempt me bro and laughed. I was fucking her but I was in love with him.

This carried on for two years before he left with his masters degree. I was heartbroken when he left because the friendship meant so much to me but being so deep in the closet no one knew how much I was hurting. I still talk to him online from time to time but I’ve not seen him in person since I helped him move out years ago. He’s married with three kids and I think it’d be awkward to see him. Our lives are completely different so instead I just feel thankful for the two years we got to spend together.
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This just happened to me yesterday. I had to go pick up some samples from a shop that I work with. Its a small shop run by a middle aged Indian guy and some times his two sons help him in the back.

The younger son who is like 18, super skinny, trying/failing to grow a bad mustache. And the older son, who is a few years older, mid 20's, full beard, definitely lifts, and is clearly proud of his physique. I've worked with this shop for a while, and I'm on friendly enough terms with the two sons, but never really talked to them. It's a pretty casual shop, there is no A/C, and in the summer time usually no one is wearing a shirt. Or the shirts are unbuttoned all day. There probably hasn't been a woman in that place since the 1970's

It was hot as balls 91º when I went to their shop. I walk in and no ones in the front. I yell for 'Singh' the dad, but no one answers. I walk into the main shop part in the back, and the two sons are at the computer with their backs to me, and I hear the unmistakeable 'moaning and macaroni in a pot' sound of porn being played. I didn't see anything as they were way in the back. They hear me come in, and the younger son kind of freaks out and runs to the bathroom, and the older one just casually pauses the window, not even bothering to close the browser. He pulls his stained gray sweatpants up and walks over to the counter where I am standing, making no mention of the porn behind him. Dude is shirtless, as he is all summer, and I can fully see his boner tenting in his pants. The dude clearly give zero shits about it, or me, it was incredible. I manage to focus, and give him the order #. He walks back, gets me the samples, his dick bobbing up and down the whole time. I look over the samples as he stands there, two feet from me. (He is being chill about it, so I try REALLY hard to follow suit and be chill too). Only once, did he grab his bulge, and gives it a quick/long deliberate tug. I can't tell if it is to settle it down, or keep it hard so he can get back to what he was doing before I got there. He sees my eye keep darting back to the computer, that still has the porn window open. He looks back, looks at me, and just shrugs. No smile, no apology, just shrugs. So I smile and shrug back. Grab my samples say thanks, and head out. Major respect to this young dude for giving zero fucks.

If you look at my albums on here I definitely have jerked off in my shop, but I usually* make sure to wait until after business hours and everyone is gone. I've also worked in other shops that had a pile of porn mags in the bathroom next to the toilet. The shop I cut my teeth in had a bathroom in the way back, and people would just 'disappear' for 20 minutes or so, but there was much more of a don't ask, don't tell policy to it there.
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Yup I love platonically handsy friends. I had a buddy who could not leave me alone when we were talking... he would turn my ball cap around, slap my ass, poke me when making a joke, etc. And I'd wait for him to pass out and use him as a pillow. Miss those days!
One friend I've had since college used to periodically slap my crotch when I'd sit on his bed and watch him play video games.

Once, I got hard when he was doing it, and the next time he slapped it and felt my boner, he just clasped his hand around it and gave it a few tugs, got up, found a porno, tossed at me, and told me to "go take care of it."

He had a giant, tubular, "body pillow" that was covered in cum stains (but he denied it and insisted it was from "drooling") that he was always so concerned I'd cuddle with; I enjoyed sniffing the thing :joy::innocent:
 

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Went rock climbing with some friends and the harnesses pretty much go around your package. When we first put them on we were kinda laughing and joking about each other’s bulges.
Haha, yup. Definitely been there with my buddies. When you get into the harness, you can clearly see everything. Made for some interesting conversations
 

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My mate was chatting to this girl at the bar who thought she was really turning him on making him hard (rubbing his dick over his shorts). He was so adamant he wasn’t interested in her he called me over and told me to tell her he wasn’t hard he was just hung… Well, I had to check, right?

He pulled his cock out and I grabbed it between thumb and forefinger to give it a squeeze. It wasn’t really, but borderline. I quickly put my whole hand around it and stroked back and forth literally once and could feel him instantly chub up so he panicked and pulled it back in his shorts - this time you could see he was turned on.

Needless to say I got rock hard but he spent the rest of the night talking about how he was gonna go meet a girl he’s been fucking. Wish I could’ve joined - don’t think he’d have minded…
 

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I have so many stories of these kinds of scenarios that have happened to me (I’ve dropped a few already in here). I enjoy telling them so I’ll write another.

I went drinking with a friend, let’s call him “Matt”, and he invited one of his other friends, let’s call him “Don”. So the three of us had hit a few pubs, having fun. For context, I’m early 30’s and they’re both mid 20’s.

Don was actually quite intense, he’s one of those guys that jokes non-stop, had a loud voice, and sometimes tells jokes that are a bit questionable as to whether or not it’s really a joke or if it’s something that actually happened (especially when it’s jokes about girls). So the night goes on, it seems like every pub we go to there’s at least 3 women that Don has dated before, so he’s constantly introducing us to all these different women and you can tell it’s making him horny.

So at one pub he starts “joking” about owning a flesh light and how he stuffs it between his mattress and bed frame to keep it still. Then he makes another “joke” about how his stepdad watched him masturbate recently because he kept the door open for him to see… the whole thing was weird, but I have to admit I was getting turned on.

So my friend Matt decided to leave early because it was a work night. Don asked me to hit one more bar. When we get in the bar we grab a table and instead of sitting in the seat opposite me Don sits right next to me, so we’re kind of squeezed in together.

not long after we sit down a gay older man comes up and sits opposite us and starts talking. I go to the bathroom and when I come back I join mid conversation, and as I sit down Don says to the guy “I can’t sorry, we’re in a relationship” and looks at me with a grin. The man, sensing that he’s being joked to, says “oh really?” And to that Don grabs my head and deep tongue kisses me for a good 30 seconds until the guy gets up and leaves.

He then laughs it off like nothing happened and he goes to the bathroom too. When he comes back he talks about how funny that was, then he mentioned he liked how it shocked everyone in the bar. He pointed at some girls next to us and said “let’s freak them out” and he went in for the kiss full blown and was going at it fully, I actually felt a bit self conscious and had to pull back, but he pulled me back in and started rubbing his hand up my thigh. Then when he stopped he all of a sudden flopped his dick out (cut, kind of big, not hard) and waved it around laughing then said he had an uber outside and instantly left. I’ve never heard or seen him again since that night.

the whole thing was weird.
 

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so this doesn't totally fit this thread, but i thought you all would appreciate it.

I was in a zoom meeting the other day that i was facilitating as a trainer. One of my trainees at a certain point tuned out while someone else was talking and reclined in his chair just staring at his phone. I'm pretty sure he thought he had turned video off, because as he's looking at his phone he starts to squeeze his bulge. This could not be mistaken as itching or adjusting, clearly squeezing it, and rhythmically. I turned my video off, pinned his video so it took up my whole screen, and sat and watched him. It was really hot. I think one of my other trainees noticed because she chimed in "<name> looks like you're just chillin over there aren't you?" (probably to make him aware we could see him lol). Anyway im sure it wont happen again since he was caught, but i still pin his video in meetings just in case .

For a visual: bearded, fit, light skinned black guy. super handsome, well dressed, straight.
 

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He’s married with three kids and I think it’d be awkward to see him. Our lives are completely different so instead I just feel thankful for the two years we got to spend together.
You could re-connect. Maybe he thought about you in the same way. Perhaps he'd like to meet up as well, but the same thoughts of awkwardness are in his head like they are in yours.

The reason why I say that, is because I know a lot of people who went the marriage with kids route, but have an inner self they never really explored. Outside of the many people I know personally in that situation, I have sexually been with quite a few grown, married men with families. It is surprisingly normal, and common.

For some, they have the family they always wanted. For others, they have the family everyone expected them to have. For both of those types of married guys, there is still the desire/need to have some sort of a relationship with a guy. Some find a fuck buddy who is a friend, who they can go to the gym, play racketball, play pool, whatever..but it's one guy in a similar circumstance they can trust, who outwardly looks like a normal guy doing normal things with his bud.

And then there are the guys who find anonymous, discreet sex in various other ways.

Anyway, just tossing that out there. Maybe that door isn't closed. Maybe he's in that doorway, waiting to see you again.
 

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You could re-connect. Maybe he thought about you in the same way. Perhaps he'd like to meet up as well, but the same thoughts of awkwardness are in his head like they are in yours.

The reason why I say that, is because I know a lot of people who went the marriage with kids route, but have an inner self they never really explored. Outside of the many people I know personally in that situation, I have sexually been with quite a few grown, married men with families. It is surprisingly normal, and common.

For some, they have the family they always wanted. For others, they have the family everyone expected them to have. For both of those types of married guys, there is still the desire/need to have some sort of a relationship with a guy. Some find a fuck buddy who is a friend, who they can go to the gym, play racketball, play pool, whatever..but it's one guy in a similar circumstance they can trust, who outwardly looks like a normal guy doing normal things with his bud.

And then there are the guys who find anonymous, discreet sex in various other ways.

Anyway, just tossing that out there. Maybe that door isn't closed. Maybe he's in that doorway, waiting to see you again.

I came out publicly earlier this year and he contacted me after that to offer his support but he also said he never would've guessed. I feel like this was his opening to say something but he didn't. It was probably also my opening to say something and I didn't.

Several of you have commented here and a few of you have privately tried to encourage me to talk to him. It might take me a few weeks, and some beer, but I think I will contact him and let him know how much I appreciated his support when I came out and that I really treasure and miss the time we spent together in grad school. I won't say anything too over the top. My guess is he won't say anything back that opens the door further, and I'm honestly too chicken shit to just come out and say how I really feel. Maybe I'll get lucky and he'll suggest we get together.
 

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It might take me a few weeks, and some beer, but I think I will contact him and let him know how much I appreciated his support when I came out and that I really treasure and miss the time we spent together in grad school. I won't say anything too over the top. My guess is he won't say anything back that opens the door further, and I'm honestly too chicken shit to just come out and say how I really feel.
You don't have to go all Hallmark on him. Meet up, have a couple drinks, maybe dinner and watch a game. Be friends again. Let that re-develop, in person rather than online. Get to know each other again, and wrinkle out that initial awkwardness.

The friendship you had before shows that there is something there. And when I mean "there", I mean a bond. Most friendships are very superficial. Not many are lucky enough to find what you two had. I bet it wouldn't take long at all for the two of you to connect again.

There are people in my life that I only see every couple of years, but when we meet it's like the in-between years never existed. We just pick up where we left off.

Maybe I'll get lucky and he'll suggest we get together.
Maybe he'll get lucky and you'll phone to suggest the two of you get together.

You can wait, and wait, and wait some more. Or you can just do it.
 

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You don't have to go all Hallmark on him. Meet up, have a couple drinks, maybe dinner and watch a game. Be friends again. Let that re-develop, in person rather than online. Get to know each other again, and wrinkle out that initial awkwardness.

The friendship you had before shows that there is something there. And when I mean "there", I mean a bond. Most friendships are very superficial. Not many are lucky enough to find what you two had. I bet it wouldn't take long at all for the two of you to connect again.

There are people in my life that I only see every couple of years, but when we meet it's like the in-between years never existed. We just pick up where we left off.


Maybe he'll get lucky and you'll phone to suggest the two of you get together.

You can wait, and wait, and wait some more. Or you can just do it.

I've been on both sides of this. You need to respect hi menough to know he won't freak out even if he doesn't or can't feel same way. Give straight guys more credit when they're not friends just on superficial level.
 
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I've been on both sides of this. You need to respect hi menough to know he won't freak out even if he doesn't or can't feel same way. Give straight guys more credit when they're not friends just on superficial level.

We're very keenly aware how complex and delicate this is.
 
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I hate when straight people do homoerotic stuff, not because it’s attractive, but because it’s ego-driven and manipulative, ESPECIALLY when a gay man is involved with it.
Not to mention it’s often times rooted in homophobia, because the idea of being gay is a joke to them, so they act homoerotic to mock gays, men especially.
I hate a queer baiting ass b****

I honestly hate being attracted to straight men it’s so irritating, mainly bc they kinda see me as just an achievement. They don’t want to truly bond with another person they want to know a guy wants his dick.. it’s the hard truth but it’s the truth. (Would still fuck a straight guy though)

It’s funny. As soon as I find out a guy is straight I lose all attraction to them. It could be one of the finest dudes to me, and the minute I realize that they’re straight, I literally feel nothing.
 

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I hate when straight people do homoerotic stuff, not because it’s attractive, but because it’s ego-driven and manipulative, ESPECIALLY when a gay man is involved with it.
Not to mention it’s often times rooted in homophobia, because the idea of being gay is a joke to them, so they act homoerotic to mock gays, men especially.
I hate a queer baiting ass b****



It’s funny. As soon as I find out a guy is straight I lose all attraction to them. It could be one of the finest dudes to me, and the minute I realize that they’re straight, I literally feel nothing.
So it's sort of win,win?