I'm a married guy, 45 yo and bi. My wife doesn't know about my bi side, however I don't actively look for men to have sex with. It happens if and when it happens.
Through work I met a guy who was 38 yo., that I was quite attracted to and wanted to take things further with him. However, he was married at the time, straight as they come and although open minded, had never done anything with another guy. We got on very well with one another and after about a year, we were quite close as buddies/mates.
My opportunity came when his marriage started to fall apart and he took to drinking. One day he said lets go away for a weekend, he needed to relax (a lot of arguing at home) he needed to get away from it all for a couple of days, especially from his wife and two young kids. We went to the coast, stayed in a nice hotel which had great facilities like a sauna, steam rooms, pool, jacuzzi etc. After using the facilities we went to have a shower, it was the first time I saw him naked (had wanted to for over a year) His body was just what I thought it would be. Stocky, full, hairy as hell, a lovely dad-bod. I wanted him more than I've ever wanted anyone before!
That night after both of us had drank more than I can remember, I told him I was bi. I had to, so as to push it up to the next level, to see if this was going to get me closer to my goal.
This fascinated him and he asked a lot of questions. I some how slipped it in there, that I found him attractive and wouldn't say no to him if he ever wanted to try things out.
That night it happened. Lying in bed, (blaming the booze) I blurted out how horny the booze had made me, the smell of the sea air, the overall environment etc. and how much I'd love to blow him. He said nothing. I asked him if he was hard and he quietly and very softly said come and see!
He was.
Rock hard and huge! I truly didn't expect him to be that big, but what a bonus it was. I went down on him and gave him a blow job (he later said) better than any woman had ever given him.
I was ecstatic! Finally after all this time.
We carried on every now and then, meeting up, finding opportunities to be alone and when his divorce came through, he got his own place, I'd go a spend a weekend with him every now and then and every night we'd be in bed naked together. He even attempted to blow me, (just to try it out and see what it was all about he said)
However my happiness was short lived.
Sadly, through depression of his failed marriage, unhappy and stressed at work, alcohol addiction and an erratic lifestyle, he passed away two years ago.
I was and still am, heart broken, as he was my true soul mate, best friend and secret sex mate (if one can call it that) I think of him daily and it still hurts. Miss him very much.
I have not been with another guy since, but, once again, if and when "it happens" it'll happen.